Secrets and Lies
Throughout our lives we are shaped and molded by our friends and family. They have a lasting affect that can shape our mind and our self. Self is determined by the combination of selves that surround a person on a daily basis. From the childhood friends that we try so hard to hang on to as we journey farther and farther into the real world, to the hated boss and teachers that haunt our mind as we lie awake in our beds at nighttime, we are a product of all those selves. It is the self that determines the course of actions that are taken. Our Actions offer a window into our selves. The actions or reactions toward tragedies, celebrations, disappointments and the occasional lucky break all reflections of our self. Every one of us has a different self, because no one knows the exact same people as someone else. I believe our self contains our values and beliefs. All of our priorities, goals and aspirations we have for ourselves stem directly from the self. Our reactions are also a window into our self. In my opinion, self is a giant jigsaw-puzzle. It is filled with different pieces of others selves that we have interacted with throughout our life, that combine to make one big picture, our self. I have taken pieces of many people who I have encountered throughout my life. My three older brothers influenced major pieces of my self. The pieces of their selves have "fit" into my jigsaw-puzzle self, and complete my total picture. Without force, or a conscious effort by my brothers, the certain pieces of their selves have naturally configured to form my self.
In Secrets and Lie...
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...some are our parents, and some are both. We are shown how to act, and how to react. The people in our childhood plant the seeds of our beliefs and values, hoping that they will grow into a healthy and complete self. We are also vulnerable to the detrimental pieces of selves that surround us daily. An abundance of these pieces can lead to the formation of an adequate self. A picture with missing pieces and broken edges. The self is a jigsaw-puzzle, a combination of different selves that form into a bigger picture. Some pieces will be lost, others will be found, but in the end a picture is always produced. The picture of our values. The picture of our beliefs. The picture, so unique one no else can replicate it. The picture of who we are and what we are. The picture of our selves.
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