Premarital Sex
The controversy over premarital sex has never been more profound than it is today. The very mention of the word brings forth radically different reactions. At one time, the very subject of sex was taboo, and then the sexual revolution was introduced as a time when people were unrestrained and open to explore their sexuality. Today, many have become so inordinately apprehensive about sexually related diseases that they perceive premarital sex as totally foolhardy. I am of the opinion that the decision to engage in premarital sex should not be condemned by either faction. The ultimate determination is a totally personal decision that must be thoroughly contemplated with a clear rationale. However, I do believe that a return to the simpler morals of past generations would help alleviate many of the stresses which are added to young, unmarried people today.
People today are not as stiff and rigid as the "Happy Days" era. Old movies, television shows, and even discussion with the older generation tells us that sex was not a popular subject. The word sex, itself, was taboo.
In the sixties, there was an entire revolution dedicated to sexual freedom. It wasn't until then that "sex" became a word that could even be spoken aloud. "Make love nor war" was the slogan of the day. The practice of "free love" was commonplace.
Today, people are so concerned about sexually transmitted diseases that even bringing the word "sex" out into the open has to be accompanied with a sex education discussion. My generation has been bombarded with so many safe sex seminars that one would think we have that aspect totally under control. There are still people out there who do not listen to the warnings and find themselves ru...
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...s another into a single union Thus sex without marriage and the lifetime promise of physical, spiritual, and emotional support violates this united relationship.
Second, intimacy suggests a level of personal, physical, spiritual, and psychological commitment that only a marriage can provide.
And third, intimacy suggests a type of love, the kind of good and self-giving love, not a type of love that wells up from our inner lusts and biological desires.
In the end, there is nothing wrong with the desires we feel -- indeed, we couldn't stop them if we wanted to. But sex wasn't created to be a recreational outlet for the uninitiated, but the fruit of the promise of a lifetime's commitment of one to another. And with all the baggage of shame society can load on us, it really is worth the wait.
People that grew up in the sixties experienced different values and morals. Parents were more strict when it came to rules. Children never stayed out past dark and always came home at a decent time on school nights. People would never question their parents and especially not their teachers People then were almost always married before having children. Having a child outside of marriage was very frowned upon and not
Since the HIV/AIDS epidemic began in the U.S. in the early 1980s the issue of sex education for American youth has had the attention of the nation. There are about 400,000 teen births every year in the U.S, with about 9 billion in associated public costs. STI contraction in general, as well as teen pregnancy, have put the subject even more so on the forefront of the nation’s leading issues. The approach and method for proper and effective sex education has been hotly debated. Some believe that teaching abstinence-only until marriage is the best method while others believe that a more comprehensive approach, which includes abstinence promotion as well as contraceptive information, is necessary. Abstinence-only program curriculums disregard medical ethics and scientific accuracy, and have been empirically proven to be ineffective; therefore, comprehensive sex education programs which are medically accurate, science-based and empirically proven should be the standard method of sex education for students/children in the U.S.
The government, however, wasn’t condoning sex with the free condoms. Printed on the condoms was “ for prevention of disease only”. The government was only using birth control to stop VD not pregnancy. After World War I the GI’s that came home used the information they learned in the sexual education classes in boot camp and put them to work. With the knowledge of the condom and the recent invention of the car, premarital sex was widely practiced. The women of post World War I had twice as much sex as their mothers had had. Many people in the early 1900’s said sex was not only for reproduction but for pleasure as well. The psychologist Sigmund Freud said sex was a natural human behavior. He said that every normal human had a natural biological sex drive. Another person who contradicted the idea of sex only for marriage and babies was Havloc Ellis.
An intimate relationship is those which include romantic partners. These relationships expected to last the entire life of the two parties, especially where it leads to marriage. In such connection, utmost trust, faithfulness, and fidelity to the other parties play an essential role.
A report published by the U.S Department of Health and Human Accommodations “suggests that as many as 50% of all adolescents are sexually active” (White, 2008, p. 349). A portion of those are puerile women who will become pregnant, adolescent men who will contract a sexually transmitted disease (STD) and teenagers who will suffer from emotional distress and regret. Albeit the majority concurs inculcation is the solution to this dilemma, one q...
Two drastic Emergency Room cases were handled in 1998 at Mary Washington Hospital. Concerned mothers brought their 12 year old daughters into the hospital thinking they were suffering from severe stomach pain or even appendicitis…both girls were actually in labor (Abstinence, 2002). The United States has the highest teen pregnancy, birth, and abortion rates in the Western world (Planned Parenthood, 2003). Are teens getting enough knowledge on sex and how to prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancies? Another heartbreaking statistic is that teenagers have the highest rate of STDs of any age group, with one in four young people contracting an STD by the age of 21 (Sex-Ed Work, 2003). Is sex education really working in school? Or do we need to change the type of curricula that is taught? There is no question that sex education should be taught in schools, but the question is how? The purpose of this paper is to determine which curricula of sex education should be taught in schools to be most effective in lowering STD and pregnancy rates among teenagers.
Looking at our past, there have been dramatic changes in the way humans view sex. Long before the 1900s individuals framed their views based on the religious institution. Due to the fact that they strongly centered their idea of sexual thought on religion, they believed that the only purpose of having sex was to procreate. As the 1920’s approached, there were various factors that changed the way individuals viewed sex. The “new women” known, as flappers were women who were confident in who they were. They changed their attire as well as their social attitude. In the 1920s, the flappers redefined sex; customs and traditions were broken and new norms were created by society.
American culture is very sexually oriented. Sex can be seen all over the media. Charles Krauthammer stated, "Sex oozes from every pore of the culture and there's not a kid in the world who can avoid it"(Bender).
With intimacy and compassion, there is Romantic love, which consists of intimacy and passion. There is no commitment. These lovers are have the closeness and share a bond. They also have deep feelings for the other. Commitment is absent. Frank Sinatra, Under my skin, say’s I’ve got you under my skin I’ve got you deep in my heart So deep in my heart that you're apart of me. This really explains the intimacy and compassion that one share’s with this kind of
In his theory, proposed three major essential components of love. The components are intimacy, passion and commitment.Intimacy which is encompasses with the feelings of closeness and connectedness of one’s experiences in loving relationships. Thus it includes within its range of experience of thought and those feelings that give rise, indispensable to the experience of warmth in a loving relationship. Passion, which is encompasses with the drives that lead to romance, physical and sexual attraction and related phenomena in love relationships. The passion component thus incorporates within its purview of those sources of motivational and other forms of arousal that guide to the experience of passion in a love relationship, and commitment is the decision to love someone and maintain that love. The decision/commitment component is described on a short term and long term basis. The decision that one loves someone else is short-term and commitment to maintain that love is long-term basis. The decision/commitment component thus includes within its range of the cognitive elements that are involved in decision making about the existence of and potential long-term commitment to a love relationship. The amount of love one that experiences depends on the strength of these three components and these three components of love also differ in their commonality over loving relationships. The intimacy component appears to be
Sex is not something to be taken lightly. It is not something to engage in with that attractive person you met last night, or your significant other of barely two weeks. It should not be considered without discussing the potential consequences and without being ready to entrust oneself completely to another human being. Just because sex need not be reserved for marriage, this does not mean that it is something to undertake flippantly and unconscientiously.
...and number of partners factors were entered, which were mania, storge, and agape, were the relationships that consisted of a special intimacy shared by partners, and therefore, were probably the most satisfying. However, from and experiential point of view, I personally feel that in each relationship, all six of the love styles are present at some point in the relationship. For example, ludus, which is the non-commitment love style, is existent in the commencing of relationships, and mania becomes present as feelings increase and ludus decreases, and the overall strive is to get pass all of these to positively reach the eros style of love where passion as well as lust is present and stays to maintain an level of sexual attractability to partners involved in relationships. And after this stage of love is present, partner engagement style of sex will be attainable.
Teenage pregnancy has always been present in society. There is research stating that about half the women, born between 1900- 1910, who were interviewed were non-virginal at marriage (17 Ravoira). This contradicts some thoughts that premarital sexual behavior is something new. There was another study done in 1953, it found that one fifth of all first births to women were conceived before marriage (17 Ravoira). Even before our modern openness in discussing sexual behavior and acceptance that it does occur, it was quite routine. In earlier society, the incidence of teenage pregnancy was a moral problem. This was because people looked at the child as filius nullius (nobody's child), or illegitimate and the mother as bad, immoral, over- sexed, etc. (18 Ravoira). The child was being blamed for mearly being born, this is unfair to the child who had no fault in the matter (18 Ravoira). The real problem that was seen was the fact that the children were born out-of-wedlock. People seemed to have real difficulty accepting that the baby is still a baby no matter what conditions it was born under.
Sex, or sexual intercourse is denoted as penile-vaginal penetration .It is a physical and physiological basic need of human beings, equally important as eating, drinking, breathing, and sleeping. It can also be a beautiful and unforgettable experience, even doing it without marrying. Therapists have long known that couples who have more, and better, sex are happier and more stable.Although other people suggest that adults should abstain from sex before marriage as love is more important, avoid unwanted pregnancies or diseases, and unacceptable by society, there are reasons for encouraging sex before marriage.
Sex before marriage is very often a touchy subject. However, I feel that sex before marriage is a very important subject that is not brought up and talked about enough. There are many different viewpoints brought to the table when talking about this particular subject. The standards of society are constantly changing. One sign of this change is that nowadays many young adults seem to be open to premarital sex. Although I have heard many good arguments from people both pro- and anti- sex before marriage, I have yet to change my stance on this matter. In my opinion, having sexual intercourse before getting married is absolutely a bad tendency in our society.