Our future is our children! Coaches, teachers, pastor, uncles, cousins are all considered mentors when they spend quality time around young children. I have always heard of the surrogate mother, but never the surrogate father. We need to take a look at how we can improve the relationships between fathers and their involvement in the education institutions of America. Some of the mentors mentioned above should be able to pass on knowledge of being a young man in today’s society. Well there is a reason for this pecking order and this important figure not being mentioned. All of the above can and will be a father figures, i.e., surrogate fathers to some young child during their lifetime. Every since I was old enough to remember, some male has played a significant role in my development. From my days at the 43rd St. Boys Club, I have notice males becoming mentors or confidants to me. This was extremely important in me trying to figure out what does it take to be a man. I use to feel neglected because I didn’t have my biological father around. But I did notice that there were important men in my life, whether they were biologically connected or just males willing to contribute to my developmental growth. I would not realize until later how much these men would affect my life and how I look at the world through their eyes.
I was a child that was raised by a single guardian. I didn’t have a biological mother or father raise me or play a big a intricate part of my development. There was a time in my life that I use to accept my mother not being there for me, but rejected my father. Why did I look at my father in a negative way and not my mother? Eventually, as I went over that thought in my mind, I realized that I was ...
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...ave to set an example and hopefully pass on the necessity and importance of having an education to my children as will as others in urban areas.
I also realize the positive affect that I was able to give to those children that didn’t have a male figures to look up to and feel that necessary male bonding. The F.A.M.I.L.E. program will help fathers get acclimated to the educational process. It will be used as networking tool to enhance their children education. During some of my encounters at schools or P.T.A. meetings I felt an apprehensive towards me as if I shouldn’t be here. After attending several meetings this feeling between me and the administrators subsided. Eventually the teachers were able to accept my involvement and saw a drastic improvement in my children’s behavior. This program will be a part of all activities that involves male participation.
Fatherless has been one of the most important challenges and epidemics in our generation. The effects of growing up...
In this article, the editors discussed the social trends and how they can change in nature of father involvement. They tested how children today will make their expectations taking upon a role of mother and father. Increase in father absence is associated with poor school achievement, reduced involvement in labor force, early childbearing, and high risk-taking behaviors. In addition, boys without fathers will experience problems with their sexual orientation and gender identity, school performance, psychosocial adjustment, and self-control. The editors differentiated the girls by how affected they were without fathers.
The focus of my discussion in this paper is the “dumbing-down” of dads in our modern society. In researching this topic, I came across the following comic strip that illustrates quite clearly how dads are often depicted/ portrayed to children, especially in the media. In the image copied below, we can see how the representation of the dad has changed over the years. The children comment that they are watching an old show where the father was actually an intelligible being and there ensues the laughter on the part of the mother and the children. I feel this is a theme that has come about as comic relief, but also as a way of demeaning men as partners and parents. As a mother, I know I am guilty of this, and as a society I think we propagate this concept way too easily.
Although single parenthood is on the rise in homes today, children still often have a father role in their life. It does not matter who the part is filled by: a father, uncle, older brother, grandfather, etc...; in almost all cases, those relationships between the father (figure) and child have lasting impacts on the youth the rest of their lives. In “I Wanted to Share My Father’s World,” Jimmy Carter tells the audience no matter the situation with a father, hold onto every moment.
A father’s role in a child’s life is extremely important when it comes to a child’s development. With so much emphasis placed on young black boys needing their fathers during crucial developmental ages, the rate of our young black girls growing up without fathers is staggering and overlooked. What is an absent father? The definition is quite simple; an absent father can be defined as a father who is not present in the life of their child whether it is physically, emotionally, or both. Although the absence of a father is detrimental in any child’s life, the absence of such in a young black girl’s life is even more crucial. The absent father in a black girl’s life leads to, in some cases, promiscuity and teenage pregnancy, poverty, and emotional affects such as feelings of unworthiness and unable to be loved, fear of abandonment, and issues with rejection and commitment. The ways in which they view the opposite sex, the outside world and their self are forever tainted as a result of missing the key element of a father.
Throughout Exploring the Role of Father Involvement in the Relationship Between Day Care and Children’s Behavior the main focus is on social and developmental psychologies. The social psychology is examined by the behavior and responses of the children, while developmental psychology was examined by behavior after so much time with parents. The researchers were questioning weather or not the amount time a child spent with their father was related to their misbehavior in a school setting. The study they conducted gave mixed results in which left it possible that these behavioral problems could be blamed on the father and his involvement in the child’s life.
I was a somewhat unwanted child, because the culture exalted male children and despised female children. I was my parents’ third daughter. I was also the darkest skinned, another trait that was undesirable in my culture. I cannot forget that my mother was unsatisfied when she had me. When I was at my tender age my told me about her past and why she wanted a son and dissatisfied when I was born. From her upbringing and the cultural praise of male children, she too wanted a son. However, my father was always proud of us even though we were daughters. As a little girl I would go to my father and touch him in order to become light like him, and he told me I was his precious gold. His love and acceptance of everyone inspired me to aim higher. My father doesn’t believe gender determines a person’s intelligence, so he always hoped for the best for his three daughters and son. I realized that my parents’ had different perspectives on their children because of their varying upbringings. Coming to America I...
Three of the most important roles in father is spending time with their children, being a positive role model, and nurturing their child. These are the most important parts of being a father because the child learns from the adult in their live and if they have an adult who is present in their lives and cares for them then they are more likely to grow up with a higher self-esteem. According to the article Effective Fathering “too many fathers become convinced that they are simply an extra set of hands to help around the house” Men often times do not see themselves as a crucial part of their children’s lives.
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... reflected with the likelihood the father is involved and spend time with their children and to have children who are psychologically and emotionally healthier (Parke). Also the mother and father is more responsive, affectionate, and confident with their infants; better know how in dealing with defiant toddlers; and better advising, connecting, and providing emotional support to their teenagers (Parke). Studies have shown children with involved, caring fathers have better educational outcomes. For instance, a study shows that fathers who are involved, nurturing, and playful with their children tend to have children with higher IQs, better linguistic and cognitive capacities (Parke). Lastly, the children through their adulthood are more patient and can handle the stresses and frustrations associated with schooling better than children with less involved fathers (Parke).
good parenting abilities are vital to maintain a viable relationship with children. The value of a father in
Investigating Father-Son and Mother-Daughter Bonding INTRODUCTION The study that I will be conducting for my Psychology coursework will be on, parental bonding, specifically on mother/daughter and father/son relationships. My question is “Do fathers bond better with their sons rather than their daughters, and do mothers bond better with their daughters rather than sons?” John Bowlby was a psychoanalyst that worked from 1940 to 1080. He had a theory that attachment is innate in both infants and mothers.
The role of a father in his child’s life extends past the knowledge of far too many, and can oftentimes be eclipsed by the role of the mother. Although the mother’s role is essential and greatly valued in a child’s life and development, the father plays a significant role as well. No mother can fill the father’s place in a child’s heart, for fathers nurture and play differently than a mother. Several studies show that an attendant and highly involved father is critical, especially in the early stages of a child’s life. The absence of a father during this stage can lead to “impaired social and behavioral abilities in adults” (Robert, 2013). But what is the role of the father? This paper discusses the role of the expectant father, the birth experience for him, the transition into fatherhood, and the rise of single fathers.
... couple, married or unmarried, who have a child together can be detrimental to the child, mentally, emotionally, educationally, and also in his future endeavors. Therefore, it is important to have a father figure in the life of these children. Without a father figure, the child’s future is at risk. Children who have fathers who are involved in their lives, whether the children are biological, adopted, or step children, have a better chance of excelling socially, emotionally, and academically. However, if there is no way of obtaining a father figure for a child, mentoring programs are definitely great places for a child to learn about relationships, principles and morals, discipline, and trust. This program fixes the problem of an absent father or father figure. With this program, the emotional damage that an absent father causes to a child can be repaired and saved.
...lthy and successful family. If a father is missing from a daughters life they are then considered deprived of a significant amount of love, self-worth, and confidence. The effects of a fathers absence has been demonstrated in the research presented as being damaging to the overall wellbeing of their daughters. It doesn’t matter if the catalyst of the father’s absence is divorce or having a child out of wedlock as a society we need to fix this problem. Before adults decide to have children they need to first prepare for a healthy marriage which includes learning the dynamics of a marriage. The logic behind this would be to decrease the amount of fathers lost to divorce. There are times, for instance death, when the loss of a father is unavoidable, but we need to begin to educate our fathers with the importance and impact they bring to their daughters lives.