Loving myself: Then and Now
Heath L. Buckmaster said “Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be.” Everyone goes through a phase in finding and accepting themselves, for me it took a long time. Around the age of eleven, I had a rare and incurable skin disease called Hidradenitis Suppurativa (HS) for short. It’s a disease that usually begins as pimple-like bumps on the skin. There’s three stages to this disease, I have stage three which is the most appalling stage. My pimple-like bump grows deep into my chest that becomes painful and also leaks blood, which usually has an order. Once it starts to heal it turns into a scar, but that scar thickens which makes
I realized going through many struggles and obstacles, has helped me become the cheerful, extrovert person I am today. I do things now, that the old me would never do, I’m more open, outgoing and confident. I carry myself way better than I ever imagined. I can rule the world now, because I feel great, and when you feel great it’s one of the best feelings especially when you’re truly happy. I’ve learned that no one can put you down or make you feel imperfect but yourself, or unless you allow others to treat you poorly. As much as you can, or whenever you can tell yourself how important, and marvelous you are, because if you don’t believe it you’ll never believe it from someone else. As Lucille Ball says “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this
Eighteen year old me is much happier compared to eleven year old me, something I never guess would have ever happened. I thought I was never going to be happy or able to live my life like regular people, but I was completely wrong because nothing is wrong with me I’m just as unique as anyone else is. Being comfortable with my skin has helped me deal with my skin disease better, because I realized when I was depressed it was harder to deal with the pain. I still have pain here and there but now that I’m happy it’s easier to deal with because I don’t concentrate on the pain, I push it out of my mind. A lot has changed in the past seven years, I’ve gone from being depressed, to hating myself, my body, to being the happiest person ever, and the most accepting person as well. I’m glad I went through this phase, because now I can share my story to others and hope that whatever their battle is, they can get through it and no longer how long they take; months, years, it’s okay because with time you can get through
It was after I had lost someone in my life that was my other half. I didn’t understand who I was, what my purpose was, what made me who I am. As far as I was concerned I was reduced to nothing more than an individual that was now alone. I didn’t realize that my identity was partly crafted from simply just being by their side all the time, that whenever I was introduced to someone, or was talking to mutuals about them, I was known for being their best friend. After the fiasco that became the end of our relationship, I felt as if I was just floating through the days and nights. This feeling went on for about 2 months until I slowly came out of it. I didn’t experience a grand epiphany of any sort that inspired me to change myself. I was painting and listening to music and the thought just slowly came to me. I love to paint, and I love listening to and creating and playing music. I began to gain back my sense of identity by engaging in activities I loved. I’m a painter, a musician, a writer, a passionate lover of movies. I’ve learned that identity can isn’t set in stone, there’s always room for
It is a difficult and long process to find yourself. Erickson tells us that is is a natural stage in life to question who you are. Everyone goes through it, regardless of age, sex, race, or time. Take Chang Yu-i for example. She pulled good experiences in her life, such as having unbound feet and getting some education, and used them to help form who she was becoming But she also took the experiences she did not like, such as discontinuing her education as such a young age to get married, and accepted them as part of who she was. She grew up strong, and eventually became her own person.
While going on a journey to be successful there are many up and downs that can create a stronger person or knock a person down. When a person keeps on fighting over and over without giving up he or she are described to be ambitious like Jane Golden who was mentioned in Purpose by Angela Duckworth. Continuing to go further and further a person will run into others who are in need of help, and the right thing to do is be caring like Louie Zamperini who is viewed as a hero in today’s world and in Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand. Once reaching a stage in life that is comfortable a person will soon discovered happiness. Principal Ms.Short is starting find happiness at Solon High School. Because success is an accomplishment that is very complex through a long period, it is a mixture of
My life was no walk in the park, as young as I was with so many responsibilities I will always be the person to take charge when it’s needed. Over the years I have begun to understand the meaning of perseverance. With so little to give I openly want to make the day before different from the present. With nothing but empty hands I was clueless on how to change the way I was laying out my life. Again, there was so many ways this man taught me to keep going. He told me that “Life will always kick you too your knees, but remember its all about getting back up and proving everyone wrong” I didn’t understand how I was supposed to get off my knees, Metaphorically you just stand up right? I was completely unaware of the fight I had ahead of me, and too this day im struggling to get off my knees. Over the years I learned to cope with the fact that things don’t change as fast as we want them too. I know understand that, The wisdom I learn from people isn’t just some old person saying nonsense. In the future its going to prove itself useful, by the time you realize you should have listened its after you know you made the same mistake they told you to
Being a teenager is not as easy as you think, as you grow older life becomes more complicated and frustrating. Sometimes, you get lost. You don’t know what do, you don’t know who to trust anymore and unsure of the path you wish to embark upon. You find it hard to enjoy the things you once found pleasure in. As time passes by the feeling doesn’t stop and then there will come a point that you’ll discover something terrifying. You’re depressed. The world doesn’t seem as beautiful anymore. You don’t want anybody else to help you. You have become an introvert now. You’ll feel as if you don’t have any worth in this world anymore for days or months at a time. Sometimes the pain feels lighter. It’s because time heals all wounds. I chose this topic because I know a few people with depression and honestly speaking, it’s not easy. I know that this research will be beneficial to many people.
I would like to open with a quote from Charles Swindoll. It reads, “life is 10% of what happens and 90% of how you react to it.” I am a firm believer of this statement because there will always be things out of your control, but your reaction will always be up to you. As for the positive experiences, those are the ones you cherish most, but the negatives are what teach you the most. After listening to my speech, I want you to understand how both the positive and negative experiences in my life have benefitted me. I was able to develop significant skills and relationships through the major events in my life.
“Progress looks like a bunch of failures and you 're going to have feelings about that because it’s sad but you can’t fall apart. And then one day , you will succeed.” (Grey’s Anatomy) It is the law of life that significant events will occur throughout a human’s existence on Earth. We exist, survive, and thrive because we are able to change. With that in mind, I am grateful for all the opportunities that have and continue to be given to me despite my past failures,lack of inspiration and confidence.
To begin with, my life five years ago was very swell. I was fourteen years old and in the eighth grade. I hadn’t got a job yet, I didn’t have very many friends, I was very shy and antisocial and was always on the computer. I was getting excited about my Washington D.C. trip with my school but I was also very nervous about having to share a room and a bed. I was even more nervous because I knew what shorty was going to follow; which was me going over to the high school to become a freshman. I was only so nervous because it was going to be a new place, a new school and a bunch of new faces around me. Then again I was very happy in life because I had set goals but I am also very happy in life now.
... is constantly radiating with happiness. The rain cloud that was lurking over my dad’s head for the past year has now been replaced with rainbow. And me, well, strange memories and waves of nostalgia tainted with deja vu have been hitting me frequently. Sometimes, I long for the days that my dad, mom, sister, and I would spend together--all four us, one happy family. I could try to blame it on the lack of sleep or nourishment, but I actually think I’ve developed the “Peter Pan Syndrome,” or rather the “Peter Pan Syndrome” already encoded within me has simply grown and developed, like a small tumor of now epic proportions. When am I going to let go and truly grow up? Nevertheless, every now and then I look back at my life and come across a blank spot where I lost myself, like skips on a scratched CD. Even though I’m happy, that blank spot never fails to hurt like hell.
Nothing has changed my life more since the realization that I had to make who I was something that I chose, and not something that just happened. Since this revelation nothing seemed the same anymore, as though I could see the world through new eyes. It changed everything from my taste in music, literature, and movies. Things of a dark and pessimistic nature used to hold a strong allure for me, and yet I found much of things I once enjoyed didn't seem to entertain me anymore. I remembered the mental state that I once held and now seeing how I have changed, know that I can never return to the prison I came from.
My self-image is so low that I have a tremendous amount of self-pity or self-hatred. I do however want to find that happy median where I'm comfortable in my own skin. It's odd how my feelings about myself change from day to day. I engage quite often in interpersonal conversation, question my motives and encouraging myself to move forward. My success in business attributes to my abilities but I still put an unbelievable amount of stress on myself to be the best and never seem comfortable to relax and enjoy what I have and w...
Instead of accepting that I am a certain way, I know I can choose a different approach. Instead of focusing on negative emotions, I know I can control my emotions. Reactive language becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, while proactive language creates the reality I want to see. By being proactive, and subordinating feelings to values, I can bring anything I desire into my life. I am ready to become more aware of where I focus my time and energy. I do this by determining what I have real control over and focusing my energy there. By focusing on what I can control and letting go of what I cannot, I am maximizing my productivity. The things I am concerned about but cannot control can only take my focus off the things I can change for the better. I am determined to grow my circle of influence and shrink my circle of control. I can solve problems that I can directly control by working on my habits. I can solve problems I indirectly control by changing my methods of influence and how I react. Problems I cannot control can be helped by taking the responsibility to work through them with cheer and
There are strengths I always knew I had,such as kindness, that I didn’t know how to use to it’s highest effect. Then there were strengths that I just didn’t know how to use at all, such as forgiveness and mercy. It is difficult to hone such abstract states of being in oneself and I know I’ll have work harder and devise new plans and ideas to strengthen these traits and others. I believe that the process of strengthening each was beneficial to my well being as I focused on inward strength as well as outward. I can only hope that my efforts touched someone else as deeply as doing them touched
First of all my life is wonderful and tremendous I would have to say. Although, every so often it turns dreadful, but I always manage to turn it around so I can be happy and joyful again. Even though, when I was younger my life wasn’t like it is today. I had to deal with enormous changes in my life to get it the way it is today. The biggest change had to deal with friendship.
It 's so sad to see many people not truly loving themselves and putting conditions on when they will love themselves like when they get a better job, a new home, lose weight, etc. Make a decision right now to love yourself as the person you are right now in this moment. I feel that if you are not willing to start today then you will keep finding excuses and you can go your entire life with excuses on why you can 't genuinely love yourself and this I promise will keep you from creating the reality you truly