The Middle Child

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Tino Martinez grew up as the middle child with an older brother and a younger sister. Studies have shown that middle children work hard, make trustworthy friends, are ambitious people, and excellent mediators. One theory touts that middle children learn exceedingly early the need to be flexible, as they are often carted around to older siblings’ activities, and the need to be patient as they have to wait for a younger child’s needs. Middle children also learn the art of compromise by constantly mediating between their older and younger siblings. Tino has employed these skills in various areas of his life, starting with the military. Tino Martinez has held several jobs during his working career. His most important position was his military career. He spent ten years active duty in the Army and eleven years in the Wisconsin Army National Guard. During which he had one tour to Afghanistan and four tours to Iraq. Tino was in the infantry for fifteen years and for the last six years of his military career he was a wheeled vehicle operator or in layman’s terms a truck driver. After his military career, Tino moved into the information technology field and has worked as a helpdesk technician for such companies as R. W. Baird, United Healthcare, and G. E. Medical. Tino is currently studying at Gateway for a dual major as a Network Specialist and a Security Analyst. He has two semesters left before he graduates with both Associates’ degrees. The time and effort required to graduate with two degrees is incalculable. There are only a handful of classes that coincide between the two programs of study. This is indicative to Tino’s ambitious nature, and the arduous work he has put in to making himself a success. Tino’s fortitude... ... middle of paper ... ...him and his family. However, being a middle child has prepared him for a life of independence. Even though many middle children are unintentionally neglected, by their parents, they actually benefit from this in the long run. They become more independent, think outside the box, feel less pressure to conform, and are more empathetic. Tino has been able to make decisions on his own due to the skills he has learned throughout his life. Tino has been able to return to school and thrive. Not many people have the tenacity to reboot their life after spending much time and effort into a previous career. Being a middle child taught him patience; a virtue he is now employing by studying two programs and prolonging his graduation. In all, Tino was required to take 45 classes in order to graduate from both programs of study. A feat that should be applauded and celebrated.

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