When choosing a friend many people have different preferences, some may want to be friends with others that have similarities as themselves, such as hobbies, family structures, martial statuses or financial class status. Whatever the preference maybe having friends is one the most important qualities in life but having a male friend has been far better than having a female friend when you’re the opposite sex. Having a male friend leads to the best friendships considering females are emotional, unforgiving and judgmental vs a male friend who’s less emotional, forgiving and accepting.
First, female friends are emotional beings. Female friends are sensitive in nature; they were born to be mothers. Naturally, we are sensitive to our needs and
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Along with being unforgiving females have excellent memory skills; they are able to remember the smallest details of events. If you cross the line with a female friend, expect to be held accountable for your actions. A meaningless situation can turn into a major event and break up the friendship, as if you never knew each other. To such a degree these qualities make female friends easier to be unforgiving. In contrast a male friend can have an argument with one of his friends and the next minute it’s as if nothing ever happened between the two. Male friends are more forgiving and easier to deal with. When it comes to female friends it is like walking on eggshells; you have to be very careful when talking about personal issues or trying to give advice because it’s easier for a female to lose a friend over nothing vs a male friend who’s …show more content…
Female friends love to judge other females based upon what they’re wearing, what designer shoes are being worn, the type of handbag she’s carrying, what makeup, she’s wearing, what hairstyle she’s wearing or just the outer genetic makeup of another female. Being friends with females sometimes it’s like a never ending meaningless competition that will never be won. Female friends are superficial. In contrast male friends are not superficial and could care less about how another friend is dressed, what designer clothes or shoes are being worn. Male friends cool and less judgmental and more likely to accept a person for who they are and not what is on the outer appearance of an individual. Having a male friend vs, a female friend is peaceful, just knowing you’re not being judged and you’re accepted for who you really
Female friendships are thought of as complicated, confusing and stereotyped as maleficent. Roxanne Gay stated in her book Bad feminist that, “all female friendships must be bitchy, toxic, or competitive.” (47) Her point made in the chapter titled; ‘How to Be Friends with Another Woman’ clarifies and lays out the rules and procedures women must undergo and follow to satisfy society’s basic layout of women’s relationships. Her points stated specify the attitudes, behavior, and expectations of one another to balance and create a stable relationship.
Men recognize that what they say to a female is either heard or reacted to differently than expected. Men find themselves thinking carefully about how to approach an issue or how to speak, thereby removing rapport building from the relationship with a female. Because female are more relationship oriented, they tend to lead by consensus. Men tend to be more hierarchical and include only the people closest to them at their level in the decision making process. When females have to make a decision they will often process and look at options out loud while men tend to process internally until they come up with a solution. Females often think that the male is being unresponsive to suggestions because of this and men often think that females are looking for approval when they process out loud or that they don't know what they are doing. Some men think that a female's way of processing is a sign of weakness.
Columbia’s Best Friends program. The Best Friends (BF) program began in 1987 and operates in
Friendships between males and females are forbidden according to Islamic tradition. Men and women are normally separated during parties or gatherings. Even in school men and women are set apart to prevent any friendships between the sexes. women have instead remain close to the female family members and often visit each other 's homes. Men, however, are free to move about the country or cities and make friends with other men who are not family members. Even still, men tend to stick with their family members and while they might have one or two friends whom are not related, these friends are more acquaintances or colleges then actually friends. For instances, in my family I am close to my sisters even though I am far from them, I call my sisters
Some of my friendship do follow the gender patterns and prescriptions discussed in the reading. I have three female close friends and many guy friends. My three female friends are Asialynn, Liz and Maritza. The type of friendship I have with Asialynn and Liz, follows the typical gender friendship pattern. Our friendship is built on dialogue. We became closer through talking, disclosing personal experience, emotions, fear and our problems. We try to understand one another and be each other’s shoulders. In the reading Janice states that, “one of the worst things about being a female is not having permission to be selfish or jealous or not to care about your friend”. I can relate to Janice comment especially in the friendship I have with Asialynn
Gender role requires girls to be delicate. Parents talk to girls with more emotional words, which causes girls to express their feelings more. Being delicate also means that girls should care more about their family. Since young, girls are taught to think more about the family, remember important days and not to go out so often, in contrast of boys being encouraged to explore the world outside. Most girls make friends and play in a tender way instead of playing roughly because the gender role made them do so. Girls want to be “like girls”, so they follow the directions of the gender role since childhood, and their characteristics are then
Migliaccio (2009) addresses that it is commonly believed men are less trusting and honest in a friendship, but the relationships usually examined are male and female. In male friends, the other feels that it is not just the fact they are men that need to be taken into account, but the impact of gender roles that also play a role. In the study, Migliaccio (2009) examines friendships between men in occupations typical of their gender such as military and nontraditional such as a hairdresser. Being masculine is described as “being stoic, both physically and emotionally” (Migliaccio, 2009, p.228) which impacts friendships. In male friendships, it is also explored that men avoid being perceived as feminine. Another factor, Migliaccio (2009) considers is either a man works with more females rather than males. “In short, women and men experience and define intimate friendships in different ways, and neither should be judged by the standard of the other” (Migliaccio, 2009, p.229). It is determined that gender is not as much of a factor as gender roles are in male friendships. This article will provide evidence for the impact of the male gender versus gender roles within the theme of masculinity. It examines many factors that go beyond gender as well as the lens these relationships are viewed through
A friendship is a bond shared with another person, typically of common interests. A friend is honest, loyal, faithful, and trustworthy. It's someone you can share secrets, memories, fears, and dreams with. They stand by you despite arguments or disputes that might arise. Friendships can bring joy, as well as pain; friends want the best for each other, and sometimes sacrifices must be made. In Of Mice and Men, John Steinbeck speaks of the advantages and pitfalls to a friendship.
When making friends, you must choose the right ones by observing the person's qualities and how they behave. If the person behaves in a bad way, further away this person may lead you down the wrong path and get you into a lot of trouble. Incommensurate, If the person behaves in a good way, then they may be a good friend to have and lead you down the right path. Consequently, friendship is a very good thing to have with many positive and sadly, negative
According to Eagley, Wood, and Fishbaugh (1981), women are more concerned than men about the quality of interpersonal relationships. Women take greater responsibility for establishing and maintaining interpersonal bonds, whereas men do not. Also, women are more empathetic and more accurate at decoding nonverbal communication than males. Male gender roles also claim that men should remain independent and not agree closely with others, while it is seen as acceptable for women to conform to group behaviors.
Besides looking at the influence that close friendship has on the cognitive development in childhood, another factor that was focused upon is the emotion component. Past research has shown that having friends help to buffer negative repercussion from peer rejections as it provides a positive emotional function (Estell, et al., 2009). The importance of close friendship in childhood is illustrated by a finding of 18 years of longitudinal study, which reported people who had no close friends during childhood are prone to have psychological predicament where they demonstrate symptoms of internalizing or externalizing (Sakyi, Surkan, Fombonne, Chollet & Melchior, 2015). In close friendship, there are differences between gender. This can be seen in a research that indicated that among close friendship between girls and boys, girls have the tendency to be more affectionate in sharing their personal details as compared to boys who are more prone engaging in physical activities (Beazidou & Botsoglou, 2016). This is supported by the information that girls are more inclined to show affinity while boys are more prone to show power (Rabaglietti, Vacirca, Zucchetti & Ciairano,
Men and women are more different than one can imagine. Though the main difference is in physical appearance, another difference is their sense of communication. Women appear to talk more than males, but like to keep their conversations more private. Males, on the other hand, will talk less, but do not mind their conversations being more public. This is just one of many examples of men and women being completely opposite of one another in terms of communication. Each gender has their own expectations of the opposite. These expectations are not usually met due to communication differences, which leads to criticisms such as, “Men do not listen” or “Women will never understand” to form. The most common assumption for why expectations are not met
Friendships are based on a completely different set of structural relationships to those with parents. They are more symmetrical and involve sharing and exchange. Friendships are important to young children but there is a change at the beginning of adolescence -- a move to intimacy that includes the development of a more exclusive focus, a willingness to talk about oneself and to share problems and advice. Friends tell one another just about everything that is going on in each other's lives... Friends literally reason together in order to organise experience and to define themselves as persons.
We do not make friends because they are useful but the bond of friendship, once it grows stronger and stronger has a number of positive aspects. There are certain secrets that can only be shared with our friends only. When we are facing a difficult situation in our lives, only true friends come forward to help us overcome all the difficulties.
Friendship is one of the most important things you can get out of life. It’s something that everyone has to have because without it, we would all go insane. Just think if no one talked to each other and we never made friends, this world would be a ticking time bomb. Studies say humans need friendships and love to survive. So friendship is a big part of your life.