Therefore, for the child to feel as if they belong somewhere they go looking for the attention they crave elsewhere. This is where most go down the wrong
Authoritative and authoritarian parents hold high expectations of children. The overly strict authoritarian parent expects their children not to question their authority and leaves little room for freedom of expression. In contrast, the permissive parent holds few expectations or demands, yet allows the development of self expression. As a result, authoritarian children are apt to rely on voices of authority and lack spontaneity, while permissive children may find it difficult to control their impulses and are reluctant to accept responsibility.
Having expectations and boundaries are a vigorous part of parenting until it becomes unfeasible. As a result of being too strict, children often become de... ... middle of paper ... ... work individually and unite to influence children outcomes. Although specific parenting behaviors, such as spanking or reading aloud, may impact child development, looking at a certain behavior in isolation may be misleading. Though parents may fluctuate in how they try to control or socialize their children, it is implicit that the prime role of all parents is to influence, guide, and control their children. Parenting style provides a robust indicator of parenting functioning that foresees child well-being across a wide spectrum of environments and across diverse communities of children.
In a permissive family, the children are in charge. Authoritarian-parents who are punitive and focus on gaining a child's obedience to parental demands rather than responding to the demands of the child.Authoritarian parenting styles give little to no options to a child. What the parent says goes. It is a rigid approach to raising children that may have been most effective in times of great famine or toil. It was used most commonly in large, traditional families in which the father was the patriarch, and everyone else was called to follow his command.
An authoritarian parenting style is characterized by excessive demandingness and unresponsiveness. Within this parenting style, children are told what to do, and expected to follow the orders. Often, rules are strict and communication is only one way. Also, parents use a system of punishment to enforce their control. For example, children of authoritarian parents might be expected to have high achievements with little or no recognition.
Parents are rated high in nurture and low in structure. They do not expect certain rules and rarely discipline their children. Permissive parents are easily manipulated, which in turn the children are allowed total freedom without repercussions. These parents offer their children unconditional love. The by-product of this parenting style is a demanding and difficult child, as well as someone who lacks empathy and kindness for others (Wentzel & Russell, 2009).
This type of parenting involves being nurturing, responsive and involved all while having high expectations. One other parenting style is uninvolved parenting. Uninvolved parenting is quite the opposite of Authoritative parenting. These parents are normally detached from their children. The way one chooses to parent their child really molds the child into who they will be as they grow older.
Instead of utilizing consequences as punishment for their adolescent, these parents will use bribery to get their child to behave properly. Generally, permissive parents will act more as a friend to their adolescent child than an assertive parent. Although most adolescents dream of having such a parent, most do not realize nor understand the detrimental impacts this style of parenting can have on them. Due to the lack of consequences and discipline utilized by the parents, “Children raised by permissive parents tend to lack self-discipline, possess poor social skills, may be self-involved and demanding, and may feel insecure…”(“What Is Permissive Parenting”). Typically, adolescents who grow up in these environments never have the opportunity to learn how to be independent and self-reliant since their guardians do everything for them.
While an authoritative parent monitors and would most likely intervene to change this developing belief system, unfortunately, a non-authoritative parent may not be the first to take this initiative in their child’s life. This parenting style typically leads to behaviors in the child where they may perform well in school to please their teachers, however they may also feel anxious, withdrawn, and have a general unhappiness. They most likely will have trouble dealing with the frustrations in life, will generally follow traditional roles of social expectations, and will enter into adulthood with a general lack of the warmth, unconditional love and nurturance that children require as they
The results, as Amy Morin who is a psychotherapist says, “Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much of the time. But, they may develop self-esteem problems” (Morin). In other words, the results of this parenting style cause children to lack in confidence as well as not being sure of their own decision-making skills. Neglectful parenting on the other hand is when the parents are not involved in the child's life. The parents take care of the child's basic needs of survive like food and shelter, but they don't comfort the child or try being in their lives.