Parents have a responsibility in fixing conflict with their children; there are many ways to this, but two main ones are talking to the children and getting professional help. One of the last responsibilities a parent has during divorce is monitoring and... ... middle of paper ... ...ports that can help the children take their mind off the divorce and have fun. Although, divorce is a difficult situation to go through, there are many pros and cons that can come from divorce, For example, divorce is good if there is conflict between the parents, which is affecting the children. Divorce is bad because it can make the children depressed, because they can have certain feelings of loss. Should parents stay in marriage instead of divorce for the sake of the children?
A divorce can affect the traditional family dynamic in a multiple ways, including the relationship between children and their parents. The relationship between adolescent children and their parents in post-divorce families is often strained as a result of poor communications. Research indicates that a high degree of conflict between former spouses is one of the strongest detrimental influences on children and parent–child relations (Afifi & Schrodt, 2003). Two key behavior phenomena that can be observed in adolescents, in respect to their relationship to their divorced parents, are “feeling caught” as a mediator and inappropriate parental divorce disclosures. It has been suggested that, because older children have developed cognitive maturity, parents tend to rely on their adolescent offspring to provide support and advice, resulting in increased pressures and responsibilities (Wright & Maxwell, 1991).
The Effects of Divorce on Children Throughout time, people from all over the world have chosen to live together, or “get married”. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but there are some couples who are unable to maintain their relationships, because they choose divorce as a solution to cope with the problems between husband and wife. For a child, it is very difficult to live only with one of his or her parents. Children often cannot adjust well during the divorce of parents because the change can be devastating for them. Although divorce can be a solution to cope with problems between husbands and wives, it may often still have dangerous effects, especially on children.
Many things may make a childhood less than ideal, one of the most marring things that can happen to a child is their parents deciding to get a divorce. This news can shake up any person’s life but can really scar a young child who most likely does not have the capability to comprehend what is going on and what is about to change with their life. From their family structure to emotional state to academics and everything in between, everything is about to change in their young life. In the year 2014, two out of every five youth in America will have to deal with the reality of having divorced parents (Moutria). These numbers are staggering, what is the reason that so many peoples marriages do not last?
The people often overlooked throughout the process of a divorce, surprisingly enough, are the children. Children found in the middle of a divorce are very susceptible to developing trust issues, social problems, and often struggle academically. Successful relationships start with a foundation of trust and respect for one another. Being able to maintain trust in relationships is often a challenge for children coming from divorced parents, to a higher extent if the children observed an issue of trust disrupt their own parents’ marriage. Moreover, if a child becomes aware of an affair happening in their parents’ marriage, such child is very likely to carry a great resentment toward one parent and a much stronger bond with the other.
Divorce is becoming increasingly common among couples in today’s time. It is sad to know that most cases of divorce involve children. Divorce affects the parents but it affects the children much more. Divorce impacts kids greatly, often causing depression, rebellion, or inspiration/motivation, to develop and potentially end up a permanent aspect in their lives. When two parents decide to divorce, their children acquire a really tough pill to swallow.
Not many people know this but every year, an average of over one million children in America are unfortunately suffering from the aftermath of their parents’ divorce and most children born each year will witness a divorce by the age of 18 years old. This subject is a little touchy for me but also very important to go over because it hits home for me. My brother and I are children that witnessed our parents get a divorce. That was probably one of the hardest things we’d ever had to go through and I find this being the perfect opportunity to study and research more on how and why divorce can be so hard on the children it effects. Not only is this sociologically significant to science and people all over but it is also personally significant to me as well.
As the case may be, children are strongly affected by divorce. Some react differently than others, but all experience some kind of emotional change. Parents who are going through a divorce sometimes try to shield their children from the situation. But regardless of their parents good intentions, children often find themselves in an emotional catastrophe. Instead of protection from the situation, children need support and reassurance during this hard time.
Unfortunately, this may cause the custodial parent to be upset for not being able to meet the needs of the child. Divorce is hard for those kids who have to face these situations. Most of the studies showed that divorce makes a huge difference in children’s life. I have learned that, when parents get divorced, it breaks the foundation that the child was used to.
Parenting discrepancies can cause children confusion and resentment toward one or both parents. Children who are forced to move and choose sides by their parents are immensely impacted by the stress caused by those occurrences. Although divorce is apparent in every child’s life in one way or another, those children who experience divorce first hand must be resilient to any new challenges thrown their way.