It 's always been hard for me to make really close friends. I 've always been mature for my age and I could never really relate to my peers. And my family moved a lot due to my mom 's job so any friends I did make, I didn 't keep. So for a long time I had no friends and I just couldn 't understand why. Then I had an epiphany. No one wanted to be close friends because they couldn 't keep up with me. I am so scatter brained it 's ridiculous. Add that with my advanced maturity and my crazy big ambitions, well who could blame everyone. So here 's the part where I wish I could say I just ignored all those haters and waited it out for my true best friends to arrive. And now, the three of us are the squad that 's tighter than everyone else 's. But, that 's just not the case. I took everyone 's distance to heart, and completely changed myself. I basically gave up …show more content…
We settled down, but I was still homeschooled so my social life consisted of church. It didn 't take long to make friends and so I had some really close ones. But as time went on we all drifted apart. That 's when I realized something. Epiphany number 2. I was being a total idiot. I know, not exactly uplifting but you 've got to admit, I really was. I was completely hiding my ture self in order to make friends who didn 't know the first thing about me. And to make things worse, I was trying to convince myself that this was who I really was! Total idiot material right there. So I stopped. Luckily for me that was the beginning of freshman year so it looked pretty natural to everyone else. Fast forward to now. It 's almost the end of Sophomore year, I have some pretty close friends (insert quote about only needing a few good friends) and I 'm doing pretty great. I 'm pursuing my dream of acting, (I 'm currently in a show at our local children 's theater) and I 'm myself with the rest of the
Before my years in high school, I rarely put time and effort into studying and constantly associated with my friends at school; that is until I entered high school. The different competitive atmosphere at high school caused me to suddenly prioritize my studies ahead of everything else and my ambition became greater than ever. I began to interact less with my old friends and become less sociable with those around me. My parents also began to notice this drastic change and encouraged me to once in a while contact my old friends. During the beginning, I contacted my friends about two or three times a week, but the phone calls began to gradually diminish. I began to abandon my previous cheerful, ebullient nature in order to conform to the competitive, tense study environment at high school. As long as I successfully accomplished my goals and was accepted by others, I was willing to alter myself in order to assimilate into the mainstream environment. Through my hard work and perseverance, I was able to reach my goal and receive the acknowledgement of others; however, despite fulfilling all my ambitions, I did not feel any joy or satisfaction within myself. Even though I successfully accomplished my objectives in school, I realized that in return I completely sacrificed my social life. Despite being accepted by others, I began to feel a sense of loneliness and longed to
A few months into my freshman year my friends had started to change. I had noticed it and I made a comment about it. This made them upset but they soon forgot about it. A few weeks
omen are also said to live a content life, just like Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda. Lily and Jane have been friends for 40 years, now that 's friendship goals! The key to their friendship is to have a sense of fun, not let too much time go by without contacting each other, and to support each other in their endeavors. In today 's society, it can be hard to find friends that really genuinely love, support, and wants what is best for you. In an assessment of 2,835 women with breast cancer in the Nurses’ Health Study, those with no close friends were four times as likely to die from the disease as the women with 10 or more close friends(Friends are Preventive Medicine). Since it can be hard to find that, most women tend to stay by themselves rather than get hurt and back-stabbed. Little do they know, their health is being effected because they don 't have that person to confine in, to be vulnerable with,
As any normal teen, I was nervous for the first day, mainly being that my best friend had transferred to another school. I thought I wouldn’t be able to make any friends, and such did happen. I was never fully able to “fit in.” My hair was never long enough; my body was never skinny enough I was like the jigsaw puzzle that never fit. But not only did I have to fit in with my peers, I had to also fit in at home to what I considered to be the perfect family. My dad and mom were successful business tycoons, my two sisters were very popular and always maintained a perfect g.p.a. and then there was me, struggling to even get a B+ in class ...
friends to plat with but, it was a blessing in disguise. This helped me stay on the right path and focus on
She doesn’t know this, but she changed my life. She was there for me when it seemed like no one else was. When most of my friends were dissolving around me and I just didn’t feel like I could do anything right, she was there, and she made everything seem okay. It didn’t matter that I was inevitably going to graduate with a GPA a tenth of a point lower than I wanted, or that my director told me that he was disappointed in me because I just didn’t seem focused lately, or that my other friends just weren’t talking to me anymore. It didn’t matter because she was there and she made me feel safe. She’s my best friend, and I love her and admire her for so many different reasons.
Changes in friends happen to everybody for different reasons. This is evident when looking at the way physical separation between people leads to a weakening in friendship and then an end in friendship all together as time continues. While keeping in touch with a few people is natural, moving or a change in setting will cause an end in friendship because new people will replace old friends from the previous setting and a place’s social environment may change that friend into someone completely new.
My first year of junior high, (in our school that was seventh grade) I was not spending all my time trying to be popular like all the other people in my grade. I was just being me how I always had been. One day at I was sitting at the lunch table with a bunch of people I would hang around with sometimes. Some of them were talking about there weekends.
The sun gleamed vibrantly on August 5, 2008, but I did not sense the warmth as my thoughts were elsewhere. I was only six years old at the time and preparing to begin first grade in less than one month. As I crossed the threshold into the home of my best friend, I had a sensation everything would change. At such a young age, I was having to tell my best friend goodbye. Blake Basgall had leukemia and would not be around when I returned from vacation, according to my mom. That day, I had spent hours coloring a picture in his favorite color, blue, so I could give it to him prior to heading to my grandma’s for the week. Blake was my first real friend. He had a thoughtful and daring heart through all of his surgeries and medication treatments. Blake Lee Basgall would become an inspiration
Friendship is a relationship that all the individuals can create by themselves. Though it is not a god gifted relationship like that of the relationship of a mother, father, sister, brother or any of the other family but still it is one of the best relations an individual can possess. People who have true friends consider themselves as the luckiest individuals on earth.
The idea of meeting someone special for the first time is always portrayed as the most beautifully fated incident whether in books or movies. When I met my best friend for the first time, we didn’t bump into each other with papers from our books flying majestically in the air and we didn’t have a staring contest in the middle of a crowded hallway. We also certainly didn’t think we would end up being friends, let alone inseparably close to each other.
I make new friends wherever I go. I have always made friends very easily. I feel that is because I am not afraid to walk up to random strangers and start a conversation. One time, my mom and dad took my brother, sister, and I on vacation to Wisconsin Dells. We went to a hotel and waterpark in one called Mt. Olympus. There was many people there. Somehow I got separated from my family by the kiddy pool. I then just looked around and saw a boy about my age playing alone just a few steps from me. I introduced myself and asked him where he was from. He said that his name was Bret and he was from Chicago. I found that very cool and continued to play with Bret for the remainder of our trip. We were nearly best friends when I started the long journey home. The second time I recall being really friendly was at the Menominee County Fair. A boy from my school named Ian was there, but he was all alone and doing nothing. I was with my close nit group of friends, but I invited him to join us. He was actually very nice and interesting. From that day forward he has been one of my closest friends. The third time I remember being genuinely friendly was when a younger kid from my school was getting bullied by kids from my grade. The boy 's name was Trae and he played football for the jv team. Players from the varsity team where picking on him for the way he spoke. As a team captain, I felt it was my duty to do something about it. I confronted my teammates about it and told them to stop. They of course took it well and did exactly what I asked. I also had them apologize for what they had done. They did not feel like they had to but I made sure they did so. Trae went from being quiet and mostly unseen in the locker room to out and about talking to everyone with a big smile on his face. He thanked me for what and I did and told that it was no problem and that if it was the other way around I am sure he would have done the same
Firstly, I now know that it’s okay to be interested in different things and to want to venture down a new path. There is nothing wrong with being alone in something because if it’s something you enjoy then it shouldn’t matter whatsoever. If I had followed my friend into things she enjoyed instead of things I was interested in, I wouldn’t have grown into who I am now. My empowerment in student council allowed me to receive multiple scholarships and gain the leadership experience that I travel with today. I feel that this was a personal challenge which allowed me to see my own potential. Secondly, I learned that it is okay for change to occur. Once I had created an attachment to my best friend, it was hard for me to understand the small-scale change we were undergoing. This lesson allowed me to make a connection with an article we read called How Friendships Change in Adulthood, written by Julie Beck. Beck discusses the hierarchy of relationships as peoples ages increase, and unfortunately friendships falls towards the bottom. She explains that during adolescence, there’s a lot more self-disclosure and support between friends, but they’re still trying to discover their personal identity. William Rawlins states that the unfortunate part of this is, “In adolescence, people have a really retractable self. They’ll change,” (Beck, 2016). Although Beck also notes that young adults have time to devote to their friends, they’re constantly changing. By growing up and moving onto bigger things, such as grade school to high school, our networks are also growing. This allows for them to experience new things and get to know new people (Beck, 2016). I feel that this is exactly what happened between Makayla and I. Thankfully, now I know that without change, there is no room for new knowledge or adventure. I believe that this allowed my attitude and behaviour to take on a more positive and confident role in
As I reach the seemingly boring age of 19, I am able to look back and reflect on how my choices in the past have gotten me to where I am today. One of the most significant decisions I have made in my life was to minimize my friend group. Now, losing friends is something you hear about before you even hit junior high. The common phrase is repeated over and over again, when referring to high school, “You find out who your real friends are.” As a scrawny little freshman, with no sense of reality, I refused to believe that that phrase would ever apply to my life. The end of my sophomore year is when my then, sixteen-year-old self, realized that that overused phrase was more relevant to my life than I wanted it to be. So I did something about it.
The reason I believe I was this way, was because of the environment I grew up in. My hometown has about 2,000 people, where everyone knew everyone. Once I got a group of friends established, it really didn’t change a whole lot. I was used to the “same ole same ole” and I had no reason to want to change the way my life was. I realized that I would be starting all over in Platteville, and that I would need to get involved. This meant stepping out of my comfort zone, and getting involved in clubs, while meeting new