Falling in love with someone is supposed to be one of life’s greatest gifts. People fall in love, get married and have children. Sometimes life is not that simple for some people. Sometimes during this great time in their life, their partner becomes physically, mentally, and sexually abusive. So one would ask, why not leave and get out of the relationship? It is not that simple for the victim. Fear of their partner’s actions, concerns about their children, and their deep attachment to their partner are factors that cause people to stay in abusive relationships. In some cases, people feel they cannot leave their abuser because of fear of what their partner will do. Abusers need to have control over their relationship and their partner. If an …show more content…
What actually make people stay with their abuser is the thought of their abuser actually stopping the abuse. Sometime abusers are not always cruel. Some abusers actually feel guilty and see that they have hurt their partner. They apologize and make amends say they will never do anything again to hurt them. This is what gives the victim hope of a better life. The victim believes their abuser because they love them and want to be happy with them. The abuser will make any kind of excuse to try and keep their victim believing in them. The abuse sometimes stops for a short period but normally starts up again. Many victims sometimes only look at the positive traits in their partner, such as being loving, caring, and reliable to justify the abusive behavior. The victim also might feel as if it is pointless to leave, they feel as though they have been together to long to give up on them now. They feel that they have dealt with the abuse for so long that it just seems natural. The victim believes even though their partner abuses them they still love them and the abuse is the way they show love. Victims get brainwashed into believing everything their abuser says and does because they are so abused. Victims do not get to think, feel, or have control over any aspect of their lives. So it is easy for the victim to learn to believe in their abusive
An abused woman is always faced with a number of different choices from which she may consider, with regards to seeking help or ending the relationship with a variety of alternatives, the woman knows each decision involves a variety of risks. Time after time, the common question arises, “why doesn’t she just leave?” This question can be answered by analyzing the psychological effects domestic abuse has on women. Many women are unable to cope with the emotional and psychological stress of domestic abuse and resort to violence and extre...
A common problem in the world today is domestic abuse. Many times the male of a household abuses the woman and children that they life with. Although there are opportunities to safely get out of these situations, women too often stay. While this seems crazy that anyone would even think of staying in a situation of such violent nature, the reason is for more astonishing. Many times the women of these relationships love their abuser. An article written by a woman named Amanda
Domestic Violence is a widely recognized issue here in the United States. Though many people are familiar with domestic violence, there are still many facts that people do not understand. Abuse is not just physical, it is mental, emotional, verbal, sexual and financial. Many victims of physical abuse are also fall victim to these abuse tactics as well. An abusive partner often uses verbal, mental, emotional, and financial abuse to break their partner so to speak. It is through this type of abuse the victim often feels as though they are not adequately meeting their partner’s needs.
Everyday thousands of people suffer from some type of violence, some may able to live and see the next day and even be able to overcome it and become and advocate to other, however others are not so lucky. No one should ever have to be a victim of any type of abuse, whether it is verbally, emotionally, physically or mentally. Interpersonal violence is a term often used to describe sexual assault, intimate partner violence, and stalking (UNC Charlotte, 2017). No matter what type of violence is being experiences, the victim should always know that it is not their fault, that is help, and safety is available.
I’ve tried to encourage my friend who went through domestic violence; it was a one time offense that she sadly had to face. I still have the scenario engraved in my memory. Mid-afternoon my best friend comes to my house tears rolling down her face; I immediately grab her and begin to comfort her asking her what’s going on I could feel her body trembling against mine and the fear in her voice when she spoke. The last thing I ever expected her to say was that her boyfriend hit her. As soon as she told me that rage immediately took over and I could only see red my first thought was that we had to call the police but she thought differently. It was a horrific event that she sadly had to face at a young age with someone she believed that loved her
Psychological maltreatment is also often referred to interchangeably as emotional or mental abuse. This refers to any form of maltreatment that can be categorized as an individual being subjected to the activities of another individual that frequently result in any form of mental trauma of the victim. Psychological maltreatment can be seen as one of the most serious and slightly overlooked problems in modern society (Lesson & Nixon, 2010). In general, psychological maltreatment is considered any kind of abuse that is emotional opposed to physical in nature. Nevertheless, there is much controversy regarding the true definition and consequences of psychological maltreatment. As of now, psychological maltreatment is one of the most difficult forms of maltreatment to detect and
As Steiner (2012) points out during her lecture on domestic violence on “why doesn’t she leave?” In her own story and one of the first steps a perpetrator takes is they begin by isolating their victim. Morris, Shoffner, and Newsome (2009) report, when the person is isolated from friends and family members they become dependent upon the person abusing them, therefore, are less likely to leave the relationship. It becomes even more difficult if the person comes from a diverse background, thus is financially dependent upon the perpetrator and there may be children involved, and immigration status may be a factor.
Women will continue to suffer from domestic violence unless there is some sort of intervention to help them. When dealing with this population, it is essential to create a safe environment where the woman can talk freely about the abuse without any retaliation from the abuser. When someone comes into a therapeutic session, everyone deserves to be treated with respect and care. This in turn will create a sense of hope that a different type of life can be possible. Also, knowing that there is a support system can help the woman begin the process of change. Despite this, the process of leaving the abusive partner is slow (Warshaw, n.d.)
The victims are blinded from the danger they are in because it is all they know in a relationship or feel it is their fault. Another reason victims do not leave their abusive spouse is fear (Rafenstein 6). The Article “How to Plan Escaping From An Abuser” says:
This is because the percent of those who are unaffected see this violence as a consequence of the decisions of the abused to stay with the abuser. The women are blamed (Halket). There are so many movies that make this abuse seem like a sick joke. The women (or whoever is being abused) is almost always portrayed as a person who is in-denial and overly connected to the person who hurts them, which is in fact true in some cases but obviously not all. Most cases deal with a person who is involved with a partner who threatens them or their own life if they try to leave, which makes the situation of abuse so much more complex because the victim is at a point of not knowing what to
Abusive relationships happen all over the U.S and even in more countries around the globe. About 60% women have experienced abuse and 40% of man have had this happen to them. You may think that love is when two people are crazy about each other that they can't stand to be apart. That is not true, in a relationship, you should not always be with your partner. You need space to yourself and with your friends.
Abuse has become so common that some people do not realize they are being abused. It is important that this topic is studied because there are many gaps of knowledge to what all an abusive relationship can entail. The goal is to help someone somewhere get out of an abusive relationship before its too late. Whether its emotional or physical abuse, neither is healthy for a person to maintain in. So seeking relationship advice from outside sources, such as popular press articles may be a usual for tool for people who are looking for insight as long as they know to check up on the research involved in the article. This paper will compare and contrast the findings from the article I have chosen to the scholarly research that has been conducted on abusive relationships.
What starts as a loving relationship can soon develop into an abusive one. Although the symptoms may seem small it’s important to be aware of them.
It is not always easy to determine in the early stages of a relationship if one person will become abusive. Abusers may often seem wonderful and perfect initially, but gradually become more aggressive and controlling as the relationship continues. Violence and control always intensifies over time with an abuser, despite the apologies (ncadv.org). I Choose Life attempts to give a voice to the victims and survivors of domestic violence. Along with, offering an understanding to domestic violence, we construct educational seminars and programs that will help to drive that change. Domestic violence is the sole responsibility of the abuser.
A lack of emotional support may also be a reason to stay, women may need to go underground to flee their batterer. They may be required to re-locate, change their identity and their child's' identity, in the process they may lose contact with their families and thus lose support. A woman may love her partner. She remembers how he used to be, she thinks she can make it work. She believes that if she breaks up the family she has failed as a wife and as a mother. In some religions and cultures it is inconceivable for a woman to leave her husband.