What Is Fatherhood?

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Fatherhood is not just title a man is giving when a child is born, it’s a responsibility and a commitment that one must endure before and after a child is born. The process is not easy but extremely rewarding. In this writing I interview some fathers. Some of these fathers are expecting or recently became fathers. In my research based off of interviews with these individuals I will summarize the actuality of what fatherhood is and has been to them.
I recently gathered with 5 high school buddies to play poker at another friend’s house. This was probably one of the last times all of us would be able to gather like this saying that Edgar , and Paulos are both expecting the birth of their child. Edgar’s girlfriend is due any day now and Paulos’s
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Edgar is more of the partying spontaneous friend. He is a barber in Pacific Beach and his girlfriend is a reflection of his lifestyle since she is a female exotic dancer. I don’t think Edgar has many goals in life but his success as a barber has been able to supply him with a lavish enough lifestyle to party heavy. On the other hand his mature and outlook on fatherhood is totally opposite. When I asked him how he feels about becoming a father he told me that he is extremely excited. He cannot wait to meet his little girl and watch her grow. We also mentioned about me maybe coaching girls basketball when she old enough to play. I chuckled and told him “ I will stick to boys basketball”. The way Edgar has been his girlfriend through the pregnancy has just been financially. Unfortunaly there is no Maternity leave and pay for Exotic Dancers, so he has been taking care of her financial debts since the time she stop working. He also has showed up to some doctor visits when he can leave his busy shop. When I asked Edgar what being a “good father” means he expressed to me that not being a dead beat father like his father is what he think means the most to him. He wants to be there when his daughter from her…show more content…
They work hard to provide them with so much and it shows. When I asked Alan what kind role or part he played in his child birth he stated “everything”. The biggest challenges he says he has as a father is just having to be one, but 3 times. Learning how each kid develops different no matter if you raise them the same or not. What he think being a good father is the way you raise your children. He has read about and practice different parenting styles but, finding the one that is most adaptable to each kid is the big challenge. Since Alan is somewhat older than my other test fathers, the way he said having a kid has changed his life is just the amount of time he actually has for himself has completely diminished, but he enjoys it. The advice shared with me for new fathers is to not stress everything so much. Don’t panic and overacted to the concept of
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