Each person in today’s society has a different definition of love. One’s idea of love
is determined by his or her experiences, emotions, and influences. This definition is
pondered and revised an infinite number of times throughout one’s life. The meaning
changes as he or she experiences different relationships based on love: parent-child,
priest-parishioner, teacher-student, pet-owner. These relationships alter perspectives on the meaning of love. Oftentimes, an experience causes a person to incorrectly, or
unhealthily, define love; however, my experiences have caused me to have a healthy and
positive definition of love. Since each relationship is characterized by a different kind of love, each person has various definitions for this emotion. Mother-daughter love has greatly shaped my life. In my experience as a daughter and also by observing relationships in society, I have learned that the main role of a parent is to protect and teach their child in order to prepare them for the world which they will enter as an adult. This need to protect and guide a child is encompassed by the definition of mother-daughter love. I define love as an unconditional concern for a daughter, characterized by the desire to guide her and protect her from unhappiness and hurt while allowing her room to make her own decisions and mistakes. This love is unconditional because however her daughter acts, feels, or lives, a mother provides support and compassion for her child. In order for this love to be healthy, the mother’s need to protect her child must be balanced with the realization that her daughter needs room to make her own decisions and mistakes. This is what separa...
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... with possessive love, many mothers are guilty of depriving their daughters of a sense of self and a chance to make their own decisions and mistakes. This control and lack of space can negatively affect a child with effects which may manifest as early as childhood or as late as adulthood. However, this unhealthy love seems to pass from mother to daughter causing a disastrous domino effect if not stopped. All mothers are
given a gift. It is a shame that some do not give this gift ample room to grow and develop in a way which would be satisfying to both the daughter and mother.
Morrison, Toni. Beloved. New York: Plume Printing, 1987.
Secrets and Lies. Dir. Mike Leigh. Perf. Brenda Blethyn and Marianne Jean-Baptiste. Simon Channing-Williams, 1997
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