In today 's society human beings truly aren 't themselves throughout the day. Humans go throughout the day performing daily activities such as going to school, work or going on a date and feel the need to act a certain way. There is a human instinct that tells the individual to act a certain way and to not truly be themselves so it is easier to go throughout the day by fitting in much more appropriately. This thrive to fit in is also known as the thrive to belong. There is no one correct way to belong into a certain category, class or relationship. All humans perceive the act of belonging to be accomplished by very different actions. Physical appearance, financial status and the amount of education one possesses contributes to the way one feels …show more content…
Therefore, a person may feel as if they belong well in society is because they possess a talent while growing up. Possessing a talent is one of the most beneficial traits a child could have. Talents range from person to person and from family to family. Each talent an individual holds is unique. One family or person can believe being talented is being able to play instruments very well while another family or person believes being talented is being the star player on a sport or cheerleading team. While raising children, many parents feel as if their children should possess a talent and if they don 't than they will have a hard time going through out their normal days at school because they will not fit in and belong with the other children. This fear that comes from a parent of their child not possessing a talent is derived off the fear that without a talent their child will not belong or fit in well at school with the rest of the children. It is important to parents that their children belong to certain groups whether it be from a having a talent in music or being talented athletic wise because they want the best for their children. In “Two Kinds”, Mrs. Woo pushes her daughter to learn the piano and is not very lenient when Jing-mei does not want to practice playing the …show more content…
Skin color is one of the first things people notice when they meet a new human being and if their skin isn 't the same as the color of the skin that populates majority of the area there is an automatic sense of not belonging from the individual. Out of all the previous reasons feeling as if one does not belong this is the most realistic reason. Lahiri , an amazing author who has so much confidence and so much love from the world and her family, feels as if she doesn 't always belong in regards to where she is traveling .For example she went to Italy. She was nervous because she was a darker and possessed a different skin color and language from the humans who reside in Italy. She didn 't let her skin color and language stop her from traveling. She had to find her own belonging and get over the fact that she isn 't the same look as them and her Italian will never be as good but she found her belonging and pushed through the trip and came upon success at the end of the journey.
Another point I agree with is that it's a lot easier to just fit in and not lead the train and being yourself. I personally know from experience. Growing up I always tried to conform just to fit in with the people that surrounded me. It's not just me that i've seen conform to fit in, i've seen many of my friends conform to fit in with the crowd. All around me, everyday people are conforming and changing to fit in with the society.
Like most humans, we all want to be accepted by society. The way we look, dress, or even how intellectual we are, we are judged by these factors. We either become one of the following things and have “meaning” to this world, but if we are not, then we then succumb to our depravity. “Unable to endure
Being an individual is difficult. The book “the chocolate war” approaches this topic of debate well. The author of the book, Robert Cormier, made the main character of his story experience this all too well. Jerry Renault, a skinny freshman football player tried to be different from everyone else but did that sure take him on a ride. Trying to be a apart from everyone has its ups and down. This is explained more further on.
The feeling of fitting in is something that most people look for at least once in their life. Some people want to be liked by others. While the few that do not care if people like them just want to be comfortable with themselves, but there are a few that do not fit in either of these categories. There is a few people in this world that just feel as if they do not matter in society; some may not care if they do not matter but, some dwell on the fact that they have no impact on the world in any way. Both Krebs, from “Soldiers Home,” by Ernest Hemingway and Sammy from John Updike’s “A&P,” feel as if they do not matter in society.
Similar to the author of “Sonnet, With Bird” Sherman Alexie felt when he traveled to England. Mr.Alexie quoted “” I am the only Indian in this country right now. I’m the only Indian within a five-thousand-mile circle.””(pg.214) which shows how he feels like he doesn’t belong. This may be the case for people who have moved to a new part of the world that is unknown to them or to someone visiting another area that they do not know. As for the people who have lived in a certain area who see newcomers, may see them as outsiders because technically they are coming into a new place which would make them outsiders. Another example would be Dre Parker from the movie “the Karate Kid”(2010 version) how in a part of the movie he expresses how much he dislikes living in China and how he doesn’t belong there. Dre Parker is treated badly by the other younglings that have lived their beforehand by beating him up and excluding him from their
In many cases, people feel that they have a unique identity, but that they can’t express that identity, due to various pressures. There are many obstacles that could possibly prevent people from expressing their true selves. In modern society, conforming to the “norm” is a huge aspect of this and often causes problems. People are heavily influenced by external forces: their peers and family. These external aspects of peoples’ daily lives often become obstacles, preventing people from being their unique selves. People fear of being viewed poorly which causes conformity.
Belongingness: the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group. Many people argue whether humans need to belong or not however there are many reasons why they should. Belongingness, also commonly referred to as connectedness, is extremely important in a teenagers life and if one doesn't feel like he belongs he/she may become less engaged in school and not as social. Also the feeling of not belonging can increase the chances of an individual becoming depressed. Another reason why humans should feel like they belong is because if not many can feel suicidal and might act upon it. Belongingness is a necessary human emotion that everyone should experience.
Everyone has a talent but some talents show more than others and defiantly impact your life more than others might. My talent that has greatly impacted my life is music and public speaking. These talents have greatly impacted my life because this is a part of my career and they will change my life forever so the fact that I enjoy it makes my life that much better.
...conform to their peers when they are uncertain about their social identity and when they are in the presence of someone they perceive to have higher status than they do (Santrock, 2012).
Jing-Mei tries to live up to her mother’s expectations but feels that her mother expects more from her than she can deliver. She doesn’t understand why her mother is always trying to change her and won’t accept her for who she is. She feels pressure from her family when she is compared to her cousin Waverly and all her accomplishments. Soon the conflict grows to resentment as her mother tests her daily on academics, eventually causing Jing-Mei to give up while her mother struggles to get her attention and cooperation. Her mother avoids arguing with her daughter early in the story, continuing to encourage her to strive for fame. Her mother’s next assignment for her daughter is piano lessons. This goes along pretty well until her mother forces her to participate in a talent show. The daughter’s failure on her performance at the talent show causes embarrassment to her mother. Conflict is evident when two days later, after the talent show, she reminds her daughter that it’s time for piano practice and the daughter refuses to obey her mother. The conflict that the daughter feels boils over in an outburst of anger and resentment towards her mother for trying to make her something that she is not. Harsh words are spoken causing the mother to retreat and not speak of this event ever
You are as others see you, yet others do not always see you as you are. With the importance others play on the sense of identity, it's no wonder that peers influence the minds of individuals early on in life. As young toddlers, children do not recognize biological
"Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth." John F. Kennedy. When we allow ourselves to conform to what our friends, family or society asks of us, we lose the ability to grow into our own persons. Conformity, however, is more than just the 13 year old middle school girl wearing UGG Boots and an Abercrombie hoodie in order to fit in. It is more then only listening to the top 40 radio stations and watching American Idol so you have something to add to the conversation that your co- workers are having over stale, company supplied coffee. Conformity is a killer. It attacks the week and strangles them until their true self dies and a new person is created. This new person disregards all values they once held in high regard and will do anything to not be perceived as different. The funny thing about this killer is people are more than willing to give into his pressure in order to seem "normal". Sometimes it is easier to be obedient and do and feel as people say you should in order to avoid trouble. Sometimes it is easier to blend in to the crowd then to be crucified for being different. Why would anyone really want to be different? Society tells us different is bad. Different is weird. We are taught from the beginning that different is not what you want to be, it's not a safe bet. So people are willing to give in to the pressures of society in order to be "safe". People's willingness to give into conformity is shown in the literary pieces entitled "What is a homosexual?" by Andrew Sullivan and "Salvation" by Langston Hughes. Both show what great lengths people will go to in order to slide under the radar of public opinion and criticism.
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" Ralph Waldo Emerson. We live in a world where society tells you to be yourself and then judges you. We love in a constant fear of being judged or called a weirdo. Though the barons that hold us to this conformity are strong, many manage to break through. No other person in this universe is exactly like you. Everyone has a different quality to bring to the table and that is what makes out world such a diverse place. Embracing your assets to society and not trying to imitate someone else will not only change your outlook on certain situations but on your life as a whole.
It is important to understand the many different methods of educating gifted and talented students. Most people, whether as teachers, students, or parents, will at some point be faced with the many options of educating the gifted and talented. In the United States today, 3-5 percent of students are considered gifted. Defining whether or not a student is gifted can be quite difficult, but many would agree that gifted students “are able to learn material rapidly and understand concepts deeply” (Lynch, 1999). Within this paper I will discuss the process of identifying gifted and talented students and the different methods of educating them including tracking, grade advancement, and cooperative learning. Of these three methods I believe the most effective method used to teach gifted and talented students is tracking.
To feel that we belong to society we create and style our exterior look to make an impression and help others understand who we feel we are. How we want to look in society is the way we express our personali...