How Do We help the Pain Love and Breakups Establish?

As if college was not stressful enough with the struggles of adjusting to new places, lack of finances, new friends, maintaining grades as well as sleep and having a social life, every person at this age has thought to themselves "Holy crap, the next ten years of my life will make or break me". In our society it is expected that we go to school or find a career to earn money. All of this is done for personal reasons, but for most individuals it is ultimately done with the goal to one day be successful and have a family. It only seems natural that as young, naive adults entering the world, we would be curious to dabble in relationships to potentially find an equal to make the American dream a reality. This whole dating-relationship game is trial and error, so it is natural that some relationships just will not work. In the midst of finding yourself and trying to figure out life, where you will end up next, what school you will go to or job you will take, or meeting new people that suit your lifestyle, heartbreak is inevitable. It has to happen. For some, heart break is too much to handle after the first real blow to the heart. Some swear to never love again, or never enter into another relationship knowing this fatal pain would be difficult to endure once more. The depression was just unbearable and seemingly impossible to overcome. But is that possible? Is this heart break really just a state of mind or do we as humans really experience a physical pain?

When we get physically hurt the anterior cingulate cortex is stimulated. The anterior cingulate cortex is the same part of the brain that is stimulated when emotional pain is felt. This makes it seem more likely that emotional pain and physical pain are not so different ...

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...reshold at which they fire. Because of this, we begin to build a more romantic and happy-go-lucky view of the world like we are seeing everything through rose colored glasses when we are in love. Simply put, we love being in love. It is a hell of a drug.

All of it seems inevitable: the love, the heartbreak, the attraction to other people. It seems to be impossible to not want a special someone because the effects it has on us biologically. It is like a fate we cannot escape because science will not let us run from it. So how do we help the pain love and breakups establish? Studies show that people experiencing this depression from a break up or loneliness do not want to partake in socializing, but the best thing for people feeling this is to surround yourselves with family and friends. Support and interactions with people is the best cure for a wounded heart.