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What do I say? How do I approach her? These were the questions running through my head as she passed me every afternoon before third period. The idea of talking to someone is simple but in reality talking to someone that you are interested in is complicated, it’s like a puzzle, you try to figure out where to put the pieces and somehow still end up wrong. “I’ve finally waited long enough” I told myself, “tomorrow will be the day I will introduce myself.”

The next day before third period I walked down the hall slower than usual, I was trying to scout her out but she was nowhere to be found. Finally when I mustered up enough courage to stop this girl and talk to her, she didn’t show up to school. I sighed in disappointment and made my way to class. As I walked into class feeling mildly depressed something was different, someone was in my chair and to my surprise it was her. There she was looking like an angel with short brown hair, big brown eyes, cute pointy nose, she didn’t skip school, she just changed classes. I went from feeling bummed out to blessed in a matter of seconds. I immediately made my way to the seat next to her, took a deep breath and finally introduced myself to her.

“Hey, my name is Manu, what’s yours?” Samantha, she replied. I fit the first couple of pieces together, and it was time for the rest of the puzzle.
After a week of getting to know each other I decided it was time to ask her out on a date, and she accepted. Five months have passed since I first asked her out, our relationship was getting a lot more serious, she asked me to meet her parents, which I didn’t have a problem with; it was the bringing her to meet my parents part I was worried about. Now you may wonder why that is a problem. Well, she’s no...

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...or my family for who marry. I can’t blame him, he has a point, and I can’t make every Indian understand that we have a choice in who we marry.

Most traditional Indian parents choose the girl for their son, and most of my family have the same view. In fact, every single one of my cousins and uncles have had their spouse chosen for them by their parents. I would be the first in my family to not have an Indian wife if I were to marry Samantha. My culture and identity don’t mix. My culture is extremely traditional and I believe that you should do what makes you happy, and not worry about what everyone else thinks.

I have now been dating Samantha for two years now and things are going great, my parents know who she is and what she means to me. They might not approve now but I hope in time they will clear their heads of old traditions and make room for new ones.

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