Happiness Doesn’t Depend on Marriage

These days people seem to think that marriage is the only way to be committed to someone. That people who gets married will be happier than those who don’t. It seems like they are saying that the normal thing to do if you want to have a family is to get married, and that people who have a family without marriage or those who had a divorce are wrong and/or bad parents. Whether or not someone wants to get married or divorced should be completely up to them, as no one knows their situation better than they do.

There are a lot of reasons why people get married, having kids should not be a reason for people to get married. Although this is a common reason why people get married, it doesn’t usually end well. When people gets married just because they got pregnant or have kids, they are not thinking about their relationship and wether or not they are compatible or right for each other. This could end up badly in the future. For example, when people are not compatible or right for each other, there will be a lot of fights and arguments in their marriage, as they might have a lot of things that they disagree on. This will not be fair for both the parents or the kids, and might eventually end up with a divorce. Which can be traumatizing for the whole family, and best be prevented by thinking more about their relationship than the pregnancy, on if they want to get married or not, in the first place. Grandparents and other family members also plays a big role in this, as they are the ones who usually pushes the new parents to get married when they got pregnant. When they should just be supporting the couple in making their own decision on what they think will be best for their situation.

A lot of people now days consider “divorce”, as a ...

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...d be up to people if they want to stay in a marriage or not. A complicated divorce will make it harder for people to make the right decision and be happy, it will also make the process harder for their children.

These days, people seems based everything in the “norms”. That people who have kids and families should get married. That getting a divorce when they have kids is selfish and wrong, and that other kinds of relationships aside from marriage is bad for families with kids. Moreover, they say that in order to be a happy family, they need to get married. Those people push the people around them to make harsh decisions in their relationships, ones that could lead to an even worse situation. To better help people with hard situations to make the best decision, we have to support them with their decision making, as no one knows their situation better than they do.