The Importance Of Living With My Family

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When I was six years old, my father divorced my mother. I was blindsided; my young, naïve mind couldn’t understand why my dad did not want to be with my mom anymore. In my mind, we were a happy family. I was convinced that my home life was normal, and that everyone’s parents continually fought like mine did. This was why the divorce shocked me so much. But looking back, the imminence of divorce was obvious. The constant fighting, yelling, and strife combined with the lack of healthy communication ravished my home life. But one day, the fighting went to a whole different level. The day started just like any other day in our household, with my mother and father screaming at each other. In the beginning, they attempted to hide it from my sister
I firmly believe that if I chose to live with my dad, I would not currently suffer from severe anxiety and depression. However, my regrets faded away when I moved to Connecticut ten months ago. When I moved to Connecticut for school, I moved in with my aunt and cousin. My cousin is the worst person I have ever met because she is rude, immature, obnoxious, spoiled, and ignorant. My cousin treats my aunt, who would do anything for anyone at any time, like a piece of shit. My cousin is seventeen and can’t even wash her own clothes or make herself a snack. She commands my aunt to do everything for her, and then my cousin bitches and moans when something is done wrong or isn’t done fast enough. My aunt doesn’t even get a “thank you” for her service. My cousin is this way because she was given everything she wanted in her childhood. From an early age she learned to throw a temper tantrum to get anything she wanted, and she still uses this tactic to this day. When I was a child, I used to be extremely jealous of my cousin; I wanted to get everything I wanted too. But now, I am thankful I had a though childhood. Unlike her, I know that I can’t get everything I want and that life isn’t always going to be easy. I never got to experience the childlike ignorance that she still lives in today. I was forced to grow up way too fast due to the divorce and subsequent life with my mother. But I am thankful for my though childhood, as I now realize the adversity has made me a better person. If my childhood were easy, then there was a possibility of ending up like my

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