interpersonl conflict

How does a daughter go from talking with her mother daily to no longer wanting to speak with her again? Through a series of events, that is exactly what has happened between my mother and I. My mother and I have had a rather typically mother/daughter relationship with its good times and bad times. However, in late 2012, my family’s life was suddenly changed when my father died in an unexpected diagnosis of cancer. My father went in the hospital Dec 3 and died December 28, 2012. For me, this is where the conflict between my mother began due to my dad’s death was only happening to her. When my dad went into the hospital, my sister and I stayed with him taking shifts. My father suffered in great pain that we shielded from my mother. My brother was useless as it was too much for him to handle and my mother allowed this behavior from my brother. There was no time to argue about it, so my sister and I spent the time with dad to make sure he was taken care of during such a difficult time. Throughout the year was a difficult time for the family as we all grieved differently. My mother felt very alone and grieved alone by isolating herself from the family. My mother did not realize that her children had lost their father and that we needed our mother in our lives.

Then on September 20, 2013 another significant event took place in the family that divided us even more. My brother and his wife had an unusual relationship in which they lived separately. My brother lived with my mother and his wife lived with her sister. They had been married for 20+ years and dealt with many chronic issues over the years. My brother and his wife would stay at a motel on a regular basis to spend time alone together. This was a usually occurr...

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... I will be able to reconcile our differences. For the sake of our health and well-being, taking steps towards forgiving and genuine reconciliation is needed. I am not at that point to consider reconciliation, though I forgive my mother as she was responding as a mother to a son. I am sure I would not want my daughter in jail regardless of what she had done. It is hard to guess how I would feel as I have no sense of comparison for the act of a child in jail.

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