It is amazing how two individuals, only eighteen months apart in age, can grow up in the same household, with the same mother and yet have so many differences. My daughters, Madison and Mackensie, are polar opposites on the surface while their beliefs and views on family and values are very similar. Both girls have absorbed what their parents and family hold in high regard and have adopted that towards themselves yet they have managed to maintain their individualities.
According to Dr. Kevin Leman, there are definite differences in children based upon their birth order. Dr. Leman writes: “[y]ou can almost guarantee they’re going to be the opposite. As we go down the family branch, we see that each child branches off in a very unique way. We find that people in certain occupational areas and expertise in life, such as architecture, accounting, engineering, those structured occupations tend to be first-born children. As we go through the family constellation and go through second children, youngest children, we find that people go into much more people-oriented vocations” (21).
Maddie and Kensie have many similarities and differences in their appearance. Looking back at baby pictures it is almost impossible to tell the girls apart. As they have grown up, they still resemble each other but not quite as much. They are both very tall for their age with Maddie standing at 5’ 8” at age thirteen and Kensie standing at 5’ 3” at age eleven. Both have long, dirty blonde hair with their bangs grown out, and have bright blue eyes. Maddie usually puts her hair up in a high ponytail, and Kensie usually keeps hers down, as she would not be caught dead with her hair up. They also wear makeup, but Kensie wears more than Maddie does. Laurie we...
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...ill find them either listening to their iPod or watching YouTube videos. However, their taste in music is extremely different. They do agree on some music, but Madison is more into pop music. Mackensie is more into scream music and noise that makes me sound like my mother when I yell “turn that garbage down!”
Although there is no mistaking that they are sisters, as my daughters grow up their differences will undoubtedly increase, however their core values and love for each other will remain. The very differences that drive them apart may very well be the ties that keep them together.
Works Cited
Elfeldt, Erin. "Birth Order: Deciphering the Differences in Personality among Siblings." The Quinnipiac Chronicle. 26 Sept. 2006. n. pag. Web. 06 May 2011.
Leman, Kevin. The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are. Grand Rapids, MI: Revell, 2009. Print.
The last part to consider for a conclusion to the question being studied is how the twins are agents or react in social activities.As seen most in the videos, the twins in the social scenes are two different people. For example, the scene in the English classroom Abby is clearly the more dominant one over Brittany as she takes control and speaks directly towards the teacher. Even Boozikee mentions that Abby is more outgoing and bossy; while Brittany is more laid back, quiet and more reserved in her own world. When the twins were younger they did participate in many sports, Patty and Mike say that there eye coordination while playing the sports was very surprising because of how much of a grip they had. As they get older they speak about marriage and children, but the only thing said was that they get married,then they feel they will have to take care of their parents.As far as having a career they had similar but different majors that they had in mind. Abby wanted to be able to do something in Math with kids, while Brittany wanted to work pre-primary from birth to sixth grade. They both decided on becoming a part time math teacher to 4th and 5th graders would fit best for the both of them. However, when they were younger they had two different views on careers; as Patty stated one wanted to be a pilot and the other a dentist. This last piece of information shows how the twins are
My daughter Myla Jane and her cousin Braelyn Jade are different in appearance and attitudes, yet are the same in the things that they enjoy and their daily routine of everyday life. When you look at the two girls, you can’t tell by their looks that they would be anything alike. Although they are a lot different in looks, they do share similarities. When seeing these girls at a back-to-back view, the only things that you would find to be similar are their enjoyment of the same things and their routine they follow throughout the day.
Without the results of studies done on the birth order, by people like Jeffery Kluger, the power of birth order would remain a mystery to us and we would not have as deep of an understanding of siblings. While there is still much about the workings of oldest, youngest, and middle children that we have not yet discovered, the studies conducted on birth order so far have enlightened many parents on how their children’s relationships work. However, while scientists have unraveled many mysteries about the birth order, the constant variables presented to scientists as they study the birth order does hinder the progress of their research, but there is always a hope that someday scientists will be able to completely understand the impact and function of the birth order in sibling’s
Blair, L. (2011). Birth Order: What Your Position in the Family Really Tells You About Your
The two sisters maintained an intimate relationship throughout their lives, and lived together for most of their lives, albeit with several short periods of separation.
‘Birth order theory can help explain why children raised in the same family environment with a strong genetic relationship can have such different personalities’ (Drysdale, 2011). The birth order theory says that ‘first-borns are leaders, the drivers and the responsible type. They love to feel in control and feel uncomfortable with surprises or feeling out of their depth. They are conservative in their outlook’ (Grose, 2013). The personality theory says that last-borns are majorly different to first-borns in their characteristics and traits. It states that last-borns are ‘the
Adler’s birth order rings true for many people. As I was reading over the different birth orders, I started thinking of different family members and friends. I wanted to see how they measured up to Adler’s concept of birth order. I found myself stereotyping my friends and family, which is hard
Does birth order really affect who we are? Sigmund Freud was the first psychotherapist to say, " a child's position in the sequence of brother and sisters is of very great significance for one course of his later life." The type of person that we become stems from many things including birth order position, gender and the genders of the other siblings. Although personality is affected by many different factors, such as heredity, family size, the spacing and the gender of other siblings, education and upbringing, birth order plays a very important role and gives many clues as to why people are the was they are. Dr. Alfred Adler, a renowned psychiatrist, wrote that a person's position in the family leaves an undeniable "stamp" on his or her "style of living."
Leman, Dr. Kevin. The firstborn advantage: making your birth order work for you. Grand Rapids, MI: Revell, 2008. Print.
Mattie is a lot similar to Lisa in terms of age and history. They both either have parents dead or away from
It seems that every sibling doesn’t always have a great relationship with their older or younger siblings. In the movie “Real Women Have Curves”, we have two sisters, Anna and Estella,who seem not to get along in the beginning because of their differences, but at the end they become the best of friends because they have similar dreams and learn to support each other. The advantage of Anna and Estella’s relationship is that they benefit from each other. The whole story is that you don’t always realize how much you have in common with your siblings until you realize that you have similar dreams and can be there for each other.
Since I am interested in birth order, and the differences between my brother and I, I chose to read an article entitled What Parents Learn From Experience: The First Child as a First Draft? Shawn D. Whiteman wrote this article, with corresponding research by Susan M. McHale, and Ann C. Crouter. This particular article explains the differences in parenting between two children within the same family that are about two years apart in age. The words describe what many parents learn the first time around with their first-born child, and how their parenting styles change with the second child. Parents tend to be more easy going with the second child, and therefore discipline is seen less towards the younger child compared to the older child. Also, this article explains that most parents are less worried about the older child when they are out of the house, compared to the younger child one. Younger children tend to be checked up on more then the older kids, but older children tend to have less opportunities then the younger ones do.
The tensions between them are clear, but being a sister they remind me of myself crying out for daddies attention when the other gets more, or I feel less like the favorite. Everyone wants to be the favorite. However, in greek mythology as women they will always come after and below men. I think this is the most important thing they have in common and should stick together for that
Leman, Kevin. The birth order book: why you are the way you are. Grand Rapids: Revell, 2009. Print.
...ed. Kluger believes the bond between siblings only grows stronger with age (“The Science of New Siblings”). I greatly agree with him on this statement. My sisters and I have grown closer with every year. Whether we are shopping or watching movies back to back, I help flourish a close bond between my sisters and I. My sisters and I share closeness I will never find with anyone else, and I can only hope our bond continues to grow.