Introduction Parenting styles have been widely defined by Baumrind into three categories, authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. Parenting styles can be defined as a pattern of attitudes in how parents choose to express and communicate with their children. These styles are categorized based on the level of nurturance, parental control and level of responsiveness (Dwairy, 2004). Authoritative style exhibits high levels of demand, responsiveness and nurturance; authoritarian style exhibits high levels of demand but low levels of responsiveness, permissive style exhibits low levels of demand but high in responsiveness and nurturance (Dwairy, 2004). These parenting styles have been proposed to have a significant impact on a child’s development as well as academic achievement and psychological well-being. Children reared by authoritative parents are stated to have the highest levels of academic achievement, self-esteem, emotional adjustment and well-being according to Baumrind’s category of styles (Dwairy, 2004). However, these three categories are based on Western samples and have been said to describe parenting styles mainly in the West and question its limitations in describing parenting across cultures, as each style’s defining patterns may have different meanings across cultures. Article Reviews The study conducted by Li, Costanzo and Putallaz examined the relationship between parenting styles, socialization goals and social-emotional adjustment amid Chinese and European American young adults. The article states that European American parents emphasize self-development goals in their children more so than Chinese parents as Western culture is more individualistic than collectivistic (Li, Costanzo & Putall... ... middle of paper ... ...les it can be concluded that the concept of parenting styles universally exists as each culture exhibited a pattern of childrearing but the behavior and meaning that constitutes a category of parenting style differs across cultures. References Chao, R. K. (1994). Beyond parental control and authoritarian parenting style: Understanding chinese parenting through the cultural notion of training. Society for Research in Child Development, 65(4), 1111-1119. Dwairy, M. (2004). Parenting styles and mental health of palestinian–arab adolescents in israel. Transcultural Psychiatry, 41(2), 233-252. Li, Y., Costanzo, P. R., & Putallaz, M. (2010). Maternal socialization goals, parenting styles, and social-emotional adjustment among chinese and european american young adults: Testing a mediation model. The Journal of Genetic Psychology, 171(4), 330-362.
“In one study of 50 Western American mothers and 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, almost 70% of the Western mothers said either that ‘stressing academic success is not good for children’ or that ‘parents need to foster the idea that learning is fun.’ By contrast, roughly 0% of the Chinese mothers felt the same way. Instead, the vast majority of the Chinese mothers said that they believe their children can be ‘the best’ students, that ‘academic achievement reflects successful parenting,’ and that if children did not excel at school then there was ‘a problem’ and parents ‘were not doing their job.’ … Chinese parents spend approximately ten times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children. By contrast, Western kids are more likely to participate in sports teams” (Chua 5). Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua is an engulfing novel which clearly distinguishes the difference between Western style of parenting and the Chinese style of parenting. The quote stated above shows some of the statistics that we completed to write this book. The story is a breathless and emotional memoir of Amy Chua, consisting mostly her two daughters and husband. While the Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother appears to be about the battle between a parent and a child and the relationship they share, the author, Amy Chua, has actually implied that it is important for the children to start developing skills early on to benefit in the future as well as be successful in their lives.
Zhao, L. 2006. Woguo chengshi diyidai dushengziyu fumu de shengming li cheng: cong zhongnian kongchao jiating de chuxian tanqi [The Life Course of Parents of First Generation Only Children in Urban China: A Discussion About Empty-Nest Families of Middle-Adulthood]. Youth Studies 6
The article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” by Amy Chua demonstrates the two different mind sets of parenting: Chinese parenting and Western approach to parenting. In my view, Chinese parenting is very strict about school work and extracurricular activities such as pianos and violins. For example, if we compare the two different sets of parenting; Chua says, for instance that Western parents believe that they are strict by forcing their kids practice their instruments for 30 minutes a day at most to an hour. This is nothing compared to the Chinese parents that would say the first hour of practice is easy it’s the second or third hour that gets tough (Chua 2011). This shows how forcefully strict the Chinese parents are compared to Western parents. The Chinese parents would say anything that really has to be said to their kid’s straight forward, but the Westerns would go about telling their kids, so it won’t hurt their feelings or their self-esteem. A few of these examples come to show that Chinese parents have intelligent kids, but are they intelligent enough for society? In other words are these Chinese children capable to work in group projects compared to an American kid that lives the usually life as a kid; like going to sleepovers and participating in different school activities. This is what David Brooks actually discusses about in his article “Amy Chua Is a Wimp”, says that Amy Chua’s way of parenting which is Chinese parenting isn’t effective enough. Well sure their kids are very intelligent and get high grades, but can they participate in well-functioning groups? One thing that Chinese parenting lacks in is a skill set that is not taught formally, but is imparted through strenuous experiences. This is exactly what Chua...
There are big differences in how Chinese mothers act towards their children compared to Western mothers including the expression of feelings and approval, the worth of their children, and what is best for them. Amy Chua (2011) incorporates her own personal experiences of being a Chinese mother within her article and compares that to what she witnesses in America.
In “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior,” Amy Chua professes her strong belief on the effectiveness of Chinese techniques used in raising an academically advanced child compared to the techniques used by Western parents. To begin, she lists examples of activities her own kids cannot participate in to help give the readers a taste of the high expectations that are placed on Chinese children. Chua uses this list to prove a point to the Western parents that the level of pressure they apply to their children does not even begin to compare to the harsh expectations placed on the children raised in the Chinese culture. She then mentions the many experiments performed to clarify the differences between the Western and Chinese tactics when it comes to
The social norm for parenting is that parents should encourage their children to do their best. Parents should be happy for their children’s success, no matter how big or small the success is. Parents should always offer words of encouragement to their children. These are parents’ guideline that most children grew up with and that parents follow. Amy Chua does not follow these social norms parent guides. Chua is a Chinese mother that orders her children to be the best, her words of encouragement are insults to the Western parents, and there is no celebration of success because her children are expected to succeed in everything. In “Why Chines Mother Are Superior”, Amy Chua explains the effectiveness of the Chinese mother parenting style and the differences between Chinese parents and Western parents.
Every family is unique in dynamic and nature. Parenting styles within families vary depending on circumstance and principal. What defines parenting styles is the approach that parents take on raising their children and the psychological and social effects it has on their child’s development. These parenting techniques influence the child’s lifestyle and beliefs throughout their life and have lasting effects on the child’s adulthood. In the research article Child self-esteem and different parenting styles of mother’s: cross-sectional study discusses that “Parenting style refers to the practices adopted by parents during their children’s growth and socialization stages and how the children are controlled.” Developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind
In her article “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior”, Amy Chua explains why children raised by Chinese mother are more successful than children raised by western parents. She believes that Chinese parents raise more successful children because of strict rules when it comes to education and social interactions. Unlike most western parents who do not want education to completely take over their child’s life. Chua’s own children have a set of strict rules, including no
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
In “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother,” Amy Chua argues that while Western parents have a certain way of parenting that works for them. She believes that Chinese parenting is the best way to raise a child so that they become successful adults. There are many differences between the two, from standards, to punishment, and motivation.
Growing up, two group of people, parents, and grandparents, took the time and the energy to raise me. Both of them had different approaches when raising me. These approaches were different parenting styles. According to Baumrind, parenting style was the “[capturing] normal variations in parents’ attempts to control and socialize their children” (Darling, 1999). To put it simply, parenting style goal was to lecture, influence, and discipline a child. In general, there are four parenting styles with their own specific benefits and disadvantages. Furthermore, parenting style, granted the dynamic of the family was understood, can be identified in families.
Amy Chua, who is a professor at the Yale Law School in the United States of America, wrote the interesting article ‘Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior’. The article evolves around the many concerns that Amy Chua has with the western way of raising children. According to Amy Chua, western parents should do as she herself, and most other Chinese parents do, and raise their kids with strict rules and tough consequences if the children were to defy these rules. Amy Chua succeeded in raising two successful kids herself; in the article, she tells us how she did it.
Talib, M. B. A., Abdullah, R., & Mansor, M. (2011). Relationship between Parenting Style and Children’s Behavior Problems. Asian Social Science, 7(12), p195.
With over three hundred million Americans and over six billion people worldwide parenting skills are essential to maintain a healthy society. Parenting involves many aspects and requires many skills. It is a time to nurture, instruct, and correct to develop fundamental skills children will need to be mature, responsible, and contributing adults to a society. There are four commonly identified parenting styles; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Of the four parenting styles, two remain on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well each style has its own advantages such as; acceptance by peers with commonality. Child rearing for most parents is an evolving set of skills. It could be said that, with any style of parenting, there is no explicit set of rules for every situation, and what works for one child may not be effective for another.
In addition to helicopter parents, there is another type of overbearing parent that is similar, the Tiger Mom. Although both styles of parenting can be aggressive, this type is not only geared more towards the child doing well but doing it without the parent’s help. Usually these types of parents have an Asian origin and are immigrants to America. These parents expect greatness from their children and because of their culture, failure of the child means the parent has failed. These Chinese parents consider themselves to be superior to American parents, for that reason they stress the importance at winning at everything the child does at any cost. Maureen Callahan interviews Amy Chua, best selling author of “ Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom”, she interestingly argues that “Chinese mothers are better than those of any other race, and these parenting methods are going to result in the West’s biggest fear- the continued rise and ultimately supremacy of China”(Tiger Mom). This type of parenting can lead to a phenomenon called the “imposter syndrome, this term is used to describe highly successful individuals who believe, deep down, they are frauds.”(Tiger Mom). While children of Chinese Immigrants are believed to have impeccable impulse control and are conditioned to do well under high stress situations, the results are the same as with a traditional helicopter parent, neurotic, highly stressed adults who cannot function well in society