From the beginning of the novel, Dedé dreads having to talk to reporters and the like about the tragedy of the Mirabal sisters from the perspective of the sister who lives. She reveals to the reporter that she survives by only focusing on the good memories, and when she cannot do so she “get[s] stuck playing the same bad moment” (7). Fate forces Dedé to live either with her sisters in the past, or without them in the present, so she chooses to remember the good times. However, she cannot selectively remember only what she loves about her family’s past, and thus occasionally is caught in an unending bad memory. Dedé primarily speaks of the good times and what made each sister so unique, but later in the story she gets caught in the bad times.
No amount of comforting could stem the flow. It was then that Sophia really realised that her mother held something far beyond her own pain. As she held her she wondered what could have happened to cause her such pain and distress. Sophia’s thoughts raced ahead of her as she tried to make sense of Valarie’s tears. It suddenly dawned on her that she had never really thought abou... ... middle of paper ... ...ld not approve, but he said if they remained strong together, then it would not matter what they said.
Womanhood was a strong theme in the two essays as well. In My Mother Never Worked she understood the expectations as a lady to marry and raise a family. She even confronted the worry she felt towards this future for herself in the letters to her fiancé. She wrote, “ I have told you a dozen times I won’t be afraid of married life, but when it comes down to setting a date and then picturing myself a married woman with half a dozen or more kids to look after, it just makes me sick... I am weeping right now.” Later on in the narrative all the examples of hard work and sacrifice she does, like learning to garden and care for farm animals, sewing new cloths from scraps of cloth, and carrying buckets of water up and down miles
Valarie wanted to help her Aunt so much and be the child that she was crying for. She had often thought about finding Aunt Celia, it was something that lingered in her thoughts. Sometimes it was at the forefront, other times it drifted to the back, but it never left her. Valarie had not had contact with her family for so long that the thought of meeting them left her feeling cold. It was a hard thing to do, but in her mind it was the only thing to do.
I do not blame you, young Lily … forgive me for not being in your life…bring justice to my daughter’s death… she tried to be the best mother she could… sorry you didn’t know sooner… Be safe… They just kept flooding in, and even through the fear of the men she had to escape, she had to pause to take in her startling realization. Had that truly been her grandmother?
Her daughter Cornelia brought Doctor Harry to check Granny but she keeps shooing him away. Doctor Harry confirms however that Granny Weatherall does not have much time left in this world. Cornelia wants to take care of her mother but Granny Weatherall told her to leave her alone and that she will be fine. Granny Weatherall was too stubborn to see that she is dying but she started to doubt. Granny Weatherall later think about her long life and the hardship she been through as a single mother raising her children.
In her world, she only cared about them. If she did something in this world, she did it for them. Chanda’s always wanted Soly ad Iris to be happy and make her mom proud. She tries to give them the same love as her mother. In this situation, her brother and sister were not with her so, she missed them.
Learning from Mother in The Joy Luck Club "I have already experienced the worst. After this, there is no worst possible thing" (Amy Tan 121). Throughout The Joy Luck Club, Amy Tan tells stories of how mothers use the misfortunes in their lives, to try to teach their daughters about life. Many of the mothers had bad experiences in their pasts and do not want to see their daughters live through the same types of problems. They try to make their daughters' lives as easy and problem free as possible.
She intuitively knew that her mother did not posses some of the qualities she desired and this frustrated her. While at the end of the story, Beccah learns to feel love for her mother (given her tragic circumstances), it is clear that she was angered, frustrated, and embarrassed at times- and at some level wished she could have had a different parent.
It’s past time that we moved her to a retirement home.” Whoever she was speaking to would nod understandingly, “comforting” my mother and telling her how hard this time must be in our lives. My mother would always take the consoling to keep her façade on, but I knew better than that. She knew better than that. I always knew there must have been some reason behind my grandmother’s incantations. She just never revealed them to me until it was too late.