Personal Statement : Gendered Self

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Gendered Self
I feel like being a straight female is totally acceptable in our society. It would probably be even better if I were bisexual because I think that males find it more attractive when females are going after females but still want a penis. I totally understand that I am female inside and out. I don’t exactly fit the “norms” to be a female though as my personality might give someone a bit of a hard time placing me into the category, male or female. I like playing in the mud but at the same time, I am so cool with going dress shopping and doing my nails and hair. I am totally fine with who I am though.
Being female in my society does not necessarily mean that you are the one who cooks, cleans and raising children, but it is implied that you will be the one who stays home and does those things. Just the other day, I called my aunt to see if she wanted to meet up for a cup of tea at Starbucks, mind you it was around five in the afternoon, but she said that she had to cook and make sure that everything was ready for her husband’s approval. She was being an example of the domestic housewife even though she has a job, just like him and gets off just an hour earlier than her husband. I was shocked to hear that she is still attempting to reform to this old fashioned style of thinking. It was almost as though she were afraid of receiving his criticism.
The way I act towards others has always been a bit immature, as though I were still in adolescence. Towards females, I tend to be a bit cautious as though they are trying to take something from me and I don’t trust them. It is not as though they are above me like a man would be but I have self confidence problems. Towards males, I always am a bit shy and am often tripping up o...

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...ple for who they are not what they are. We are raised to be perfect people that fit into a white supremacist nation. We are taught in that, "...God made homosexuality a sin...", by Karslake in his film (2007, “For The Bible Tells Me So”). Women are acceptable to be lesbians where men are not because women can be "attention getting" for men OR trying to please themselves. I was also influenced by Sage’s presentation in class. I thought it was interesting to learn about my kinks (Byars).
This paper was both challenging and simple to write. I find it hard to think about some of the things I am asked to describe here because of my character. I like to live simply. I do not feel the need to go into every little detail as I have done here. On the other hand, I think it is easy because I know who I am now. I feel like this class has given me a better understanding of self.

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