Becoming A Single Mom

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Imagine your six year old daughter; come to you to ask you “why did daddy leave us”? How do you explain? This is all too familiar to many families around the world, just so happened this is my story. The life of been a single mom is far too common today. Of all single-parent families in the U.S., it’s sad to say that single mothers are considered the majority. After a few life changing events, such as the divorce from my husband lead me to this positions now I found myself included into this majority. The one thing that I have realized since becoming a single parent is that the struggle is hard but manageable; and with every struggle I find a victory waiting on the other side. There are many obstacles that attach themselves to the role of a …show more content…

10 years of marriage and having children and now I feel like I haven 't accomplished anything in my life due to supporting my husband and caring for my children. My husband did not want me to work; therefor I had little to no work experience and no money of my own. All of my worldly possessions belonged to him. Making the transition from military wife to single parent at the time left me in a state of depression, for almost 2 years. I struggle to get back on my feet, by finding work was extremely difficult due to lack of skills, daycare expenses, and not been flexible with hours. I was so mad at myself and disappointed at myself.
Granted being a single parent bring about many trials and tribulations, however the most refreshing moment I can truly recall is being financially stable enough to purchase my first vehicle. No more thumbing for rides, no more asking family for a ride to work, and no more worrying about how I will get my children to the doctor. To many people this is such a small accomplishment; however, this was one of my most rewarding accomplishments for me at that time in my life. The moment you can actually afford to cover your needs on your own, is extraordinary

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