I grew up in household of strong personalities. In that environment just about everyone, except for my mother, communicated without much concern for how the message would be received on the other end. In fact, making jokes about each other’s flaws was considered funny and it was a challenge to see who was quick enough to make a witty comeback.
This way of communicating became normal to me in our household, but unfortunately this method didn’t work to well for me in the “real world”. I recall many occasions when teachers and friend would pull me aside to talk to me about not being so direct in order to avoid offending other. I wish I could say that I was responsive, but I wasn’t. I would get very frustrated because I felt entitled to speak my mind about anything and anyone. I also felt like no one cared when someone hurt my feelings and made jokes about me – so in my mind, I was justified to be that way.
Well, due to my stubbornness, I experienced tons of broken friendship that my pride wouldn’t allow me to restore. Although it hurt at times, I’d cover up my true feelings with an attitude and constantly ended friendships when there was a disagreement. Needless to say, my unforgiveness only amplified my feelings of hurt, bitterness, and so many other unpleasant emotions. Eventually I carried this unhealthy behavior into adulthood and into my faith walk with Jesus.
Now isn’t that funny…I loved God, but my relationship with people was horrible. I was guarded, defensive, and critical. If you are wondering how it could be that I lived like this as a Christian, I must remind you that salvation is a daily walk of surrender (Philippians 2:12). This dysfunctional mindset about other people was just one of the many la...
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Forgive – Do not speak about the issue or that person in a negative light anymore. Also, do not discuss your meeting of reconciliation in terms to make yourself seem like the “Bigger person”. If at anytime you get the urge to speak negatively about that person, pray for them instead and also pray for your heart to continue to heal beyond that issue.
Now that you’ve read through the above, I encourage you to quietly sit and allow the Lord to reveal anyone that you need to reconcile with. As these come to mind write them down as a commitment to follow through with the call to reconciliation. Trust and believe that once all unforgiveness and offense has been released you will experience the greatest release of freedom. And if that alone isn’t worth it, according to the word, you will also experience a more effective and powerful prayer life.
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