In the book Ordinary people by Judith Guest it shows how the book advocates for the therapist by Dr. Berger helping Conrad and his dad, Dr. Berger is there for him at all times, and Dr. Berger stays calm at all times.
Dr. Berger helped Conrad and Calvin in many ways, Conrad and Calvin were going through a hard time and Dr. Berger really helped there problems. Dr. Berger was one of the main reasons why Conrad got better and without Dr. Berger helping him he maybe wouldn’t have gotten better. The first way Dr. Berger helped Conrad was by letting Conrad know he could trust him and know everything he said would stay right in that room. That opened Conrad up a lot more making it easier for Dr. Berger to understand his problems. This helped because Conrad didn’t have anyone he could trust. No one he could open up and let out all his feelings to. Conrad needed that very badly. Conrad could yell to him and let out all his feelings inside and Conrad couldn’t do that with anyone else. The next piece of evidence for how Dr. Berger helped Conrad is he lets Conrad cry for him and Dr. Berger comforts him. Like in the book after he found out Karen died, he went to Dr. Berger’s and cried to him. He didn’t cry to his dad, but cried to his therapist. In the book Conrad never had someone he could cry to, he always had to deal with everything on his own. But now that he has someone that is Dr. Berger he could cry to someone. By crying to someone he got all of his emotions out instead of just keeping them in and letting them build up to where he might kill himself again. The last reason why Dr. Berger made Conrad feel like family was by Dr. Berger supporting Conrad’s decisions and not getting mad at him at all, it showed that Conrad could trust him...
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...ld have been furious. But he stayed calm and by doing that Conrad could trust him and knew he was a good person. The third piece of evidence is when Conrad wouldn’t tell Dr. Berger anything about himself, he didn't scream at him saying you're wasting your money or anything like that. He opened him up with techniques and stayed calm. Conrad wouldn't tell Dr. Berger much. He kind of just painted a vivid picture in Dr. Berger’s head. But dr. Berger didn’t get frustrated he kept working at Conrad calmly and soon saw the picture in HD. So By Dr. Berger stays calm at all times made Conrad feel safer and better, faster even when Conrad would scream and swear at Conrad Dr. Berger stayed calm and content. In conclusion Dr. Berger helped Conrad and Calvin a lot by treating them as family, Dr. Berger being there for him at all times, and Dr. Berger staying calm at all times.
There are many important themes and subjects addressed in the book. Most importantly is how Conrad deals with his emotions and comes to accept and forgive what has happened to him. And the author shows us that this can only be done by love, support, and trust. Conrad thinks by not expressing his emotions he is less vulnerable but instead he drifts farther apart from his family. The ordeal of attempted suicide and treatment has left him feeling insecure and vulnerable and he instinctively puts up shields. Trying to appear calm and determined on the outside, he is still very confused, angry and is afraid he slip away again only to kill himself. He still feels responsible for his brother's death due to the fact his mom doesn't want to forgive him and the only way to punish himself is to deny, suppress, and control his feelings lest they give him away. It is not until the very end when Conrad?s father, Calvin finally stops skirting around the subject but tells him that he loves him and that they finally develop a sense of trust and security in one another: -
As a child Conrad was born in Berdichev, Ukraine on the third day of December in 1857. although born in the Ukraine, he was of Polish ethnicity. Conrad’s full birth name was Józef Teodor Konrad Korzeniowski which explains why he went more simply by Joseph (Witkoski 2). He was born into a wealthy noble family and was not considered a commoner on the streets. Despite the fact that his family was of noble status, the parents of his mother, Ewa Bobrowski, thought Conrad’s father, Apollo Korzeniowski, was born with tainted blood (Witkoski 2). Conrad’s father was a political writer and translator of Alfred de Vigny, Charles Dickens and Shakespeare (Zacks). Logically, because of Korzeniowski’s passion for literature it inspired Conrad to begin exploring literature himself. Conrad’s literary exploration commenced in his native language, but by his mid teens he had expanded to other languages including French and English (Zacks). At the age of four Conrad’s father was exiled to the city of Vologda for organizing an uprising. Within four months of his father’s exultation his mother died from tuberculosis. Then four years later his father passed away leaving Conrad an orphan (Zacks).
Conrad and his father, Calvin, had a very good and strong trusting relationship. Although Conrad was stubborn and didn't want to speak of his
Conrad was a suicidal boy who didn’t know what to do with his life. Confused and hopeless someone needed to help, shape his life around and make everything better. Someone with experience, someone to help make him better, someone to help turn his whole life around. His brother died and he witnessed it. When Conrad witnessed a death of a close one his soul and heart were broken for ever and it needs someone to help heal and bandage it up. He also heard about the girl he was in the hospital with committed suicide at the end of the book. He was devastated and he didn't know what to do, so we would go to talk to one person he trusted which was Dr. Berger. Dr. Berger changed his whole life around and helped him be a man that he always wanted to be. Conrad looked up to his brother, that was his role model and he couldn't do anything to help him in the last moments of Buck’s life. Dr. Berger helped him in so many ways, get through obstacles he would of never got through alone. Not only was Dr. Berger his Doctor but he was his friend, his only friend he could really trust. Dr. Berger helped Conrad get his life more in “control”.
Berger, twice a week for an hour each day. During the visits, Conrad is able to talk about feelings he has relating to Buck, his parents and his hospitalization. Dr. Berger, in my opinion, follows Sigmund Freud’s psychodynamic model. Conrad is encouraged to use free association, to freely express himself about anything on his mind, no matter how disturbing. Conrad begins to express his dreams, and slowly begins to let his suppressed feelings out. Dr. Berger also challenges Conrad causing him to get upset and start yelling but soon after relaxes. He tries to comfort Conrad about Beth loving him just don’t knowing the ideal way to show
Conrad’s coach had a discussion with him about his position on the team as well as Conrad’s time in the hospital and this is when we find out he underwent shock therapy as a means to help him. After this, Conrad calls the psychiatrist, Dr. Berger to set up an appointment and at this time he seems anxious and uncomfortable, maybe even regretting calling the psychiatrist in the first place. In their first session together, Conrad expresses that he is only there because he wants to learn how to control his emotions so that people will stop worrying about him, not to work on himself. Although this was initially what they worked on, Dr. Berger helped Conrad learn to express himself instead of holding his feelings back, even if that meant displaying anger towards others including his mother and his
Portion of the reasons for this problem stems from the circumstance that he observed the death of Buck at sea during the storm. He answers to the death of Buck in pain which is readily apparent leading him to act out of the ordinary. The movie recounts a scenario where he had tried to commit suicide after the death of his brother leading in his hospitalization. It is accurate that he continued to hold responsibility for the death of his brother therefore leading to his depression state even after being released from the hospital. Subsequently, the outcomes of this response are captured in his removal from friends and the deficiency of enjoyment in life. In spite of these sad feelings, Conrad holds the feelings following in his mother’s instance. Later, however, Conrad pursues psychotherapy help from Dr. Berger after reassurance from his father. The therapist helps in the confrontation and challenges the issues facing Conrad despite his past resistance. In the course, Conrad openly vents his feelings including those of guilt. The power of the therapy on Conrad is evident in his abrupt change in life where he no longer represses anger and feelings. Eventually, he is active in confronting his guilt of surviving and resulting himself an opportunity to appreciate
The movie “Ordinary People” was a very entertaining and educational movie. It looked into the dynamics of families and showed the different parts and dependencies. It also looked into a type of client/therapist relationship and how it evolved over time. The discussion below will attempt to explore deeper into these aspect of the film.
But there is one more piece that ties together the personification of the Stations and forces the reader to introspect. The frame narration used by Conrad provides Marlow the chance to exit from the story and speak directly to his audience, and he often uses this occasion to remark, “No, it is impossible to convey the life-sensation of any given epoch of one’s existence,—that which makes its truth, its meaning—its subtle and penetrating essence. It is impossible. We live, as we dream—alone” (Conrad, 130). The idea behind this comment is solipsism, that no man can really understand any experience but his own. Solipsism personalizes the story, forces the reader into his own heart to see what is there, to see the blackness that is
First, I must define each figure in Conrad's novel with its appropriate Freudian psyche. These psyche are defined in an essay by Ross C. Murfin's essay, "Psychoanalytic Criticism in The Awakening":
There are many themes that occur and can be interpreted differently throughout the novel. The three main themes that stand out most are healing, communication, and relationships.
Conrad experienced a tremendous amount of psychological pain because of the loss he felt, he had no one to talk to about the death of his brother and best friend in the boating accident which resulting in a suicide attempt. The relationships he had with his mother Beth and his swim team friends suffered dramatically because of all of the pain he held
In the film and the novel, the point of view of the narrator is very important to the reader's respectively to the viewer's perception of him. Joseph Conrad builds his novel as a story which is t...
Carl Rogers developed person centered therapy, also known as client centered, non-directive or Rogerian therapy, in the 1930s. The person centered therapy, differs than other typical formal therapy, against directive and psychanalytic approach. Rogers believed that the therapy should take place where there is a close personal relationship between the client and the therapist. Rogers rejected the traditional hierarchical relationship between the client and therapist, and view the clients as equals by using the term “client” instead of “patient”. In person-centered therapy, the client determines the general direction of the therapy while the therapist ask informal clarifying question to promote client’s self-insight and self-understanding.
I will choose Conrad’s father, Calvin. Although I am a female, I think that he is the one of the characters who in this book can connect to me the most. As I know that he always care about his son, Conrad even he lost an elder son already. He doesn’t know what’s wrong with Conrad. He doesn’t know how he can really help Conrad either. All in his mind is that his son is not okay but he never tell. So he asked Conrad to see a psychiatrist, Dr. Berger. It maybe a way that can help his son but not perfect. At least he tried. I appreciate it because I know that it is not easy to communicate to a person who has a very large generation gap even he or she is important to you. For me, I don’t even know which way to talk with my parents is the most suitable too. They always have a different point of view that I don’t agree with. For example, my mom always tell what she is angry for. No matter it is my business or not. when every time she complains, I will give her response or advice. But she thinks that I am challenging her… So I started to be a “listener”. I only listen what she is complaining and shut my mouth. The relationship between us seems good when I start to shut