Frank E. Pouliot's statement regarding change as a “process of personal evolution” embraces change in a positive way. To me it means that if we don't change then we do not mature. I agree that change is not easy. Whether our behavior patterns are positive or negative, we are comfortable with them. It is this comfortability that makes it hard to change. To change familiar behaviors is almost like losing a friend. Except most of us do not have the same exact friends our whole lives. We grow apart, our life circumstances change, etc. If we did not change, we would not grow. The ability to self asses and take a “step back” to look at our roles in a situation is one that comes out of emotional maturity. In cases of addiction, the addict may not have learned these skills. In cases where a person feels disassociated from the external world, he may feel a sense of powerlessness. He may feel he cannot control anything, so he clings to the familiarity of his behavior patterns, using it like a security blanket.
The other day while on my way to work, I was deep in thought trying to think of something in my life that I could change for this assignment. I looked down at the clock and figured that today I would only be about ten minutes late for work. I am consistently late for everything. Even if I wake up two hours early, or if I have to be somewhere in the afternoon and oversleeping had absolutely nothing to do with it- I am late. There is a certain adrenaline rush that comes from this cycle of being late. When I got to work, I said good morning and gave the clock a quick glance. Only eight minutes. Not too bad. I work at a bakery, but my schedule isn't like the Dunkin' Donuts guy's schedule. I don't have to wake...
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...the weekends with getting me out of bed. Since this is not going to be an easy habit to break, there is a good chance that I may slip and hit the snooze button. I am thinking about using this horrible alarm clock that has no snooze button. This alarm clock features Tigger (from Whinnie the Pooh) and he screams, “Whoo Whoo Whoo Whoo! Are you ready for some bouncin'?” Then it makes springing noises. Then the whole horrendous thing repeats itself until you push the button. It is such a nauseating experience to hear this, that I will have to get out of bed to make it stop. So my plan is to use this to get me out of bed. If I slip, then I'll just figure out where I need to change something and start over again. Once I have a month of being on time, then I will know I have established a new pattern because I have never been on time for more than two days in a row.
Set your alarm at least an hour before you really need to get out of the bed. If you set the alarm for an earlier hour you get to hit the snooze button few extra times. After the third hit, you should have awakened enough to actually rise out of the bed. Fix yourself a cup of coffee, sit on the sofa, and stare into space at least fifteen minutes, but no more than thirty. This gives you time to not think about all that you have to do today.
Change is good." We hear the catchy phrase everywhere. From company slogans to motivational speeches, our world seems to impose this idea that change is always a good thing. Assuming that the change is for the better, it is probably a true statement in most cases. The root of this idea seems to come from the notion that we are dissatisfied with the state that we are in, so, in order to create a more enjoyable surrounding, we adjust. Others, however, stray from this practice, and instead of trying to adapt to the people around them, they try and change others.
Carl Rogers stated, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change (see http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/c/carl_rogers.html). Many modern approaches to addiction recovery utilize a dialectical model to examine the change process. Third wave behavioral therapies such as Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), along with mindfulness meditation (MM), and the 12 Step Recovery model of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) use a dialectic based on acceptance of what is and change to what can be. These modern methods make use of the practices of Buddhism that may be effective treatments for addiction recovery. Moreover, when regarding addiction as a form of attachment as defined by the Buddha, the possibility of change comes as a concession to suffering.
Just as they are standing face-to-face with each other, I am standing face-to-face with procrastination. I encounter difficulty managing my time with just about everything I do; I always wait too long. Throughout high school I was never in a hurry to get any of my work done. The work was easy to me, so if I waited until the last minute to do anything, it wasn’t hard for me to finish. I could always take my time to get everything done and still get a good grade in high school. Even if the work was harder and took me a little extra time, my teachers were all very lenient and accepted late work. My high school was very easy and allowed me to get into the bad habit of procrastinating.
Hazel, M. "Change is crucial in a person’s life." N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Dec. 2008. .
This experience helped me to recognize the internal struggle that a substance abuser faces on a continuous basis. In addition, I know that an individual can have a difficult time changing their behavior even when they have a strong desire to change; the smallest thing can cause a person to relapse.
The first thing we will look at is what drug abuse is. Drug abuse is a condition that results when a person ingests a substance, such as cocaine, or heroin, that can cause pleasure, but the continued use of which becomes compulsive and will start interfering with everyday life, such as school, work, parenting responsibilities, or relationships. Addicts are not generally aware that their own behavior is out of control and are usually oblivious to the problems that they are causing to themselves and to others.(“What is Addiction?” 2014) The longer the addiction and addictive behaviors persist, the worse the person will become, and the more dependent they will become on the drug. The reason it is so hard for an addict to change their ways is because the brain’s chemistry is altered from addiction.
Change is a word that I have constantly heard throughout my high school years. It is a transformation through which everyone goes whether it's for the better or for the worse. For me the meaning and value of change has helped me to focus on the goals I have to accomplish. For others, it is simply just a phase we go through. All of us here have been able to learn and develop from our changes to be come a better and successful person.
Whether it’s the five-year-old lying that white lie, the middle schooler taking a puff of his first cigarette, or the newly-licensed 17-year-old having that second beer and driving home, these presumably trivial mistakes start to pile up. At the time, the kid might think that they’re just having fun with their friends, but eventually, these first attempts could turn into addictions. Addictions that ultimately change that seemingly innocent five-year-old into the abusive father of children who hate him, and could someday even turn into him. Even such a drastic change in a person’s life, however, is just the minimum of how much the very core of who a person is can completely change through a single
If the problems you suffer stem from severe alcoholism or addiction, you must accept that these problems are not primarily mental or free will issues. Addictions are not about will power. The problems facing addicts, alcoholics, and their families are miserable, disgusting, and infuriating. They are often hopelessly discouraging. But to imagine that an addict "could change if he wanted to" is a serious misunderstanding of the long term dynamic of addictive disorder. The fact is precisely that an addict cannot change in the long run even if he wants to! That is the definition of addiction: "the loss of control over the use of a substance." It is important to understand that this loss of control is manifested not in terms of days or weeks, but in longer term behaviors: terms of months and years.
...n individual’s life. Addiction is the same whether the drug is alcohol, cocaine, heroin, marijuana, or nicotine. All substances allow the individual to feel the high of feeling good, away from all the issues going on in their life. Though each individual has different reasoning’s behind doing the substance, continuing to constantly use the substance or substances makes the body dependent. Becoming dependent will make you experience uncontrollable cravings and relapse. Your body is at a point that stopping would be very difficult, causing severe physical and mental damage from withdrawal. “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change,” the first step in any process an addict faces is accepting that they are exactly that, an addict. Once that is accepted they are allowing themselves to be open to getting help (Carl Rogers).
This theory demonstrates that people can change over the course of their life-time from the data that backs it up. In this theory, changing one’s behavior is a process that someone wants to do due to relationships encountered with people over their lifetimes. It is a rational theory that shows when new bonds are formed, people can adapt to change and lead a conforming lifestyle in society.
There are many obstacles that I may encounter that are both internal and external. A huge potential barrier between me and my meaningful and significant life is my internal struggle with time management. Procrastination is something I am very good at. I know it's nothing to brag about but sometimes I feel like I just can't help it. Even when I actually am focu...
Adapting to change I find is worthwhile in my eyes. I can see myself grow from what I learn and see by working on myself and change the way I use to think about the word change. I’m discovering that change is good for everyone, it breaks up the normal grove that everyone is in making the discover and learn how to adapt to change. The question that I’m going to ask myself is, am I the right person to reach my goal? You bet! I’m going to take the time and work on myself on how to deal with the fact that everything around me is bound to
When the alarm goes off in the morning, my first thought is, fuck, this is way to early. Then I open my eyes; look at my alarm clock and wonder, if I hit the snooze button, would I get up after five more minutes. The answer to that is always no, I need to get up now, or the kids will be late to get to the bus. After fifteen to twenty seconds of debate in my own head, I lift my head off my pillow. I twist to the right and sit up at the same time. Then ...