This paper will discuss My Virtual Life child development. I will go into detail how the theoretical framework and parental decision making I used with my child from birth to 18 years of age influenced my decision making and my virtual child’s life. I will discuss how I feel the theories I used and the decisions made had an impact on why my child is in the position he is, at 18-years of age. To begin with, of the four Baumrind’s parenting styles, authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and disengaged, I chose authoritative. Authoritative parenting has a high level of demandingness while at the same time exerts the same amount of responsiveness leading to a child who is independent, creative, well-balanced, and leads a relatively social lifestyle. I feel that laying down rules and expectations for a child gives them the guidance they need at a young age or they will be left to guide themselves blindly leading to irresponsibility, impulsiveness, and a tendency to engage in substance use. Equally important is a parent needs to warm, attentive, and not only say they love their children but express through actions and understanding as well (Arnett, 2016). When Joshua was approximately 8 months old I began to leave him at occasional babysitter. He would cry as I left and for a short while after, but upon my return he would greet me at the door with excitement. This is an example of Bowlby’s secure attachment. In Bowlby’s theory with the Strange Situation a child would show a secure attachment to the parent by crying when the parent left the room then crawling to her to feel safe once again. I wanted Joshua to be comfortable in new situations, yet at the same time I wanted him to begin to trust that I would return. According to Bowlb... ... middle of paper ... ... would be the amount of worth and credence he puts into his academic success, which could subsequently help with a scholarship for his education. And finally, his chronosystem was affected during his teenage years when his dad lost his job. As a family we were forced to cut back on spending which is the only way Joshua was affected. If Joshua had been 40 years old and lost his job, the stress to him would have been unsurmountable compared to his dad losing his job when he was just 16-years old. Historically, if women were never allowed to have the job opportunities as they do today our family would have been a one income family, substantially reducing our ability have Joshua in extra-curricular activities like baseball and the music he loves so much. Without these outlets Joshua may not have succeeded academically nor would he have had access to outside resources.
During the first nine months of Dominic’s life he was sick several times with colds and digestive complications which are not typical for infants. Physically, Dominic was active the first nine months. At three months he began to start laughing and would focus his eyes on me, the mom (My Virtual Child). At eight months we would play object permanence games which enhanced his cognitive development and at nine months old Dominic was adv...
By the end of the simulation, he was more than capable to take on any obstacle the world had in store if this was real-life and not a virtual simulation. Authoritative parenting allows for children to have higher cognitive and social competence as well as other benefits. It is also advantageous because it encourages and permits autonomy, contains rules and sanctions when necessary, promotes open communication, and recognizes the rights of both children and parent (Dornbusch, 1987). With the aid of peer-reviewed articles, the following paper will assess the effects that authoritative parenting has on the development of children, especially in regards to my virtual child and the My Virtual Life Simulation, factors and theories contributing to and involved in child development and the effects of
My virtual child experience began with the birth of Ivan Trejo. Throughout this journey I learned parents have great influence over their child before it’s brought into the world. For example, the biological parents determine their child’s genes that are passed down to them and the environment that impacts the child. With these factors in mind, it gave me a new perspective to parenting. I have adopted an authoritative parenting strategy to raise Ivan. Authoritative parents are parents who are firm, setting clear and consistent limits, but who try to reason with their child, giving explanation for why they should behave in a particular way. (Feldman, 2014). When raising Ivan, I made my decision based on previous encounters and positive results from authoritative strategies.
In this application paper, I talk about the child that I raised through My Virtual Child. I’m going to be applying what I’ve learned through class, power points, lectures, and research to my parenting style and the development of my child. I will explain in detail the theories that are taken into consideration while describing my child’s development.
The purpose of this assignment is to answer the three posed questions in regards to my Virtual Child, who I will refer to as Kieran though out my assignment. I will be describing changes in his exploratory or problem solving behaviors as well as analyzing his temperament. I will also summarize his developmental assessment at nineteen months old that may differ from my perception than what was assessed through his developmental examiner.
“Your children need your presence more than your presents.” While Jesse Jackson’s words may ring true for many parents, these words have actual theoretical evidence, which support different parenting styles that one can adopt when raising children. Many parents want the best for their children, but sometimes can go too far when they respond to their children’s needs and demands. However, one has to ask which style is appropriate in order to have a well-balance child, and if that is contingent upon the situation. Focusing on one particular theorist, this essay will summarize, analyze and provide a critique of Baumrind’s three styles of parenting on the basis of practical methodology and flexibility.
I started this project very excited and interested in different decisions I’d be able to make and choose for a virtual child. I want to be a parent at some point in time, so I found this project to be very influential and helpful for me. Throughout the simulation, I made choices and decisions based on what both my parents and I would do, particularly leaning toward a stricter parenting style in order to keep the child in line with good morals and a strong background. I enjoyed this assignment, and I expect to remember certain decisions I made when I may become a real parent.
When Ezra was eight years old, he had a psychologist report done that asked a set of questions not only to him but also to myself about my parenting style. I scored high in the top 15 percentiles in not only warmth and affection but also discipline and control. Being high in all four aspects of parenting styles puts me into the authoritative style (Bee & Boyd, 2012). In The Developing Child, the authors describe the parents with this parenting style as those that are “setting clear limits, expecting and reinforcing socially mature behavior, and at the same time responding to the child’s individual needs (Bee & Boyd, 2012, p. 326).” As I reflect on certain situations, I can tell that this style guided my parenting. For example, when Ezra was 6 he frequently cheated at games if he knew he could get away with it. My response, with accordance to my authoritative parenting style, was to beginning teaching him right and wrong, not getting upset, but to bring up the cheating and tell him to play by the rules despite him not having a “strong sense of mortality (Manis, 2008).” I decided to use that option because I wanted Ezra to learn from the experience but continue to play the game and have
Bringing a child into the world can be a very exciting moment, filled with lots of emotion. However, raising that child will come with many responsibilities and decision making. It can be stressful as parents go through the ups and downs of raising a child, but it can also be a memorable experience as we watch our child go through various stages of development. I thought that being a parent would come with its obstacles, but that it would be an exciting experience to raise a child to adulthood. Every child has a temperament and certain characteristics that we as parents, have to adapt to. My Virtual Child, Jill, at first, was difficult to soothe down when upset, mostly cautious and shy when around new people, and has a secure attachment (My Virtual Child). Raising Jill, I had to make several adjustments due to my personal relationship with my spouse and the economy always changing. This had an effect on Jill’s development, but I always did what I felt was best for her. Jill was a quick learner at a young age; she scored above average or average for skills such as gross motor,
As the child matures during the first two years of life, he or she creates a specific internal working model (BOOK). The working model of self is founded on the expectations the child develops based on experiences with the mother (BOOK). According to Bowlby (1979, p. 117), "the conce...
Growing up, two group of people, parents, and grandparents, took the time and the energy to raise me. Both of them had different approaches when raising me. These approaches were different parenting styles. According to Baumrind, parenting style was the “[capturing] normal variations in parents’ attempts to control and socialize their children” (Darling, 1999). To put it simply, parenting style goal was to lecture, influence, and discipline a child. In general, there are four parenting styles with their own specific benefits and disadvantages. Furthermore, parenting style, granted the dynamic of the family was understood, can be identified in families.
My virtual child’s name is Naneno. She was born 1 week after her due date via a C-Section. She was a beautiful child that looked hairless, because of her light blond hair. She had bright blue eyes and an already infectious smile. Her blond hair grew very long over the years and became a little darker, with some dark blond highlights. I keep telling her that people spend a lot of money for highlights and hers are natural. Naneno has two sisters, both older than her. She always told her parents that she wanted to remain the baby, so no more siblings! I was born and raised in Germany and her dad is an US Soldier. We met when dad was stationed in Germany and have been married for 20 years. Naneno and her sisters were born in
This report aims to discuss John Bowlby’s research on attachment. The study revolves around infants and their primary caregivers, properly addressing the attachment level between them, and how they interact with each other. With thorough observations, this study will be able to determine how attachment affects the infant’s sense of security and predetermine their future behavior.
With over three hundred million Americans and over six billion people worldwide parenting skills are essential to maintain a healthy society. Parenting involves many aspects and requires many skills. It is a time to nurture, instruct, and correct to develop fundamental skills children will need to be mature, responsible, and contributing adults to a society. There are four commonly identified parenting styles; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Of the four parenting styles, two remain on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well each style has its own advantages such as; acceptance by peers with commonality. Child rearing for most parents is an evolving set of skills. It could be said that, with any style of parenting, there is no explicit set of rules for every situation, and what works for one child may not be effective for another.
Bowlby’s attachment theory has greatly influenced his practice. His theory of attachment explains the importance of having a figure that the child shares a strong bond with. Having an attachment can significantly support a child’s development, as Barbara Woods suggests that “his theory of attachment proposed that attachment is innate in both infants and mothers, and that the formation of this attachment is crucial for the infants development” Wood, B (2001, p.53). Bowlby believed that forming an attachment will help a child develop in all areas, e.g. emotionally, physically and mentally. However, if they did not form an attachment during the sensitive period, the child may have issues or problems in their cognitive, emotional and social development.