As a child it was, of course, upsetting — I wanted a daddy to come to my piano recitals and ballet performances like all the other girls — but the discontent only grew as I did. During the critical teen years of my life I felt the full effects of fatherlessness. There were things I struggled with for months — anger issues and negative self-concept to name two — that my mother couldn’t help me with, but that my father could provide every answer to. Each parent plays a specific role in parenthood, and though different sets of spouses may hold different roles, the loss of any one of those roles can be detrimental.
These aren’t the only areas negatively impacted by divorce. John P. Hoffman, an advocate of the National Center for Fathering, said, “There is significantly more drug use among children who do not live with [both] their mother and father, and adolescents living in intact families are less likely to engage in delinquency than their peers living in non-intact families. [Also,] 71 percent of high school dropouts are fatherless; fatherless children have more trouble academically, scoring poorly on tests of reading, mathematics and thinking skills.”
Similarly, growing up in a one-parent family has been shown to have negative effects on socioeconomic standing as well as physical and mental h...
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...er than I can: A three ply cord is not easily broken. Involving God in a marital relationship only strengthens it.”
Various statistics show that the original 50 percent divorce rate drops rapidly when husband and wife attend church regularly together, to as low as 3.3 percent. It drops to an even lower 0.3 percent when couples often pray together.
Divorce has had a major impact on my life, as well as the lives of many others in this world today, and everyone’s story is different, and though it may not always have been for the best, there are ways in which we can ease the pain of divorce and weaken its negative effects on children. Either employing marriage improving techniques to prevent it in the first place or finding mother or father-like figures to fill the role of any missing parent are plausible solutions to the seemingly never-ending, ever-broadening problem.
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