Do you feel like your parents are constantly hovering over you? This is what helicopter parents do. This could potentially be very damaging to you and your life. When is too much decision-making and protecting from the outside world become too strict? Helicopter parents restrict their kids from being independent (Oglesby). Children of helicopter parents are more likely to have health and metal issues (Levine). However some disagree and claim that helicopter parents are helping their children to succeed and lead them on the right path to making good decisions (Schiffrin).
On the other hand, helicopter parents restrict their children from becoming independent
(Oglesby). A study from Keene State College studied students and discovered that students with helicopter parents tend to be less open to new ideas and very dependent on other people (Oglesby). Many colleges have admitted to parents calling in about their child grades and academics. This reveals that students still need their parents to come in and try to fix and repair what only the student has control over. There has to be something wrong when ages around 20 still depend that much on their parents. Some employers have even mentioned that some young adults and adults have their parents come into the interview with their child. With this we can infer that these young adults don’t feel as if they can perform to their best ability without their parents. What will become of this generation when their parents are gone? These parents think and believe they are helping the world out but really they are just making their children’s generation a dependant one. As you can see from this evidence helicopter parents are restricting their children to become independent, the exact opposi...
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...e fun or their child may turn into someone they don’t even know. In the end, when helicopter parents make decisions for their child they create consequences and accidentally hold their child back.
Parents should not act as helicopter parents. One of the reasons they shouldn’t is because they restrict their children from becoming independent. Another reason is because their children are more likely to have heath and mental issues. Some will say that helicopter parents are helping their children to succeed and make the right choices but as evidence shows that is wrong. When parenting have your child make their decisions but console them and help them consider alls sides, but also give them room to grow and make mistakes. Everyone wants to look back at his or her life one day and be happy and satisfied. Hopefully you aren’t taking this opportunity from your own child.
In the article “Helicopter Parents Now Hover at the Office,” The Wall Street Journal columnist Sue Shellenbarger reveals that some parents have begun to involve themselves into their adult children’s job search. Shellenbarger explains that many parent have a hard time watching their child struggle since they have taken part in their daily lives for so long. She then describes that some children do not appreciate the hovering of their parents because the hovering prevents them from developing self independence.
Cutright, Marc. "From Helicopter Parent to Valued Partner: Shaping the Parental Relationship for Student Success." New Directions for Higher Education Winter 2008: 39-48. Psychology and Behavioral Sciences Collection. Web. 11 Nov. 2013.
While her argument is strong in bringing valuable date of college students into place, there is no specific statistic on how many parents hover over their children; in fact, there might not be any way to measure how many parents are “helicopter parents.” There is a spectrum in Sociology that ranges from being permissive, authoritative, or authoritarian. A permissive parent is defined as being “nondemanding and noncontrolling” (University of New Hampshire). An authoritative is defined as being both “demanding and controlling, but they are also warm and receptive to their children’s needs.” while an authoritarian is considered to be “demanding and highly controlling, but detached and unreceptive to their children’s needs” (UNH). From Lythcott-Haims’ discussion about the girl having her father control her life including her major in economics, her father would probably be described as an authoritarian parent with him not letting her make her decisions. Even though this spectrum may bring a better idea on what kinds of parents are, it still doesn’t show numbers on how many parents fall into each category and that may because of how difficult it would be to fall into one parent style when it’s possible to fall in the middle of certain categories. Because of this, the number of helicopter parents might not be
So the student might start feeling the pressure, that there is too much going on in his life and at home, because the parent is putting too much pressure to do better, but the student just can’t stay focused on their studies, and they eventually will develop low grades, he or she might just drop out of school, the parent might want them to work and go to school, that could be difficult for the student. A student needs to be successful in college to succeed, a parent needs to be more supportive, and maybe their child can finish college. Some first generation students will achieve their dream, finish college and pursue their dreams of becoming successful. I think the parents play a big part in their role in life.
According to Carolyn Daitch, Ph.D., director of the Center for the Treatment of Anxiety Disorders Helicopter parents refers to "a style of parents who are over focused on their children". She also added "They typically take too much responsibility for their children's experiences and, specifically, their successes or failures"(n.d). Helicopter parents is all about ‘hovering’ over their children in an effort to become involved in their life that involves over controlling and overprotecting. This is a control in order to protect their children from harm and disappointment in today’s society. These parents also find it hard to let go, won’t allow children to make their own mistakes in life and also placed their own identity
Online predators, pornography, drug trafficking, piracy, and hate sites are just some of the dangers that a child can face on the internet. The article “The Undercover Parent” by Harlan Coben states that parents should use spyware to monitor their children. Coben argues that parents should be able to know what is in their children’s lives. he believes that spyware can prevent children from being targeted by internet predators on social networking sites and even prevent children from being cyber bullied. I agree with Coben’s claim that parents should consider using spyware as a protection for their teens online. There are many possible dangers facing children on the internet and it is essential that parents install spyware.
...rld, parents need to provide them with structure, discipline, and emotional support. The word, “child” shouldn’t be interchangeable with “small adult”. Treating them this way can leave someone insecure, lost, and unprepared for life, as I frequently feel. People are becoming more and more likely to write children into their narratives as these self-governing characters who know what’s best for themselves, but however convenient and valuable that may seem, that is never the role they were intended to play.
Experiential family therapy is one that believes the root cause of the problems in the families is a result of emotional suppression. This theory is focused on freedom experiencing emotions in the here-and-now. Experiential family therapists believe clients should seek self-fulfillment and focus on individual’s roles in the family rather than on the family as a whole. In order to promote growth, the individual and family must both grow. Once families are emotionally healthy, healthy attachments can then be made. I am drawn to this approach because of its focus on the individual. I believe that if individuals are healthy, family roles will become clearer and the system as a whole will become healthier. It is similar to when a spoiled piece of fruit makes it into a fruit salad, the entire salad is then ruined; however, if the entire salad is healthy, everyone will enjoy it. (Nichols, 2014, p. 130-132)
This style may make become difficult for the child in the future and hinder their ability to become independent. These parents pay very close attention to what their child or children do and are going through, especially with their education. Because of this, it may end up giving the child problems in their adult life. In the article “‘Helicopter Parenting’ Hurts Kids Regardless of Love or Support, Study Says.” it states, “it also suggested that lack of warmth can take the situation from bad to worse, amplifying low self-esteem and high-risk behaviors such as binge drinking.”. As well as “including such over-involved habits such as solving children’s problems and making important decisions for them, while warmth was measured in terms of availability to talk and spending quality time.” Unlike authoritative parenting this parenting leaves no space for the child to grow and explore. Helicopter parents are constantly hovering over their children causing them to become dependent on the parent. Helicopter parents stop their children for learning essential skills in order to gain independence for their adult life. Unlike authoritative parenting, helicopter parenting is unequal in the balance between control the parent has and freedom the child is allowed to have. Over-controlling their children instead of finding a balance is the reason why this parenting style is not the most effective or best
According to the article “Helicopter Parenting Delivers Benefits” by Don Aucoin, and “Bubble-Wrapping Our Children: The perils of Overprotective Parenting” by Michael Ungal”: because are the privilege a problem or ventage for children, which the risk and responsibilities for child education, also the real problem of the overprotection.
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
A child needs both of their parents’ love and affection while growing up. A child that grows up with both has a higher chance of being a more stable person. However, not all children have this luxury; some children are born into dysfunctional families that consist of only one parent like the children in the Wingfield family. “A study of 1,977 children age 3 and older living with a residential father or father figure found that children living with married biological parents had significantly fewer externalizing behavioral problems than children living with at least one non-biological parent” (Consequences of Fatherlessness). The absent parent in the Wingfield family affected everyone in the family, not only the children. The absent father,
In this day and age, the media labels overbearing parents as helicopter parents, and the label itself has taken on a negative light due to the guilt by association. The ‘popular’ definition of helicopter parenting come from the ‘extreme’ cases (Jayson 5). The extreme cases in the news are just that, extreme cases; they do not depict helicopter parenting in general, and have been given the name Blackhawks (“Liftoff for ‘Helicopter’ Parents”). The idea of helicoptering has become a misguided ‘negative portrait’ by media using the term and ‘over parenting synonymously’, but the two terms should be used so. They are very different; over parenting is when a parent does not let the child think for themselves (Aucoin). Over parenting and helicopter parenting are not synonyms, but they are not quite antonyms. Helicoptering can become oppressive parents quite easily. Another side of over parenting is the side that ‘expects… immediate compliance’ to orders without giving reasoning. This style can cause below average ‘self-esteem… self-reliance and… social skills’ (McDevitt and Ormrod). The regular helicopter parenting is more common than what would be assumed as a study shows ‘60 to 70 percent’ of college parents have ‘some helicoptering behavior...
Most parents take an interest in their child’s life from birth until they become an adult by picking and choosing what is best for them as much as they possibly can. Parents want to help their children to be as perfect as they can make them. Typically hovering parents spend a lot of money, time, and effort filling schedules things like with dance classes, baseball, and tutoring in order to have a ‘perfect’ child. As well as coming to their aid when they are in need, or their defense when they are in trouble. Help in making important, life changing decisions, like where to go to college at, or which career to pursue. When does helping become hovering? The generation of “Helicopter Parents” is becoming more and more prevalent in families. A helicopter parent is a guardian who is hanging over the head of their college-age son or daughter. Helicopter parents typically do whatever necessary to lead their child to success. This controversy has many suggesting it is actually making a positive impact in the next generation, some think not. I question if the next generation of young people will be able to think for themselves? If so, will the decisions they must make in life be adult decisions? Hovering parents are hurting society more than helping it because the next generation is not learning how to be responsible for their actions and make their own choices.
There are many approaches to parenting and everyone has their own preferences as to what they think is best. In a fast paced rush around society, it is hard to know what the best choices are for your children. There is a struggle to balance what needs to be done with what can be done, and this has negative and positive feedback on the children. Parents play a critical role in shaping and guiding their children into functional confident adults. An effective parent will learn as they teach in order to grow into understanding with their children.