Romantic relationships are supposed to be pure bliss. They are supposed to be filled with love, trust, security, peace, patience, joy, and many other amazing things. While that does sound easy to achieve with someone one truly loves, anxiety makes a happy relationship hard to come by. Anxiety alters people’s minds in a negative way so drastically that it becomes difficult to love and be loved. Anxiety causes people to have trust issues, selfishness, and anger, although these symptoms do not have to overpower a relationship.
The foundation to a healthy relationship is trust. Without trust a relationship can be toxic and overpowered by constant worrying and fighting. In “Psychological Foundations of Trust,” Jeffry Simpson states, “Trust involves
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In “The Pursuit of Selflessness,” Joshua Becker wrote, “Selflessness is an important key to marriage, friendships, and relationships. It is also an essential key to happiness and fulfillment” (Becker). In a relationship, selflessness is putting a partners needs and happiness first a lot of the time, making compromises, and showing them unconditional love. Partners in a relationship need to be willing to make compromises with their partner no matter how much they do not want to in order to avoid unneeded fights and hard feelings between each other. This can be very difficult to do for someone with anxiety. Many people with anxiety tend to think their own needs are more important than their partners. This can threaten a relationship. In “How Anxiety Destroys Relationships (and How to Stop It),” Kristine Tye stated, “Because anxiety is an overactive fear response, someone experiencing it may at times focus too much on his or her own concerns or problems” (Tye, 2015). People with anxiety tend to worry in order to protect themselves from getting hurt. This makes it tough to get along with their significant other, and love their partner compassionately and vulnerably like they deserve. The partner that is not being treated with selfless love may even build up anger toward how their partner treats them with selfishness, and they may even start to act selfishly toward their partner in …show more content…
There are ways that a person with anxiety can help control their trust issues, anger, and selfishness. Learning to fully trust and change negative thoughts into positive thoughts is the most powerful way to start conquering anxiety. In “Trust Issues and Anxiety,” Dr. Kristina Randle wrote, “Challenging irrational beliefs and forcing yourself to believe in reality, is ultimately how one overcomes anxiety” (Randle, 2014). It is easier said than done, but someone with anxiety needs to believe that their significant other will not cheat if their partner has never given them a reason not to trust them. If one stops believing unrealistic ideas that they make up in their mind about what their partner could be doing behind their back, it will save a lot of worrying and unnecessary fights. It is also a good idea to notice when one is lacking empathy to their partner. Apologize for being self-absorbed, and show more compassion to make up for it. It is important to refrain from overpowering of negative thoughts, which leads to anger. A good way to avoid so many negative thoughts is to exercise daily to let out energy and take deep breaths when one’s mind becomes overwhelmed with bad thoughts. If it seems impossible to overcome anxiety alone, it is best to talk to a psychological therapist who can retrain thinking into positive thoughts and help eliminate insecurities by
It is never pleasant to feel anxious or distressed for any reason. However, there are several people who are diagnosed with anxiety disorders as they are very prevalent today. Mental health professionals are helping people overcome hurdles such as panic attacks, severe worry, social anxiety and other specific phobias. I think that anxiety is an emotion that everyone experiences at one time or another in their life. Anxiety can have a negative effect on an individual if it interferes with one’s daily routine and keeps them from doing what they normally do.
Those whom are living with anxiety often are fighting it alone and have no one by their side. Often times those people will put a wall up so that others can't tell that they are suffering, they act like everything is fine and they are indestructible. In reality their anxiety is eating away at them.
Anxious attachments occur when the partners are constantly looking towards emotional support rather than develop individual personalities which leads them into being often seen as desperate or insecure in their relationships. The partners are always looking for opportunities of expressing distrust and blaming the other
Having anxiety is like fighting Grendel’s vengeful mother. Even though Grendel’s mother isn’t the worse battle that Beowulf faces, it isn’t the easiest battle he faces either. That’s the same thing with anxiety; is that it’s not the worse challenge I face, but it is also no the easiest. Throughout the fight with Grendel’s mother, Beowulf faced anxiety when he feared that he “would earn no glory.” That’s how I feel when I think that I don’t do a good enough job or that I am not good enough. When something happens that sparks my anxiety, I only sometimes only worry about that and “care about nothing else.” But also sometimes with anxiety I worry about everything at one time. Like how Beowulf “sank through the waves” and then all of a sudden Grendel’s mother “welcomed him in her claws.” Going through the water was worrying, but when he hit the bottom he had something hit him all at once. So Beowulf and anxiety both eventually hit rough spots, but after the challenge we win the battle.
Ziad K. Abdelnour, the CEO of a private investment firm, states that, “Trust is earned, respect is given, and loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any one of those is to lose all three.” This quote in two sentences speaks volume to the reader. Trust is an important and key component to any relationship. Whether you are married, have a mutual relationship, a friendship, or just a family member; trust plays a key part in the relationship. Without trust relationships crumble.
Trust is the one thing in this world that lots of people desire. Who wants to have any type of relationship without trust? It is not something that should be automatically given though, trust has to be earned. People should not automatically trust just because they know them or have been knowing them for a while.
Physical health and mental health go hand in hand. Exercising on a regular basis and eating a balanced diet can help reduce anxiety. Avoiding processed sugars and foods and sticking to a balanced diet may not cure anxiety but my help reduce it. Getting your body dynamic, particularly through oxygen consuming activity, discharges endorphins that are in charge of expanding your sentiments of peace and happiness. One should also avoid stimulants like nicotine that tend to make someone tense. Some people believe that smoking makes them calm while in actual sense, nicotine dependence increases feelings of anxiety and stress if one cannot access a cigarette (Hofmann et al,
Do you know what it feels like to have your palms sweat, throat close up, and your fingers tremble? This is the everyday life of someone who lives with anxiety. As soon as I wake up in the morning, I hear my brain freaking out about the day ahead of me. What do I eat for breakfast? What do I do first when I get home from school? What happens if I get in a car crash on my way to school? A million thoughts at one time racing through my head. I never have the time to process all of them. Most mornings, I lay in my bed and have to take a few deep breaths to begin my hectic but not so hectic day. That’s just the beginning. It’s safe to say that I feel that I 'm an anxious person and that I have an anxiety disorder.
Throughout our lifetime we have all had anxiety, and we can all agree it’s not the best feeling in the world. Anxiety makes us live in constant fear of worries about what may or may not happen. However, the results may not always turn out to be what we desire. The majority of people with anxiety go out in search for treatments, or medications to help cope with anxiety. Living with constant fear of everything holds a person back of all the opportunities that are offered to them because of skepticism, and because of skepticism it makes a person worry which leads back to fear, which causes anxiety. Anxiety goes on and on it’s a feeling of a never ending tunnel. So what kind of drugs or kind forms of therapy can help administer anxiety?
As a society, we tend to seek help only when we are in distress or crisis, in relationships we need to focus on how we can prevent these issues from arising. We often do this because it is much easier for us to be reactive during a conflict than to take preventive actions. For example, in the TV show Grey’s Anatomy, Cristina and Burke would often get into conflicts due to the constant clash of their competitive personalities. The constant distress and conflict ultimately resulted in Burke leaving Cristina at the altar. However, their relationship had many positive elements and could have continued if they had taken appropriate measures to prevent and manage conflict. Successful relationships require both partners to be able to engage in actions
I used to have a lot of trouble with Anxiety and Depression, these troubles caused me to feel handicapped through life and felt like many things I did were just too hard to deal with, even the most simple of things. In the past year I learned that you cannot let Anxiety and Depression control your life. These things can only control your life, if you allow them to control your life; and after being on anxiety and depression medication for years, I am finally coming off of the anxiety medication.
...t around trust. If a relationship has no trust then that relationship will eventually reach the terminating stage. The terminating stage is the “break up” stage. A couple is at their lowest point in this stage. Most of the time, a relationship doesn’t work out once it enter into this stage. However, if an individual really want that relationship then he or she will do whatever it takes to get the relationship back to where it needs to be in order for both of the individuals to be happy again. The relationship will never be the same and each person will always look back into the past. My relationship is definitely not perfect. Jamaal and I have had s many problems, but with faith and communication we made it work. Communication is the key to any healthy relationship. The way a couple talk to each other, interact, and solve disagreements is communication.
It takes more than words to create a safe, exciting and secure relationship. Too often the signals we send are not those we intend to send. When this happens, both connection and trust are lost in our relationships.
It is very common, in this era of self-help and pop-psychology, for authors to promise great and extravagant miracles from their books, books that turn out to be useless, filled with airy sentences and vacuous instructions. Dr. Aaron T. Beck is not one of those authors, and his book, Love is Never Enough, is not one of those books. Dr. Beck, considered to be the father of cognitive therapy, has applied his years of experience at the forefront of psychology into a well articulated book that, unlike many of it's contemporaries, can truly help people. Dr. Beck provides an expansive insight into couple's erroneous thought patterns that can lead to unnecessary, harmful and possibly devastating situations.
“Relationships are what make up our world today, they shape the ways we see things and the way that we do things, relationships affect how we see the world today”. I believe supporting what your partner does, having a great sum of trust and showing your affections towards your partner is what will make a healthy relationship great.