The Loss of a Parent Impacts a Child Greatly

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“At some point along the way, almost every child fantasizes about what life would be like without parents. It would be oodles of fun, with unlimited television, ice cream every night for dinner and none of those pesky rules” (Tesoriero 1). Except this is not how life works. When a parent dies and the reality sets in, it quickly shows us that is not all fun and games as one would think. The death of a parent is a devastating reality that some young children have to face along with the effects it will have on them for the rest of their lives. The loss of a parent impacts a child greatly as this event will twist their whole life around in a blink of an eye. The way the child uses this tragedy to shape them as a person will determine the person they become whether it be a good or bad thing is how they perceive and handle the difficult situation.
There are two types of death a child may experience with his or her parent. Sadly the most common way is an illness such as cancer or other medical problems. When a parent has cancer it can be very difficult for the child. After years of long hospital drives and countless hours in different waiting rooms crying, the child may grow angry or upset when their parent is not getting better. In this situation it is important for the child to be informed about what is happening with their parent. The treatments are not working as they used to, this means mom or dad is going to die soon. The child most likely has noticed that their parent is not as active anymore. It is important to let them know about the situation so there is no false hope which can lead to a more devastating heartbreak than expected. During this difficult time the child is watching their parent slowly die. The child may become a...

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...ill not be there to help her choose the dress. She will not be walking down the aisle with her proud crying father. The son who just had his first baby girl will never get to take her to her grandparents’ house. The only thing these children have of their parents are pictures. These adults grow up as children seeing life in a whole new light. Everyday walking around seeing others with their parents is heartbreaking for them. They often question why it had to be their parents. They see the things they should have been thankful for that others do not generally think about. They are grateful for everything they have now, they just wish it would not have had to be because of this reason.
A parent’s death can have a good impact on a child or a bad impact. Sometimes, the child grows up and uses this pain to become something great. They agree that their parent dying early

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