Why Women Choose Mr. Wrong over Mr. Right
A very common question in life is what makes a woman choose a certain man. Why does it seem that women choose men that are disrespectful opposed to men that are overly emotional and very respectful to women? You would think that most women want to be treated with dignity and kindness. So, then wouldn't the obvious choice for a woman be the nice guy who treats her sweet over the guy who is disrespectful? Well, when it comes right down to the reality of it all, that is not the case. The reasons for women choosing Mr. Wrong over Mr. Right is that Mr. Wrong plays on the emotional and self-consciousness side of a woman.
Women are usually not very confident with their appearance. A disrespectful guy tends to use this to his advantage. By keeping her confidence level low, and leading her to believe that she cannot do any better keeps her at his side. When a nice guy is sweet to her and tries to build up that confidence level, her first subconscious thought is "Why is he being nice to me? There must be something wrong with him." This is, of course, an absurd way to think. But when she has to go chasing after Mr. Wrong, subconsciously she is thinking "He must be something special if he's that hard to catch." This, of course, is silly thinking as well, but this is what goes on every day in the minds of women.
The mind of a woman is a very complicated thing to understand. Her thought process does not always make sense, even to her. A man who treats a woman poorly makes that woman question whether or not she is worthy of his attention. This causes her to try harder to please
him, and then she simply accepts the treatment she is given. Her emotions end up getting the best of her. Her desires to be wanted and accepted overcome her sensibility, and her mind isn't thinking clearly. The woman ends up believing that she is lucky to receive any attention at all. On the other hand, when a nice guy is attentive to a woman and pays her compliments on a regular basis, she believes that he is just telling her what she wants to hear.
tries to make her disinterested in him so that again, he may concentrate on the
anyone stuck with this type of man. The choice of what type of man a woman chooses to
Women sometimes are duped as many of us are into doing things that we do not want to do. Who really wants to clean their room, but cleaning our room without us knowing would result in a clean room while going against our own will.
insulted by him and does not go out of the her way to say: " For this
It's very sad to think that a woman and a man could have ever thought this way. However, it's even sadder to think that some still do. Women everywhere suffer abuse, mental or otherwise, at the hands or their (pri)mates every day. They must find the strength in themselves and the confidence to know that THEY are the ones who determine their own fate…and to realize that no one has the right to put them down. Our foremothers worked hard to make sure that we had choices-- not obligations. And when we let someone else take those choices from us, they are really taking our freedom, and our life.
In “Gender and Moral Luck,” Claudia Card argues that men and women have very different mindsets that set the two apart from one another. Her argument is that women are caring and inclusive with a weak sense of justice. Women are encouraged to assimilate and because of this, they become extensions in their relationships (206). That is what causes men to hold all the power in society. Men hold the power in the political sense because the majority of the leaders in office are male, but they also hold power in the house holds. Women are also masochistic in the sense that they can’t seem to say “no” in most cases because they are too caring. They tend to stay in bad relationships due to their need to satisfy everyone and their failure to accept
Women can become frightened of men and afraid of having relationship with them and men can become worried for the women in their lives. This leads to the untrusting relationships. Those who have been raped and their families suffer from emotional trauma that may interfere with their lives for years. And those who rape think their actions are acceptable
... own childhood; no matter it are security and nurturing or abandonment and neglect, guidance and respect, or abuse and disdain. Not only the man becomes psychologically or physically abusive, but he is also aggressive towards his partner whenever he feels that his experience of rejection and consecutive disruption cannot be soothed by the defence that he mounted. Those people with a history of neglect or abuse, they usually not able to have confident in their partners whereby they perceive their partners as enemies instead of allies. These abusive relationships are often repeatable becoming more intense as if the man is riding on a rollercoaster ride. The rejection-abusive cycle is considered complete when the man felt he is not appreciated as his unrealistic expectation on relationships is not fulfilled - closeness and intimacy, in other words, further rejection.
Why do women choose to live in abusive and miserable relationships? Instead of taking actions and strive for happy life, women choose to stay silent. They have all the power to go against self-empowered men, but most of women renounce action. There are certain obstacle created by society and especially men that make it harder for women to stand up for themselves.
...ord. Sometimes woman act like a hard egg shell on the outside but in the inside they more fragile then what they let people see. Woman will suffer from other illness that they cannot control. This is what leads them into making decisions that they might regret in the future.
Pain can be within a person or the physical appearance of one. In the beginning, women will try and change whatever that bothers their significant other, like their appearance or actions. But will then realize the changes they made will not change the abusers harmful actions or disputes. With low self-esteem, women will start to not maintain themselves as they were before. Street and Arias say, “Seventy-two percent of one same of physically abused women reported that the psychological abuse that they had experienced had a more severe impact on them than the physical abuse that they had experienced”
Sometimes women get so caught up in trying to please the men in their life that they lose themselves. In the play Inherit the Wind, when Nora visits Bert in jail and is trying to convince him to give up on the fight she says “Everybody says what you did was bad”(Lawrence and Lee 8). Nora has never once thought herself how she feels about the situation, but yet decides that Bert
... By assuming he makes not only her feel uncomfortable but hows that he has problems with communicating in the correct manner.
Women might see things in a different light than men. They want to please the man in their life, but at the same time they want to be respected and seen as a human beings with feelings. Women today are stronger and more in charge and they don’t allow for a man to come into their life and destroy what they have built for themselves.
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