This Is How You Lose Her And The Love Relationship Analysis

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Two novels about love, both have many in common and yet differ in a way. This Is How You lose Her and The Lovers Dictionary are both two novels in which the narrator seems to have a love and hate relationship with love. To the reader it would appear that these two narrators in the novel seem to agree and disagree with their perspective in relationships. These two narrators both seem to agree upon the facts that relationships do hit tough times, and that the narrators are the ones who seem to putting in the most effort in the relationship that they would soon regret. These narrators however do disagree with their way of looking at cheating. In the novel This Is How You Lose Her, Yunior says” The truth is there ain’t no relationship in the world …show more content…

As noted in The Lovers Dictionary, the narrator emphasizes “There are times when I regret everything…Everything I’ve given, and the waste of all time I’ve spent on us”. It is clear and obvious, the narrator regrets everything that has taken place in this relationship. She sets forth a message that that makes the readers conclude that she put in a lot of effort into this relationship, so whatever did happen that upset the narrator he or she definitely regrets wasting time and trying hard in that specific relationship. In like manner, Yunior who is the narrator in This Is How You Lose Her shows the same tension and regret in his relationship. Yunior tried his hardest to please Magda when he took her on vacation to Dominican Republic, but when Yunior has had enough of the distance from Magda he says “I feel like you rejected my whole country, Magda”. Yunior clearly feels as though all he did for Magda in this vacation was unappreciated. When he says that he feels his whole whole country was rejected, it probably meant a lot for Yunior because it is his home country in which throughout the novel he expresses his love for. Knowing the fact that Magda has rejected him similarly put him in a state of regret, due to the fact that Magda has only rejected his love and

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