Although traditional motherhood is generally depicted as a loving and selfless experience in which a mother guides her daughter through life, Tillie Olsen suggests that conventional motherhood shames women for not living up to its unrealistic expectations and it is a method to suppress women. The patriarchy misrepresents traditional motherhood as a loving and selfless experience in which a mother adores her child unconditionally and teaches her daughter important values. The story begins with a phone conversation between the mother and another character, possibly a counselor, social worker or teacher of her daughter. The teacher or counselor talks on the phone with the mother and assumes that “because [she is] her mother [she has] the key” to her daughter and can understand her completely (Olsen 292). This excerpt demonstrates the unrealistic expectations for mothers that the patriarchy has instilled throughout society.
She took her childish dream version of the situation and turned it into reality. Even though it was not the nicest way of telling her that she was wrong it was the best. Since she loved)((use more in P))) her family she decided to be more direct and use tough love to save everyone. The two mothers despite their differences are both help their family be as successful as possible. Nonetheless, the mothers were successful in showing that an ideal mother sacrifices for her children, does her best to ensure their children’s survival, and uses tough love.
However some women are unable to have strong relationships with their mothers, this can be seen in then novel The Kitchen God's Wife by Amy Tan. Unfortunately Jiang Weili wasn't able to have a powerful relationship with her mother. Because of her mothers absence Jiang Weili wasn't able to find her own identity and isn't able to have a productive relationship with her daughter. Pearl feels alienated from her mother however, Jiang Weili only believes she is doing the best for her daughter. Pearl and Winnie prove that the mother daughter relationship is essential for a girl to become a woman.
This can be said in reference to the decision made by a character, Aissatou, in So Long a Letter by Mariamma Ba, when she decides to leave her husband Mawdo, after having four kids with him because he wants to marry a woman whom his mother approves of. Many Senegalese women became aware of their rights and begun to stand up to defend themselves against unjust l... ... middle of paper ... ...ttached of breaking away from the Muslim religion It seems in the novel the women are judgmental and separate themselves from each other because they are afraid of being a replaced by a younger wife. Therefore, woman separate, but Mariamma Ba urges woman to do the opposite because numbers will increase the strength of woman. Ramatoulaye realizes that she was obeying and depending on her husband and following the societal norms and urges all the other women to unite and be independent of a man that doesn't appreciate a woman. Also, Ramatoulaye makes a choice to be a single woman that will do anything for her children and doesn't want to be with a man like Daouda who might be rich, but has a wife already.
Her grandmother is Nanny, and her first husband is named Logan Killicks. In Their Eyes Were Watching God, “Janie, an attractive woman with long hair, born without benefit of clergy, is her heroine” (Forrest). Janie’s grandmother felt that Janie needs someone to depend on before she dies and Janie could no longer depend on her. In the beginning, Janie is very against the marriage. Nanny replied with, “’Tain’t Logan Killicks Ah wants you to have, baby, its protection.
When did you become one of the ndichie (meaning elders) of Umuofia? "(pg.12) Clearly she receives no respect. Later in the story we see this woman try to comfort Ikemefuna. She "mothers" him as if he is one of her own children. She tries to put him at ease and can almost instinctively feel how much he misses his own mother.
Like all women, Janie is expected to withdraw from her views to please her grandmother, which she does. Janie’s principle of independence is overridden by her grandmother. During the slavery era, the elders were dominant over the younger individuals. Not only does the theme of “elders know best” exist in African American culture but in society as a whole, such as the Native Americans and the Africans. Janie wanted to give her grandmother assurance that she would be taken care of before her death, a month after Janie’s marriage, Nan... ... middle of paper ... ...in size and production, the marriage between Jody and Janie deteriorates.
To refute the other argument that the mother does not specifically address her daughter’s outburst is that in the story she does address the outburst, just not in the ways that would seem conventional. After all, this is a story set years ago in a time that modern day parenting is quite different from in the 60’s. The mother addresses the last outburst of the daughter by asking her daughter after all this time she took to teach her daughter how to be a respectable young woman she won’t even take any of the teachings and become just another ‘slut’ in the eyes of the community. This paper argued that the mother in Jamaica Kincaid’s short story “Girl” is loving towards her daughter because the mother is taking time to teaching her daughter how to be a woman, and because she wants to protect her in the future from society’s judgment. Kincaid showed that the mother cared and loved her daughter.
My mother helped me become a good woman with family values and she influenced me to maintain a balance in life and persevere through hardships. She taught me that even though the bible states that women should submit themselves to their husband that does not mean that they are less inferior to them. Lastly, my mother showed me how women can accomplish anything that their hearts desire and are capable of taking care of family while having their own careers. Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn't know you had, and dealing with fears you didn't know existed. The French novelist, Anatole France once said that “to accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe”.
Aunt Alexandra has strict and traditional ideas of how society works and the role for a Southern woman within it, which she tries to enforce upon Scout at the beginning to this novel. ‘When I said I could do nothing in a dress, she said I wasn’t supposed to be doing things that required pants.’ Scout immediately takes a dislike to Aunt Alexandra when she criticises her about her overalls. Aunt Alexandra fits in well with the neighbours in Maycomb, but not with the children, as she demands different standards of behaviour from what they are used to. Aunt Alexandra does create an impact during her stay when trying to influence the children during their crucial years of growing up. Atticus is worried that he is not doing his best for his children and is torn between being courteous to his sister and raising Jem and Scout as he sees fit.