The main thesis of Eric Klinenberg’s book, Going Solo, is that living alone is a poorly understood subject by society, even as time went on. Living solo shapes our cities and economies, and how we grow in to our old age (Klinenberg, 2012, p. 16-17). It differs from many mainstream interpretations of “living alone” in contemporary society due to the fact that it offers a positive perspective on the topic; it also explains how the negative connotations of “living alone” were misconstrued due to datas being overstated from a paper that was published back in 1984 and 2004 (Klinenberg, 2012, p. 19). Social scientists, as well as general readers, didn’t take this into consideration, hence, the public put a shame on men and women who live the single life for too long. This negative connotation hurts single women even more because of family’s pressure of marriage and birth, on top of that, single women have a heavier workload than married women due to the misconception that they have more free time. Not only that, but single women who work more don’t get pay as much as they should for their extra effort. Two reasons why we should care about the findings in Klinenberg’s book are because 1) it stops us from continuing to believe in the myth about “living alone” and …show more content…
But not that, “It was also fueled by an emerging moral code that placed one’s obligation to care for oneself on par with, if not above, one’s commitment to family” (Klinenberg, 2012, p. 46). Finding oneself gradually becomes everyone’s interests but this doesn’t mean that their selfish, because being stuck in a miserable isn’t going to help anyone in this lost
It is my view that in the story Deep Survival by Laurence Gonzales that it demonstrates that in order to survive is to be selfish. One piece of
Susan Wolf, born in 1952, is widely considered one of the greatest philosophers of the 20th and 21st century. One of Wolf’s most renowned works is The meanings of Lives, which drew a lot of attention in the philosophical world for a number of questions that arose from it. Arguably her most widely debated and questioned assertion in The meanings of Lives is “If you care about yourself you’re living as if you’re the center of the universe, which is false.” This however I don’t not believe to be true. Every human being, no matter how successful or unsuccessful, has the right to care for them sleeves and not believe they are the center of the universe while doing so.
The book, ‘Alone in the Mainstream,’ is a collection of interviews spliced together thematically with parallels to the author 's life. It covers everything from Teachers, good and bad, to friends, bullies, classes and all other parts of growing up. The common theme gluing them all together is not solitude as the book states, but difference felt by the interviewee or the author. Several of the sections, namely the ones about great teachers and great friends, show that deaf people are not alone, but that their experience is vastly different.
These days, marriage contracts fortunately treat both men and women the same, and look at it as more of a partnership rather than a legal contract with economical advantages. (Bernstein, 2011) Today, women have more goals than getting married and having children, most want to go to college and having a successful career. It is normal for a woman to be completely successful all on her own without a husband. These days, a woman can be the bread winner of her family while her husband is a stay at home father. There are also several single working mothers and single working
The meaning of life and the true meaning of happiness can be pin-pointed simply by: Grow up. Get married. Have children. These three ending sentences form the basis of the main argument in “About Love”, an excerpt from “What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman” by Danielle Crittenden. Crittenden does not limit the use of her emotional appeal to repeated use of terms like “love”, “friendship” and “independence”. One of the strongest qualities supporting the thesis of “About Love” is Crittenden’s ability to use both connotative and denotative language. Crittenden goes on to say “Too often, autonomy is merely the excuse of someone who is so fearful, so weak, that he or she can’t bear to take
If someone told you that social isolation kills more people than obesity does, would you believe it (Olien)? Social isolation can go beyond the idea of someone locking themselves in their room and not interacting with anyone (physical isolation). It can also be when someone is not feeling connected to society or a certain person (emotional isolation). In fact, in the short story “To Room Nineteen” by Doris Lessing, the protagonist of the story, Susan, found herself needing frequent absences from her family which eventually drove her to commit suicide. People isolate themselves for many different reasons and this feeling of isolation can very much lead to death. Social isolation is a serious medical condition and there are many effects on the mind that can come along which can eventually lead to voluntary and/or involuntary death.
The purpose of Philip Slater’s book The Pursuit of Loneliness is to “reach some understanding of the forces which are unraveling our society” for his readers (xxii). It is a common conception that America is the best country, an idea which is substantiated by economic figures. However, Americans are not happy. According to Slater, “all societies frustrate certain human needs and satiate others (because) humanity and any particular society’s idea of what humanity should be is never very exact” (2). In America, the gap between reality and perception is growing farther and farther apart, at human expense. Americans work their entire lives for the future, in the pursuit of economic security, which ultimately leads to continued unhappiness in the present. American culture “struggles more and more violently to maintain itself, (but) is less and less able to hide its fundamental antipathy towards human life and human satisfaction” (122). Slater’s book teaches people about the existence of the “wide gap between the fantasies Americans live by and the realities they live in,” in the hopes that this will inspire people to react in positive ways (xxiii).
To sum up, looking upon the term self-interest, people not only need to separate its concept with selfishness, but also have to
There appears to be widespread agreement that family and home life have been changing dramatically over the last 40 years or so. According to Talcott Parsons, the change in family structure is due to industrialization. The concept that had emerged is a new version of the domestic ideal that encapsulates changed expectations of family relations and housing conditions. The family life in the postwar period was highly affected. The concept of companionate marriage emerged in the post war era just to build a better life and build a future in which marriage would be the foundation of better life. Equality of sexes came into being after...
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Rebecca Traister’s All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation provides insight on what it is like being a single woman living in America in current and past times. Traister interviewed more than 100 single women to give their personal stories, which makes the readers think about themselves and how they can relate to them. All the Single Ladies is an investigation into the sexual, economic, and emotional lives of women in America. Traister argues that there are unknown unset society rules for women that women are expected to fulfill like marriage and children and those cliché stereotypes must be broken. Some women desire to be married and other women are concentrated on finding themselves which Traister argues
There was a time when women typically maintained the home and raised children while the husbands were the sole bread-winners for the family finances. However, times have changed and so have women’s rights and expectations for divorce, education, an...
The debate on whether to get married or stay single has been raging for a long while, with both sides of the coin having their own pros and cons regarding the matter. Many proponents of either marriage or single life have strong individual convictions, and it is difficult to reach a definitive objective conclusion. Is the married individual happier than his/her single counterpart, or is getting married just a comfort seeking ritual that people believe they have to fulfill at some point in their lives? It is necessary to dissect this issue in the light of four factors: health and other medical factors, the economic and finance front, mental and emotional wellbeing and lastly, the social factor.
...he turn of the 20th century. This ideology shared in Paris gave individuals the right to not have to get married and settle down. Even the married couples within Paris didn’t really like to “settle down” as close to thirty six percent of married couples did not have children. This sense of individualism was even shared within the female realm as many females did not “need a man” during this era.
Getting married is the most important event in our life. From time to time, they always say, “Single life is a sweet dream and marriage is an alarm clock.” This proverb could make young people afraid when deciding whether or not they marry. However, there are differences that indicate pros and cons of both single life and married life. In general, single life can bring us freedom to experience life all by ourselves; at the same time, it also brings loneliness and detachment. In contrast, married life can fulfill us with love, care, and a sense of belonging; however, it also requires us a great deal of shared responsibilities. Understanding the differences between single life and married life especially on finance, emotion, and responsibility