In his 2010 book From Fear To Love: Parenting Difficult Adopted Children, B. Bryan Post, PhD brings to the reader a new approach for dealing with difficult children. Though a relatively short read at 116 pages, Dr. Post is able to educate the reader regarding his development, The Stress Model™ (Post, B., 2010, p. 39), and give them new tools for working with children. Initially written for those individuals who foster or have adopted children, the behavior modification concepts and techniques can be applicable to any child who is having behavioral problems. Post describes the concepts as “part of a new parenting paradigm” (Post, 2010, Introduction, p. xix). In the introduction, Dr. Post defines a paradigm (via Dictionary.com) as: “A set of assumptions, concepts, values, and practices that constitutes a way of viewing reality for the community that shares them” (Post, 2010, Introduction, p. xix). What are the previous paradigms, and what is this new revolutionary approach that he has created? The previous assumption …show more content…
There are only two states for this: surviving and thriving. A “feeling,” however, is the cognitive perception of an emotional state” (Post, 2010, p.1). He goes on to discuss the basic elements of love, which include: patience, understanding, tolerance, acceptance, mindfulness and flexibility. The foundation for building a new relationship with a difficult child is to come to the realization that the child was not placed into your life by God for you to make them what you want them to be; it is to “protect, guide, and encourage him as God molds them into what God wants them to be” (p. 3). I believe this to be an important observation, as most of us have a tendency to want to mold our children into our likeness, rather than allowing God to mold them into
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...s one with the knowledge necessary to incorporate methods for evoking change and empathize. It becomes easier to understand how certain maladaptive behaviors are developed as certain characteristics are learned patterns and not solely based on one’s personality. There are very many areas of attachment that need to be studied. As the population of minorities, working mothers, single parent homes, and children in the foster care system rise the ability to assess their ability to attach as well as develop new attachments is crucial. The works by Bowlby, Ainsworth, and Main have provided me with new interest in the attachment styles of children to their caregivers. It has allowed me to adjust the way in which I interact with my own daughter and other children in my presence to help establish new and beneficial adult attachments so that they can grow and feel empowered.
When a parent yells at their children, most people will not think anything of it. In fact, majority would call this natural, a natural teaching of a child with behavior management problems. Throughout my research, I have learned the concept of how the tip of the iceberg of behavior issues is reflected as the beginning age of verbal abuse, and the beginning of borderline personality disorders. A sense of disruption to their emotions has enhanced the cycle to obtain borderline personality disorder, which has started an ongoing epidemic of other disorders. Also these disorders can cause children to feel a sense of disruption. This encourages a malfunction in the brain, which could eventually be their demise and the need to succeed is outcast by the feeling of failure. Verbal abuse has been around for some time now, during this new age it has peaked at its highest point with no slight chances of slowing down. Borderline personality disorder is indeed caused by the verbal abuse and children who have witnessed this are ticking time bombs waiting for something or someone to push the wrong ...
The idea of adoption has been around far longer than the formal legal system of adoption in place today. In the bible, there is a passage detailing the adoption of Ester by her cousin, Mordecai, after the death of her parents. Ancient Greeks, Egyptians, Romans, and Babylonians all had their own systems of adoption. Adoption systems differ from country to country. United States citizens who internationally adopt today allow for the blending of cultures, languages, traditions, and ideals. In contrast, the practice of adult adoption in Japan is a particularly interesting system used quite differently and reflects a lot of traditional Japanese culture itself.
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Paradigm was coined by KUHN (1970). A paradigm is a world view, a general perspective on the complexities of the real world.
Have you ever wondered what your parents look like or if they are thinking of you? Adoption can have that effect on children. What is adoption? Adoption is the process of providing parents with children and children with families when birth parents are unwilling or unable to care for their offspring. Adoption can make a child feel abandon, unloved, and have low self-esteem.
Firstly, I am a Bay Area native, daughter, friend and sister who deeply cares and thrives off my passion and the connections I make with the people around me. This passion towards the connections and impact I make with people and for people stems from growing up with two sets of relatives, one biological and one adopted. Due to being adopted, by parents sent me to a girls adoption group where I met other girl’s my age and was able to find support for not only talking about my adoption, but dealing with internal and external struggles by obtaining tools to better deal with hardships and to communicate with others. I can honestly say that I am a better person because of the support of the group and I feel that it is a big part of the person
Growing older and moving through the different stages of life is phenomenal. At times when I sit and think about this whole construct of life it becomes too over-whelming for my mind to contain / comprehend . The sheer process of getting older is an experience in itself. It could be compared to an ongoing experiment with the practical session being our life. Constantly testing theories and ideas we (are living) live according to the results. And as we reach conclusions based on the assessment of (our findings) results we only go on to question those results further down the line // because our mindset has shifted and the results now can be interpreted differently. (And so (life) it can feel like constant re-evaluation of the past according the person we are at any specific period in our life). I was oblivious to many things while growing up, especially regarding my parents. It's only as I've got older that I'm able to appreciate and acknowledge what they did for me. I don't believe I'm the only one in that respect. I think we're all susceptible to the condition called emotional immaturity and their friend the blindness of youth. One of the things I've realised about my parents was how pure they were in their intentions and part of that purity was their blindness to colour. I could have easily been another child writing this and that child being Black.
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Research has shown that children who are at highest risk for toxic stress are those exposed to social isolation, poverty, family violence, and parents with substance abuse or depression (Franke, 2014). If adults and authority figures can identify toxic stress in children during the early stages, measures can be taken to prevent the harmful effects that are associated with this high stress level. Treatment of toxic stress should be aimed towards helping children learn to deal with stress in a healthy manner and responding to the child’s needs (Franke, 2014). Providing children with a strong support system is crucial so children have an outlet to communicate with and receive advice on healthy coping mechanisms. Examples of a buffering support system could be a parent, relative, social worker, or counselor. Recent research has also found that treatment of toxic stress can occur through teaching relaxation methods such as breathing techniques and guided imagery (Franke, 2014). It may also be beneficial to focus on the caretaker of the child by providing educational opportunities regarding toxic stress and by administering social resources for the parents, such as parenting classes to help with problem solving skills (Franke, 2014). It is also important that the nation as a whole raise awareness of the issue of toxic stress and provide schools,
A paradigm as defined in the dictionary is an example serving as a model. In his book, 7 habits of highly effective teens , Sean Covey compares paradigms to glasses and says that if the paradigm, or perception, is incomplete it is like wearing the wrong prescription. One example Covey gave is:
Paradigms are belief systems that establish our actions patterns, practices and thoughts. Webster Dictionary defines paradigm as "an example or pattern: small, self-contained, simplified examples that we use to illustrate procedures, processes, and theoretical points." The most quoted definition of paradigm is Thomas Kuhn 's (1962, 1970) concept in The Nature of Science Revolution, paradigm as the underlying assumptions and intellectual structure upon which research and development in a field of inquiry is based. My understanding of Kuhn’s quote is that paradigms are a set of scientific theories that are well
Emotional abuse can be understood as the “failure to provide children with an emotional environment conducive to adequate psychological, developmental and physical progress to ac...