Parents’ expectations shape the life of their children. These expectations affect the children psychologically, behaviorally, and socially. When they are too high, they build up pressure on the kids, sometimes leading them to feeling displeased with themselves and even to depression. When they are too low, this may lead to the children not achieving their full potential with the lack of encouragement and support. As for me, my parents’ expectations were always high, encouraging me to always do my best, supporting me in every aspect of my life, but with always meeting their expectations throughout the years, more and more expectations were built up and which needed to be maintained.
I was an only child for six years before my first sister came. Throughout these years, all the attention was focused on me. My parents wanted me to be the best kid in the crowd, the best between my friends, the best in school, and eventually the best in everything. Before the time I reached first grade, my mother had taught me how to read and write properly. As my first sister came, the attention never ceased to revolve around me especially that I was in school now. My mother used to read with me every story, study with me every for every subject, and stay with me until I wrote all of my homework. She had me raised up to her standards so well that I even became a perfectionist. Papers on my notebooks used to become so thin and faded away because of my constant erasing of the word if it was not properly written in the best handwriting. My father was always a great support alongside my mother. He did not pressure me as much as my mother did. He was always an encouragement to me when I did something wrong, trying to soothe situations out when my mother w...
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...ghest grades due to the large amount of money they are spending on me and their expectations of me being a high achiever. But I know all of this was done to make me happy at the end.
Not every person can live up to their parents expectations, but I will always be thankful to my parents for this. Their high expectations have molded me throughout my years to be the best person I can possibly be and will continue to be. They have taught me the right thing from the wrong, and even now when they get disappointed in something, they don’t try to bring me down but on the contrary, they try to comfort me and even sometimes tell me that I do not always have to live up to my own very high expectations of myself. I will forever be thankful to my parents, for I would not be the person I am today without them. Seeing them happy and proud makes me the happiest person in the world.
There was always going to be pressure on me in one form or another, whether it be from my Mom, a teacher, or even my friends. But, I learned that letting these expectations compromise who I was; letting them get in my way by making me doubt myself, was never good. And I’m not writing this to say expectations are a bad thing. Expectations from others or myself are healthy, they provide us standards to hold ourselves to and present us with attainable goals. However, letting these expectations define you in moments in which you have to step to the plate and “swing” in life is never a good thing.
As a maturing adult I now realize the importance of having a strong parental foundation. Throughout my life there have been moments where both parents demonstrated the characteristics of all four basic parenting styles. However, as I aged it became apparent that my parents had successfully found their niche in a parenting style that was analogous with their personality and beliefs. In my father's case it was the authoritative parenting style. With this style he captured my trust and respect; never letting me down. Furthermore, it was my mother's permissive parenting that undeniably contributed towards my love and gratitude for her. There were also instances where my parents influenced my life both positively and negatively. Nevertheless, I am forever grateful for having my parents in my life, for they contributed (and continue to contribute) towards my success as a growing adult.
...their son, however, these expectations are unrealistic. Unrealistic expectations are one of ways to maintain family’s function in equilibrium. (Loeschen, 1998) In this family, Siu-ming is expected to enter Secordary Six and univesity, also cooperate with his parents. Yet this expectation is set from the parents without considering Siu.ming’s willingness and competence. Hence, the expectation is just to makes his parents feel worthy by achieving this expectation and fulfill what his parents want.
Imagine a relationship between a coach and a player. The job of the coach is to make his student better at the sport; therefore, he puts pressure upon the player and expects him to show off the skills that he teaches him. This pressure and expectation can lead to the player winning or losing depending on the player’s motivation. Also, depending upon the result of the competition, the coach and the player can have a strong relationship or a weak one with growing distances and irritation if the two do not get along. Likewise, in the novel, The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan, the mothers develop many expectations of their daughters as they begin to worry about their daughters’ future. Although having expectations from a child can lead to a negative effect in a relationship, it can also have a positive outcome in a relationship.
Growing up I thought that the only way to make my parents happy and to notice me was to follow the expectations they had for my older brother. I thought their expectations were supposed to be my goals, but as I got older I started to realize that meeting their expectation wasn't good for me. I wasn't supposed to just have goals to make them happy. I was supposed to have goals that I wanted, goals that were supposed to benefit me. After reading "Only Daughter" by Sandra Cisneros it helped me confirm this feelings I was having. You don't always have to meet up with your parents standards to be acknowledged or for them to be proud of you. You shouldn't let that stop you from accomplishing your goals and that one day the people that love you will be proud that you achieved your goals.
Beyond genetics, parents have an extremely significant impact on the emotional, moral, and social development of their children. This is understandable, as many children interact solely with their parents until they reach school-age. Parents have the ability to determine a child’s temperament, their social abilities, how well-behaved or in control of their emotions they are, how mature and ambitious the child will be, and so forth. (Sharpe) Furthermore, parents have both ideals for their children as well as ideals for themselves, and how they raise their children is deeply influenced by this.
Deep down inside, I have always known my parents are loving parents that will do anything they can to support me to prosper and succeed in life. The only problem is that my parents came from very traditional household that used the authoritarian parenting style, so that is the style they used on me. While growing up with parents using the authoritarian parenting style, I was not exposed to their warmth or nurturing side. Instead, I was taught to respect authority and traditional structure in a demanding, controlling and punitive way. This affected me in a negative way as I was expected to follow strict rules unconditionally with absolute obedience, and my parents rarely gave me choices or options as they had very high expectations of what I should be doing. For example, when I was in junior high, my parents selected all of my courses and I had no control over my school schedule. They told me that they were doing this because they knew what was good for me and what career path I should be going into in the future. However, what they did not understand at that time is that their actions lowered my self-esteem and prevented me to act independently; as a result, I never really learned how to set my own limits and personal standards until I entered my sophomore year in high school.
I chose to write about Only Daughter by Sandra Cisneros because I am the only daughter of three children. Therefore, I can relate to this essay because I constantly strive to make my father proud in everything that I do, along with feeling as though I am alone and not understood by my family. My father is constantly in the back of my mind so whatever I do revolves around how I know he would feel about it. Due to this I am more studious when it comes to my education because I know that he will be more supportive the better that I do. Without my dad I would not have come this far in what I have accomplished because I would not have had to prove myself to anyone. Being the first born and the only girl, my parents and family many times do not know how to handle how I feel or what I enjoy because I am more studious out of my entire family. Because of this I
My parents have always pushed me to be better than they were. They knew that if I wanted to be successful I needed to go to college. In highschool, they always made me put my education before anything else. My parents didn’t go to college so they would always tell me to not make that mistake because their lives could have been easier if they would of just invested a few more years into their education. They would also tell me about all the opportunities that missed out on because they decided not to further their education.
Expectations is defined as a strong belief that someone should achieve something in the future. Parents often set high expectations for their children whether is in arts, school, and sports. Often, these expectations put pressure on children to make their parents happy. But to what extent is too high??
First I’m going to talk about how this lie affects relationships between adults and teenagers. Here’s the problem; adults don’t expect enough out of teenagers today. When I was doing research for this speech, I came across the website parentingteens.com. This website popped up first on Google, so it must by good. Right? WRONG! I went to the “setting up expectations” section by author, Denise Witmer. The list of expectations is pathetic! For pre and young teens, the expectations are making your bed everyday, being able to take a phone message, and cleaning your room once a week with help from Mom and Dad. (parentingteens.com) There is a warning at the top of this list saying that these expectations might be overwhelming and too much for your teen, so just pick one to start with! The li...
Our parents work hard to get us where we are today. Due to the fact that my parents had lack of education and there English wasn 't that good they wasn’t able to get a job that was more relaxing. Though they work in company only they were able to earn enough to raise all of us. Through nurture, now that I’m older I don’t exactly see all the struggles that my parent had gone through to raise me, but I do see and understand more about the struggles. Their love for us, nothing can compare to it. Seeing what my parents had gone through and how hard they have work inspired me to work hard, go to school get a good job so in the future they can depend on me and just rest.
My mother was taking care of me, and my three other siblings all alone by herself. When my father was living my mother only had one job, but now she had to work more. She had a massive impact on our lives by making sure we had everything we needed. Because I was the oldest of my siblings, I felt like I was a parent. At just eight years old, I had to skip school just to make sure my siblings had someone to look after them while my mother worked. I was obligated to feed them, give them baths, and put clothes on them. It was very difficult, but I knew my mother had to pay bills, and take care of us and herself, so I knew she couldn’t afford a babysitter. When times got very tough, my mom would get stressed out and take it out on us by throwing tantrums, hollering at us and beating on us. I didn’t have a choice but to encourage my mother, and be the one to push her to not give
Article one gives the student’s point of view on how living up to high expectations can cause a great deal of stress. However, the second article explains the point of view from a parent, providing statistics on a parent’s level of expectation. The two sources are different because they provide information on both kinds of expectation; self-expectation and family expectation. They are common because the two article explain the affect that expectations can have on the student, both good and bad. They both supply information about the benefits of living up to a high expectation and also cons of living up to
My parents are brave; they will do anything for my happiness. Not only mine, but also their friends, and families. My father has many friends, and he always helps them whenever they need them most. Without my parents, I probably will not survive. Heroes usually best described as selfless, brave, and often inspiring. A friend of my mother just heard a bad news from her family back in Indonesia, telling that her father has a cancer that already spread in his body. She has to go back and visit her father, but can't afford the plane ticket. My mom not hesitantly let her borrow her money for the ticket. During The May riot in Indonesia, everybody in my complex tried to run away since the natives were going to kill the Chinese. But, My father and couple of his friends ordered them to stay and fight back, and it worked. The natives ran when they saw a crowd of Chinese trying to kill them back. My parents are the most inspiring people for me. They taught me things that I need to know like drugs, and other important things. My father always inspired me to do the right things, to be strong, and be independent. I am sure that all parents that did a lot of things for their children are heroes.