There are many aspects to think of when dealing with the subject of having control. Life is a very complicated and long process so it would be difficult to narrow control down to one simple category. That being said, we are in control of the bigger picture and what will eventually happen in the long term of our individual lives. We have control ultimately in the small choices we make on an everyday basis that lead to the bigger picture. In all of the everyday decisions that are made, a web is created that puts us in control of what is to come. It is often difficult to see life as a process but this is the first step in recognizing that you do have more control than anyone wants you to think. As humans, living in a world that is forever changing, it is clear that we will not always have every answer to every situation that comes up. This is normal and natural. But by taking the opportunity to do one's …show more content…
Imagine that any time on this is set in motion or one decision is made, ten things have already happened making that decision useless. This attitude can be defensive and make someone work harder but it can also be incredibly dangerous because it doesn’t leave much room for hope. The idea of being able to control anything beyond what you choose to do as a result of something is optimistic at best if you are coming from this frame of mind. Control and having control is a state of mind that one must adopt in order to be able to move forward. This means understanding that nothing is ever done. Life is constantly moving and we need to move with it. Our decisions are ours to make and we cannot sit by while other make them for us. This is how we gain the feeling of being out of control. We need to recognize that our destiny is made by the steps we take and we need to take the best possible steps in order to be able to one day achieve the best possible destiny that we can imagine for
In my own words, I believe that self-control is a deliberate attempt to change the way one thinks and acts about something. For instance, during the month of March, I am on a restricted diet to try to find food triggers to my daily migraines. When I first started, I had to remind myself constantly that at breakfast I wasn’t going to grab a glass of milk, or at lunch, that I wasn’t going to make myself a sandwich. I didn’t realize how hard this was going to be when I first started. There are still times, 15 days after starting, that I am reminded by my mom or dad that I can’t eat certain foods or that I have to pack my own dinner because where we go for dinner won’t have food that I can eat. Every day, I am retraining my mind at how I look at food. I am having to constantly shift my mind away from the long list of food I can’t eat and focus on food that I can. The way that I shift my thoughts of food, is similar to how Erica in Brooks’ book had to shift her thoughts to focus on her tennis match going on. It is a constant rewiring of how the brain looks at the world around us. This process is not easy, and takes a lot of work and time. However, as time progresses, it does get easier. Growing up, I missed a several years of my childhood due to tragedies that occurred. Going through the aftermath of some of the hardships I was facing, I developed an isolated mindset. I thought that if I didn’t get close to people, than I couldn’t get hurt by them as well.
Do we control the judgments and decisions that we make every day? In the book,
So when at work or at a party you have to ultimately make a choice. At work, you can choose to do poorly because you think your work will be overlooked resulting in an external locus of control or work hard because you think you determine the results of your work, which is an internal locus of control. Same situation different scenario, with your personal life. For example, you can choose to be quiet and talk to no one at a party because they choose to be alone. They make a difference by sparking up a conversation with someone they know or someone
In his novel Brave New World, Aldous Huxley illustrates ways in which government and advanced science control society. Through actual visualization of this Utopian society, the reader is able to see how this state affects Huxley’s characters. Throughout the book, the author deals with many different aspects of control. Whether it is of his subjects’ feelings and emotions or of the society’s restraint of population growth, Huxley depicts government’s and science’s role in the brave new world of tomorrow.
It is hard to take control of your life. It may be impossible to do so and be in charge of your destiny in certain parts of the world. For instance, being born into a very poor country might not give you the same opportunities to be whatever you want to be. Also, living where others are in control of your destiny also presents a challenge for you to break away and live your own life. In George Orwell’s “Shooting an Elephant,” and Shirley Jackson’s “The Lottery,” arguments could be made that these people have no control over their destiny’s. They are forced to live their lives according to someone else’s control. To a certain extent, circumstances like where you are born, the society and religion to which you are exposed to play roles in our
Perhaps one of the most profound needs of humans is having control. Control gives not only satisfaction but also a sense of relief that things are going to go the way one has planned. In the evolutionary perspective, having a control for one’s environment results to better survivability. The loss of control on the other hand provides a cramped stress to gain control. It proves to be one of the needs that certainly ranks in the top of the hierarchy. Shakespeare’s play, Macbeth, and Steven Galloway’s The Cellist of Sarajevo, shows the human struggle for control and what they would do to grasp it. Both literary pieces show that inclination towards having control. Humans, although impossible, have an inner desire to control everything.
A fundamental theme of the Brave New World is to achieve perfection through deceitful control. Technology, conditioning/predestining, and manufactured happiness are tools of control to achieve what the leaders believed to be perfect. The Director proves my point in describing the Fertilization Process, “the operation undergone voluntarily for the good of Society…” (5). Perfection in their minds is manageable conformity without opposition. Ford’s control over the society is especially insidious because the people don’t know they’re being controlled so they’re not going to fight. It’s become normalized. The actions of the leaders and Ford propose a question, “Will this end in overall perfection in our society?” The almighty Ford decided to turn a world just like ours into one he views as a utopia. Since Ford’s methods are meant to be deceptive and efficient, they are often torturous. Even before the babies were hatched, technology was already being used to control for a better future.
Many people believe they’re in control of their lives and they make decisions for themselves; people believe that they have the absolute control with their choices. While the choices we make might be what we decide, there’s still a possibility of others having an influence on our choices. Wether these choices are simply deciding on what to buy, or to focus on our career choice, it’s likely your choices were influenced in some way. Our subconscious can in a way “force” us to believe in a specific manner, leading us to the choices we make. Is it because we want to please the people around us so we constantly change our views to match theirs, or were we ever in control in the first place?
As I read Krakovsky’s article, I realized that how hard to manage the goals and overcome my weakness and temptations. Krakovsky said: “The highest opinions of their self- restraint were most likely to give in to temptation” (41) imagining that we are on the boat in the center of a river. There are three branches in front indicating which way you are going therefore you which way is the right way. If you do not know where do you go, your boat will turn in the way which the flow drifts. It likes on your “river life”, if you do not have a strong target, the temptations will swirl you in to a drift which you cannot control. For example, one year ago, I did not know what I want to do, and I did not care what happen to my future. I wasted a lot
What allows a person to control their future? One of the best answers to this question comes from House on Mango Street, a novella by Sandra Cisneros. In her novella, Cisneros presents the theme that an individual’s future is determined by the individual’s self-confidence and determination to succeed; if a person has these qualities, they will determine their own future, while a person lacking these qualities will let others determine their future for them.
In the world there are two distinct types of things. There are things that exist external to us, such as one's reputation or a relationship. We do not have direct control over these things since they exist outside of us. Then there are internal things that we do have control over, like out desires, or things we dislike. The internal things can be controlled, while the external can be harder to control. Some philosophers even believe that the external things cannot be controlled, and attempting to control them will just bring unhappiness.
Because we have no control over what we want and we turn what we want to what we need but it is not something we really need. We make excuses and try to come up with reasons for needing what we want. Our wants brings us excitement and our needs don’t bring us anything. We never really think about our needs, but think about our wants. We are so focused on what we want that we don’t think about what we need.
In life, there are times when I feel like I have to be in control of everything. That is not possible though. When you try to take charge of every single little thing, you cause unnecessary tribulations to come your way. We have to let go and be a follower in our lives. For some being a follower can be a small thing, but for me and some others it can completely change your life. When I became a follower of Jesus Christ a little over a year ago my outlook on life was completely changed. It was a decision that was made to surrender everything over to God after I was saved by Christ.
If I had an a high external locus control, I could felt like prisoner of luck, fate, my genetic make-up, or socioeconomic status, rather than feeling that I have control over what happens in my life. However, the test results proved me wrong. Due that I have a high internal locus of control, I often take responsibility for my actions as well as credit for my behaviours. “This makes me more proactive in everything I do and seem to have struck a balance between the two ends of the spectrum, (Locus Of Control & Attribution Style Test - Sample Report, n.d.). Therefore, I constantly tell myself that it is vital for me to try my best, accept and understand my own limits but I should also not give up that easily without a fight. If I perceived myself as someone who lacked control, I may find myself inhibiting motivation, initiative and willingness to take risks. Thus, under such circumstances, chances of success can be diminished. The results of the locus control are a clear indication that I lean towards furthest towards the internal side, which is healthier end of the spectrum to be
Mills states that often, people feel trapped in their everyday situations and in their life as a whole. They feel as if they have no options or control over their circumstances (McIntyre 2014). Although in many cases they aren’t in control, they also aren’t always to blame for their situations, either. Often, society plays a role. With a sociological imagination, people are able to truthfully assess their own situations.