Relational Issues In False Self

What I enjoy about the book is the identifying and presentation of various relational issues which caused people to have difficulties in the aspects of engage and develop relationally with others in this social and multicultural environmental. When I read the opening pages, I was already drawn to the book, for instance, in every chapter a different ‘relational issue’ is discussed to combat against ‘false self’ and the glaring ‘developmental issue’. The use of case studies in every chapter give readers firsthand experience. In certain chapters where ‘relational issues’ were discussed I find the examples indirectly speak about me, things I need to make to better relate to others via knowing my true self as revealed by Lord Jesus. The relational habits of people is developed by the idea of ‘false self’. The ‘false self’ hinders people from making the critical step towards developing relationally with others. In the chapters of the book the authors does more than just identify the relational issue they used combination of examples from life stories, pastoral experiences and counsel sessions as a backdrop to illustrate how relational issues that were

By listing people whom they counselled and identifying the causes of the relational breakdown it makes me see that what they are writing to us is practical and not found in abstract thought. When the authors draw examples from their own lives and counsel sessions it gives me the assurance they have gone through the process and have firsthand experience with leading people to build relations. I could confidently place ‘trust’ in what they wrote and use it in my personal life for relational development. For the purpose of leading others to understand the responsibility they have for other people and the means to obtain that relationship with man and