Marriage
Marriage education can help to obtain a solid marriage. In addition, not only will it help with expectation but also navigating adjustment to marriage. The secret to maintain a healthy marriage is having strong communication skills, good conflict resolution, sexual relation, and strong relationship with in-laws and being financially stable.
Specific Intervention
Approaching marital problem in a healthy way can be challenging especially because stressors in marriage can come from several different sources. The intervention I have developed helps prevent some of most common source marriage problems such as money, children and busy schedules
Intervention: Money
This intervention helps prevent couples to avoid money to be a problem in their relationship. In regards to the real components of real love, partners are required to be supportive. Couples should discuss on how their going to spent their money. In addition, they should also share bills and if possible bank accounts that way they are aware on where is the money going. For newlyweds finance are going to be an issue and therefore usually are the one who struggle the most with this matter. On the other hand people who have been marry for a longer period of time will not struggle as much because they tend to be financially stable. For example, the Sandoval couple since they been marry for 22 years they would be much more financially stable then a teen couple who just got marry and therefore will not have some may economical problems and as a result it this matter wouldn’t add so much stress to their marriage. On the other hand, for the teen couple this might be a factor that adds stress and contribute to their marital problems.
Intervention: Children
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...to buy a home or rent a place? What kind of parenting would they like to have? Will they share bank accounts? Small things like this can avoid several problems within a marriage. Happy marriages usually talk about their problems, compromise and always use “we” over “me “ or “I”. The best conflict style for a marriage is Validators because they talk their problems out and are very good friends. In addition tend to have a few disagreements. Also are very skilled at compromise and use skills to resolve their problems.
Conclusion
It is clear that the key to a healthy marriage is communication. Therefore, it is essential for couple to have good communication skills otherwise it can lead to major marriage problems. Also, most of the problems that marriages face can be solved through communication either taking out the differences or talking about the matter.
Some relationships last a lifetime and others are destroyed for various reasons. Marriage is in my view one of the most fragile relationships in today's society. Although it is scientifically proven that the family is the place where a person can develop physically and intellectually in a harmonious way, and can maintain his/her physical and mental health, today many families are falling apart, causing much suffering not only to the partners but also to the children in the family. The author of the article on the site www.apa.org/helpcenter, suggests a few steps to take in order to keep the romantic partnership in good working order, and I think this is also true for a happy marriage too. According to the site, communication is a key piece of healthy relationships. Another recommendation is to keep the marriage relationship interesting, planning interesting activities together, away from the daily routine. When you can no longer overcome the obstacles that arise in marriage, it is recommended to call for outside
According to article entitled “ Marriage Quality” published by Comstock and Sterzizweick in 1990 states that “it is not absence or presence of problem which determines the marriage quality but it is how successful to handle conflicts, that determine marital relationship quality.
According to recent statistics, there are more divorces now than ever before. At the rate things are going, the divorce rate may soon surpass the marriage rate. There are many reasons for such a high divorce rate, but one of the main ones is that people do not realize what they are getting themselves into when they marry. Couples do not realize that marriage is a job that must be worked at continuously in order for it to go well. Because many couples marry for the wrong reasons, a breakdown in communication results, which leads to a couple's growing apart. This process, all too often, ends in divorce.
No one expects to divorce when they get married but nearly half of all marriages will end in divorce or separation. Divorce can be costly, with court fees and attorneys. Dr. Doherty, noted marriage scholar and therapist has determined a list of risk factors that are attributed to marital problems and divorce. The first three: Young age, less education and less income are coincidently other topics brushed upon in this paper. Impulsive decisions made by younger people to marry leads to children which leads to financial instability. Once a couple has children, they are unlikely to further their education because of lack of time. Divorce also has a negative effect on
Marriage was once for the sole purpose of procreation and financially intensives. Living up to the roles that society had placed on married couples, more so women, is no longer the goal in marriage. Being emotional satisfied, having a fulfilled sex life and earning money is more important in marriage (Cherlin, 2013). Couples no longer feel the obligation to put the needs of their partner in front of their own needs. In the 1960’s and later it was the woman’s job to ensure that the house was clean, the children were bathed and dinner was prepared before the husband came home work. However, once more and more women began to enter the workplace and gain more independence, a desire for self-development and shared roles in the household lead way the individualistic marriage that is present in today’s society (Cherlin,
The first and probably the most important step in order for couples to have a solid relationship is education. Education is the key to lowering divorce rate. Divorce is one of those issues where private and personal behavior exacts a huge public cost, “but because divorce and marriage are such intensely personal issues, most citizens are loath to support any program that injects government into the process (Uncoupling 223).” We share the view that new laws or public programs cannot solve this crisis. However, it seems equally clear we cannot sit idle as divorce ravages families and society. Couples who are planning to get married should somehow take a step in advance to learn about the process of marriage and the circumstances that surround it. The...
A good marriage thrives on the open exchange of emotion, desires, and beliefs; In fact, communication is one of the most important aspects of a satisfying marriage (Marriage Communication: How Does It Work?). The rate of satisfaction in marriage is higher for husbands and wives when both regularly maintain religious attendance and feel that God is the center of their marriage (The state of Our Unions 2011, 31, 33 and Why Marriage Matters: Facts and Figures). Having a strong belief in your faith can help strengthen the communication and commitment to a marriage. Having a clear line of communication is key. Trust is the foundation of a marriage, and the basis of all lines of emotion that result from the feeling you get from knowing you can rely on the person you marry to honor their vows faithfully. Without trust and communication, a marriage will struggle and have a reduced chance of
Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, support each other; organize our lives and make decisions; and it allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond and our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate.
However; there are still solutions to solve any problem, it does not matter if it is big or small. One way to solve the problem is to have excellent communication. The author of Blending families states that "People can not communicate while using their cell phones, watch TV or flip through the sports section"(Sorgen Carol). Another way to keep a good relationship is to avoid problems related to money, both should be honest about their financial situation and if there are economic problems support each other always looking for the best solution, determine goals or decide which one will pay the bill for the next coming month.A third significant problem couples should not have forgotten that the loved one is the priority. Sometimes people forget about the importance of giving priority to his or her pair.Most of the time it is so much workload, fatigue, and daily life, that makes people forget the small details. It is essential to avoid monotony and instead of that, go to romantic dates, respect one another and show
The first significant cause of recent rise in the rates of divorce is that women completely change in roles. In the past, men have to earn whole money to afford the expense of family, whereas woman only do housework, hence women have no money leading to depend on husbands’ money. Because of these situations, it is too difficult for most women to separate from their husbands. Nonetheless, these situations entirely change nowadays. The equality between men and women in roles are very clear at the moment, thus women can work outside to earn money, while men share the household tasks such as cooking, cleaning, washing as well as caring for children. It can be clearly seen that women are independent from money as they can earn money by themselves to support their living cost. Accordingly, the divorce rates recently rise.
Husband and wife agreement will make the family becomes more happier in their real life. To have a good family, both husband and wife should be switching their role sometimes. Beside a good wife, there would be a good husband also, but how to be a good husband at all is a big question for many people. In some case, a good husband usually has some characteristics that include: loving, responsible, and respectful.
Although not everyone considers taking the next step towards marriage, it can be concluded that there are many dimensions in a relationship. When living with your significant other, you will have to deal with the economical aspect of the household. The finances have to either be equally shared and earned or controlled by one person. Another dimension you have to take under consideration is the emotional aspect of the relationship. Good communication amongst each other will help your relationship thrive. The power aspect of the relationship must be equally distributed. This dimension is very important because you are able to show respect towards one another and not feel inferior towards your partner. You also have sexuality, chores and leisure activities, and boundaries that you must respect when it comes to your significant other. It can be concluded that all of these different dimensions are prime examples on how difficult a relationship can
Since the creation of mankind, humans all over the world have fallen in love and believe that they have found “the one.” People get married and realize that it is not always “happily ever after.” A large percentage of couples are unable to maintain their relationship, because of this, they choose divorce. Many spouses, believe that this is the best solution to deal with problems between each other. However, many people think carefully before getting entangled into marriage. Nevertheless, divorce rates still continue to increase to this very day. It certainly looks as if divorces occur more now than they did 20 years ago. There are three causes of divorce: changing of a woman’s household status, financial situations, and lack of communication.
Communication is one of the most important factors in our lives. It dictates the relationships formed with the individuals in personal and professional lives. Effective communication provides a foundation for trust and respect to grow. It also helps better understand a person and the context of the conversation. Individuals often believe that their communication skills are much better than what they actually are. Communication appears effortless; however, much of what two people discuss gets misunderstood, thus leading to conflicts and distress. To communicate effectively, one must understand the emotion behind the information being said. Knowing how to communicate effectively can improve relationships one has at home, work and in social affairs. Understanding communication skills such as; listening, non-verbal communication and managing stress can help better the relationships one has with others.
Susan Heitler) “Communication in relationships is like a river. When thoughts and feelings flow smoothly between marriage partners it 's fun, feels good, and helps support everyone around. However, when communication flow is turbulent, it 's potentially dangerous and destructive. And when communication gets blocked, pressure builds up. Then when the words start flowing again, they tend to come out suddenly in a damaging raging flood” If you and your spouse do not communicate effectively, you are both likely to experience frustration, anger and resentment. On the other hand, couples who communicate well experience fulfilled relationships, empathy and true intimacy with their spouses. Effective communication in marriage is perhaps the single most important aspect of a successful