College campus cultures have moved away from dating and seeking committed relationships, and shifted toward “hooking up.” This hookup culture involves people engaging in casual sex without commitment or “strings attached.” Is this culture driven by the headquarters or the hindquarters? What is left to question about the new found culture on college campuses are the differences in sexual motivations and satisfactions between the genders and subsequently how they react after. Both men and women do partake in the newly found hookup culture, but there are questions that are hidden underneath the rug are. Do men and women have different motivations and expectations? Are men and women satisfied by different things? Does hooking up affect men and women differently? Although many people believe that hookup culture has turned college-aged women to pursue casual sex as much as men, the reality is however, that it is men who have the desire more for casual sex, while women are still pursuing committed relationships.
Traditionally, it has been men that people think of as the driving force behind the pursuit of casual sex relationships. But with the women today receiving higher degrees and striving for greater prestige in the work force, some believe that women are equally behind the wheel of hookup culture. There is doubt that women participate in casual sex, but what do they really want? All the road signs point something including commitment, love, or romance.
College men, many known to be “frat stars,” are notoriously known for wanting to hook up. Men find many aspects of hooking up advantageous over actual dating. When guys are dating girls, it typically requires them to first work up the nerve to ask a girl out on a date, which brings...
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Donna Freitas “Time to Stop Hooking Up. (You Know You Want to.)” First appeared as an editorial in the Washington Post in 2013. In this essay Freitas aims to convince her readers that hooking up may seem easy and less stress than a real relationship, but in reality they become unhappy, confused, and unfulfilled in their sex life. “Hookups are all about throwing off the bonds of relationships and dating for carefree sex” personal experience, compare and contrast are a few techniques Freitas skillfully uses to strong convincing essay.
Conor Kelly argues in her article, “Sexism in Practice: Feminist Ethics Evaluating the Hookup Culture” that the hookup culture is sexist and disempowers women. Although, he mentions it is difficult to define “hooking up” but majority of the students will agree that it involves “some level of sexual activity without the constraints and expectations of a relationship” (Kelly 65). In other words, when two people have casual sex with no strings attached, when they both finish they both can go on with their lives without
In the essay by Vanderkam, she says that hook ups “have all but replaced dating at most colleges” (Vanderkam 345). Some support that she uses when proving this was that she said “only half of the women .. had been on six or more dates...a third had been on no more than two” (Vanderkam 345). This shows that this is not just some fad that some kids at colleges are trying to start but rather it is something that is already implemented and has affected most college students. In the short story, Jackson was explaining how all of the citizens were coming together for the lottery when she said “The other boys soon followed his example” after she had saw one boy who had picked up some stones on the way to the lottery. Later in the day after the selection process of the lottery had been completed a person from the crowd yelled “Come on, come on, everyone” (Jackson 1243). Both of these quotes show how quickly the citizens are to listen to and follow the actions of other people. These qualities have even been taught to the children. These two texts show how people are quick to follow the lead of another and that stems down to the younger generation which means that the trait of following will only continue to grow. Also in the essay, Vanderkam said that hook ups have “pervade[d] college culture” (345). This shows
As stated in the book, “college students have much to teach about sex” (8). That is because the values, ideologies, and worldviews of the students are representative of greater American culture. Although flawed, hookup culture on American campuses hold the possibility of accepting a culture of inclusivity, care, pleasure, and freedom while also rejecting predatory behavior, racism, classism, and abuse. Dismissing hookup culture all together is blind to the reality that young adults are going to have sex, and since sex is non-negotiable, one’s aim should be to foster open dialogue and critical thought onto a future where everyone enjoys the ability to freely explore sexuality, sex, and gender on their own
When you are a senior is high school your main focuses are finishing your college applications and if your a girl of course prom, you don't realize you are a year away from entering college and the world of "rape culture". It is said that rape culture exists because we don't believe it does. Rape culture is defined as "an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sexual violence against women is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture." We already have an idea that in colleges where sports is glorified that some professors will allow athletes to get away with numerous things from cheating to missing numerous classes but fraternity events can be high risk for rape. First I will summarize "Fraternities and Collegiate Rape Culture: Why Are Some Fraternities More Dangerous Places for Women?" written by A. Ayres Boswell and Joan Z. Space. Then I will use information from my criminology class to better define violent crime . Lastly, I will explain rape on campuses is not a cultural component. Colleges should hold clubs such as fraternities and sports to the same level than others and be harshly punished for crimes they commit so they don't feel more superior and think they can get away with rape.
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In reaction to the media’s numerous stigmas around college hookup culture in recent years, sociologists and psychologists have begun to investigate adolescent and young adult hookups more systematically. In “Is Hooking Up Bad for Young Women?” by Elizabeth A. Armstrong, Laura Hamilton and Paula England, this issue is addressed through a reaction to previous articles from sources on opposite sides. One side of the argument over sexual activity for young women places them at risk of “low self esteem, depression, alcoholism, and eating disorders,” while the other side argues that the underlying issue is the “moral panic over casual sex.” This issue has been seen by many as a “sudden and alarming change in youth sexual culture,” but systematic research has shown that experiences of young women in college
New venues for leisure where men and women could meet and engage in unrestricted social interaction, brought a shift in the average American’s experience of courting and sexuali...
In "Fraternities and Collegiate Rape Culture" Ayres Boswell and Joan Z. Spade analyze the social perspective of the gendered relations in male fraternities that add to the high rate of violence against women on many college campuses. They list a host of factors that distinguish higher-risk from lower-risk atmospheres discussing the rates of rape in colleges and state how "1 out of 4 college women say they were raped or experienced an attempted rape" (217). Additionally, "1 out of 12 college men say they forced a woman to have sexual intercourse against her will" (Boswell, Spade 217). In other words Boswell and Spade indicated that the rates were high when it came down to women getting raped in colleges by men who also attended those colleges. In addition, Boswell and Spade specify in how most people are aware of rape but know very little about rape culture (Boswell, Spade 217).
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In my earlier development in high school, I had talked with a school counselor about the broader social structure of college, which has become realized as part of my emerging social development into adulthood. Emotionally, I am learning to talk more with my friends at school, which offer s a much more mature interaction than the emotional connection I had with friends in high school. I can cry, express deep emotions, and reflect on my feelings with greater trust and freedom in college. Finally, I am involved in a relationship with a guy or girl (depending the customer’s sex identity), which is providing a more profound understanding of intimacy and healthy sexual relations at the collegiate level. I am searching for a long-term commitment from a partner, which defines my maturation from the process of “dating” in high
When it comes to hooking up, it can have positive and also negative benefits for women. Hooking up does not always include intercourse. “About 30-40 percent of hookups involve intercourse, while 25-33 percent involves making out and some touching, but nothing genital” (England 3). There is no acute definition of “hooking up.” Some say hooking up is kissing, others say hooking up is intercourse, and some say hooking up is fooling around. “The vagueness of the term itself -hooking up, turns out to be a way to protect the reputation of the woman while enhancing that of the man” (Kalish 142). Even though hooking up is desired by both males and females, women and men have different outlooks when it comes to hooking up. For men, hooking up can enhance his reputation whereas it can damage a women’s reputation. One women explained, “Guys
Caroline Heldman’s lecture, Confronting Campus Sexual Violence, really opened my eyes. The shocking statistic that one in five college women face assault/rape was a lot to take in. As she stated, college for us women is a risk factor, we face a higher risk that our non-college peers, and that frighten me. After sitting and lecture and taking in all of the statistics, I reflected upon on myself, and everyone I know on this campus, and I could not leave behind the idea that perhaps one of them have gone through that. Nonetheless, as captured in Sexual Assault on Campus: A Multilevel, Integrative Approach to Party Rape by Elizabeth A. Armstrong, Laura Hamilton and Brian Sweeney focus on the high rates of sexual assault on college campuses. Based on their study, they show that sexual assault is a predictable outcome. They focus on the gendered process such as fraternity control every aspect of their parties, in terms of themes, admission, access to alcohol and even the movement of guests (617). On the other hand, women are expected to be nice and grateful guests. Therefore, this demonstrates the idea of power, and how is in control of who and this is what generates room for sexual assault. From a personal experience my freshmen year, I went out with a group of friends, nonetheless, once we got to the fraternity party they only allowed my female friends and I in, and the
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