I Don 't Have American Friends

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HOST: Today, more and more students choose to study aboard in America, such as Chinese students. Some people may think that international students can easily get together with local students. However, things are really different from that. The truth is that most Chinese international students always cannot get along well with American students. Only few Chinese international students have local American friends and even so, they just have fewer American friends. Why they cannot make American friends? Besides, as some parents are highly control their children, does this pheonomene make pressure on students from their parents and how can we solve that? Jia Ren, a Chinese international students who study at ASU, talks about her situations about having American friends or not. Jia: I don’t have American friends. I think the most difficult part avoiding me to be a great friend with them is language. Host: Jia Ren talks about her situation that she doesn’t have American friends and also she points out a problem to hinder her become friends with American is the language. Jia Ren also explains it specifically. Jia: I always afraid to talk to them. It’s because I don’t know if I talk about this or talking in this form, they will be angry with me or not. I afraid that what I said may cause another meaning to American students, which may cause some problems. Host: People have to admit which Jia Ren said that the different-meaning parts of language will always cause problems when we are communicating. This is a big problem of international students cannot communicate with local students. Besides, there are still some inner problems about international students themselves, which prevent they sucesseful communicate with local st... ... middle of paper ... ... Deng:During talking with my daughter, I actually have some new viewpoint to blend this new American life. Host: So, the main reason Mr. Deng not to blame her daughter on making no American friends is communication. We all know that communication can solve many problems, thus, Chinese students can try to talk to their parents to prevent parents-control on friends making. Moreover, according to our interviews, the most important two problems preventing international students to make local friends are language and inner factors. Local American students think that language is a problem but the problem is that international students always stay only with same nation students and speak their own language. By the end, it is easy to see that both sides students can do a little thing to change this problem. But we still hope the university can provide a hand to help them.

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