After yesterday’s class, I have thought a lot about my attachment style, and how I relate to others in a professional setting. I think, that for a very long I have removed myself from having relationship with people I work with. Not to say that I haven’t been available, but I definitely have had my guard up. I do not trust people, and although I am openly out as a gay woman, I am consistently questioning the way people relate to me based on my sexual orientation. I know that it may sound very paranoid, but as a supervisor, I think that people have undermined my place based on my sexual orientation.
This may seem exaggerated, but I think living in the bible belt of America has given me a perspective that many may never be aware of. For example, I am confronted by people that look down on me as a sinner and that as a privileged Christian they do not have to take my direction or guidance. In addition, this privilege and demeaning of my place has been reinforced by others, staying things like “it’s their right to feel that way.” In order for me to be a successful supervisor I am going to have overcoming the pain and discrimination I experience daily. I am just not there yet, it still affects me greatly as I am unwilling to be a quite disturbing gay person that adapts to be tolerated. I demand acceptance and that may never happen.
Until my dream for world peace is fulfilled, I can begin working on becoming skilled in my ability to make and keep a healthy relationship between myself and supervisee. I need to perfect my reflection skill, I want to further develop it, as I think it will help me step back and gain a perspective of the issues surrounding supervision. I think reflection strengthen and deepen ones understa...
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...ee) different from the therapeutic alliance (therapist and client) because the first is a guidance towards professional growth, since the therapeutic alliance is a guidance towards personal growth and healing.
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As part of my HNC study, I will look to define and discuss the importance of reflection. I will be using a variety of sources such as books, web pages, articles and journals in order to gather information. Which in return will allow me to explain why reflection is of such importance.
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Reflecting on my work as a therapist, I recognize the importance of the therapeutic relationship. For instance, in EFT the therapist, “the therapeutic relationship, characterized by presence, empathy, acceptance, and congruence, helps clients to feel safe enough to face dreaded feelings and painful memories (Greenberg, 2014).
Research has shown that a strong therapeutic alliance is necessary for establishing a beneficial contact between the therapist and the client. If the therapist does not encourage the creation of a reliable therapeutic alliance from the beginning of the treatment, it will be hard to develop a constructive relationship with the client later. Establishing the therapeutic alliance will increase the chances of achieving the goal of the treatment because the clients will be willing to cooperate if they trust and respect the therapist. Clients are not likely to cooperate with therapists who impose their authority aggressively. Instead of imposing their authority on the patient, therapists should develop work with their patients by building a mutual relationship based on trust, understanding, and respect for the client.
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Maturing in Northeast Florida, religion substantially impacted my life. I learned everyone was equal and deserved to be treated so. Conversely, I learned only heterosexual relationships were accepted into the Kingdom of God and discrimination toward homosexual individuals was present. As I advanced through my adolescent years, I discovered I was unique from my male peers; I felt attracted to my female and male classmates. With my knowledge of the discrimination and non-existing acceptance of homosexuality, at age fourteen, I faced my greatest challenge. To be a Christian, I felt I must repress my feelings toward males and to not be my true self. Throughout middle school, I strongly struggled internally and externally with my sexuality. Internally,
The reason I chose this subject is that the question of homosexual equality and especially marriage equality has become a highly discussed topic in the last few years, getting more and more publicity thanks to all kinds of different media trying to raise society’s awareness and making statements on the matter. There are posters on the streets and bus stops with the script: “Do you have to hide your sexuality at work? Discrimination is illegal. Fight it.” There are forums and social websites on the Internet supporting the LGBTQ community. ...
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As a gay male, I have encountered a numerous amount of situations in my lifetime where i was discriminated against or harassed for my sexuality. However, every instance I have encountered this discriminatory situations, I have gained valuable insight in what it means to not be accepted. Going into a foreign culture, I hope to spread this understanding
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For three of my four years in high school, I’ve been the only out LGBT student in my entire school. I’ve had to be the poster child, the spokesperson for all things gay. I’ve had to simultaneously define and break every single gay stereotype in the book. I was the butt of every single gay joke, whether it was aimed directly at me or not.
I set out to immerse myself in the lives and culture of the LGBT community. I spent a great deal of time talking with not only LGBT identified individuals, but with organizations dedicated to aiding this cultural group. The follow are my observations from the last 5 weeks spent getting to know my friends and neighbors.