January 1st I packed myself my 2 year old daughter and most of our belongings into a new home. I never would have guessed that in approximately two and a half years I would have been getting a divorce from the person who I had been so in love with just a few years earlier. Someone who I had built a home with, someone who I had spent the last 7 years of my life with had a child and raised a step child as my own with.
It was one of the most difficult times in my life, but I felt a sense of relief, hope, and optimism. The relationship had never been a healthy one but I was too immature to see it, I had also been brought up to believe that no matter what the problem you stay and try to figure it out. After bringing a child into the situation and growing up a bit myself, all the events leading up to my separation, I can without a doubt say divorce would not cause more problems than it would fix. Thanks to the no fault divorce process a lot of additional arguments were avoided and its not because it was an available option that I chose to become divorced. The life of myself and my daughter has greatly improved and we both have a chance at a happy healthy life. My daughter is doing well in school and she is a well behaved, happy child. With this being said should there should not be reforms made to revert back to “at fault” divorce and it is not true that divorce only negatively impacts and shapes the children involved.
Two famous and widely known psychologists Constance Ahrons, PhD and Judith Wallerstein, PhD. Judith Wallerstein created a 25-year study on the effects of divorce on the children involved. She was a senior lecturer at the school social worker for the Welfare University of California Berkeley from the years 1966 to...
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Background Information The correlation between divorce and unemployment rates, or the relationship between marital satisfaction and employment status, has relevance to anyone interested or affected by a marriage. This includes married couples, children, relatives, family friends, psychologists, councillors, lawyers, judges, employers, realtors, tax payers, etc. In other words, practically everyone in Canadian society is affected by divorce; and though divorce has also been seen more commonly throughout the twentieth and twenty-first century than any other point in history, are Canadian divorce rates really on the rise? According to the statistics, the divorce rate in Canadian marriages has been more or less decreasing for the past twenty years.
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According to Rodgers (1995) no-fault divorce was implemented to make divorce less restrictive, and more importantly removes the factor of fault in that it removes the need for one party to be guilty or innocent. No-fault divorce law recognises that a breakdown of the relationship between spouses can result in them no longer being able to function as a married couple, and instead seeks to reduce the legal obstacles, economic costs, and psychological consequences of divorce (Rodgers 1995). Due to these factors, divorce may have become more accessible to low income families had who previously been unable to afford it under fault-based divorce. On the other hand, no-fault divorce may have become more attractive to high income families in particular the “guilty” spouse who under fault-based legislation faced alimony payments, child support payments and loss of property to the “innocent” spouse (Rodgers 1995). The role that the no-fault law plays in divorce is that of a societal structure, in that it encompasses an association between individuals and the social institution that is the American legal system on a sizable scale throughout American society.
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Divorce is becoming a worldwide phenomenon, significantly affecting children’s well-being. It radically changes their future, causing detrimental effects. According to (Julio Cáceres-Delpiano and Eugenio Giolito, 2008) nearly 50% of marriages end with divorce. 90% of children who lived in the USA in the 1960s stayed with their own biological parents, whereas today it makes up only 40% (Hetherington, E. Mavis, and Margaret Stanley-Hagan, 1999). Such an unfavorable problem has been increasing, because in 1969, the California State Legislature changed the divorce laws, where spouses could leave without providing cause (Child Study Center, 2001).
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According to Diane Medved there is no such thing as a “good divorce” (A.9). The consequences that are caused by divorce are far greater than the benefits. The results of divorce are broken families, financial loss, and heartache. It is understandable to think that divorce is something is becoming far too common; that the option of a divorce should not be taken too lightly. Many believe that divorce underestimates the value of marriage and commitment. Divorce was uncommon a few years back. In a way, divorce was never really an option.