Reflection: Intimate Relationships

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One of the greatest philosophers, Aristotle said “Man is by a nature a social animal.” I totally agree with his words because people would not be able to survive without human contact. I cannot imagine myself living on a desert island for the rest of my life. Even if I may be able to find or create food and shelter, I would not be able to create any creature whom I can share emotions with unless I am God. Since born, each of us has been surrounded by special societies and cultures which grow bigger, wider, and deeper as time pass by, affecting who we are all now. The longer we stay in this social world, the more chances we get to meet various people and build relationships. Communications, companionships, and relationships are crucial to our …show more content…

After learning and exploring throughout the course Intimate Relationships, I realized I need to change myself first so that I can have healthier relationships with others. To influence others, I need to acknowledge what kind of good and bad things are in me so that I can utilize my strengths and overcome my weaknesses. In other words, I need to be able to clearly say who I am so that others can see “true-me.” Intimate Relationships course truly helped me to realize who I am with many interesting topics. The top three course topics I would like to relate to my personal experiences in this essay are attachment styles; intimacy dances & interpersonal boundaries; and …show more content…

I have entered the school one year younger than my friends because my father thought I am smart enough to start school one year earlier and still adjust well, saving one year to my life. However, it did not seem to go well unlike my parents’ expectation. My parents let me act and behave like one year older girl. I think I might have been confused then since I had to deceive my true age. I had to hide quite few things to cover my true age. For example, “animal sign”, known as Chinese zodiac sign, was quite a common topic to talk about, and I had to say I was born in the year of Cow even if I was born in the year of Tiger. It would have been alright if the culture does not really mind the age difference, but the culture and rules were not like that, and it might have influenced my attachment styles little by

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