In this type of parenting, spoiling the children’s behavior by giving bribes and gifts are their parenting tools instead of setting the boundaries and expectations. Parents are often afraid to set limits as they believe child has to be true to his or her own nature (Traunter, 2017). According to research (2009), children under the permissive parenting approach is more likely to display low achievement in many areas and develop other risky behaviors such as drug use and other forms of misconduct. Children under the permissive parenting grow up without the strong sense of self-discipline. Since the parents don’t set the boundaries for the children, they lack the skills in social setting.
Typically a parent would not endure in such actions, but it varies from parent to parent. When left with the situation of discipling their kids, some parents feel guilty for taking measures into their own hands, and other parents feel no remorse. The whole purpose of discipline on children is to set them in place. By that I mean to help guide the child down the right path to a prosperous life and responsible adult. If it means physical or verbal discipline, then it is all for the greater good.
As a consequence to this condescending parenting style, children do not develop an ability to express feelings and, therefore, may detriment to their capacity to interact with peers (Fielder, 2008). They also show distinct social characteristics such as rebellious, less social competence and low self-esteem (Darling, 1999). On the other hand, authoritative parents, have established a reciprocal relationship with their children, setting clear rules, but at the same time evaluating them in relation to their feelings. Because parents foster a sense of participation and flexibility, children relating to this
Parents are said to act more as a friend to the child than a parent. Children who grow up under this parenting style are said to likely be low achievers and struggle with problem solving as well as decision making, they are also more prone to substance abuse. I personally feel this type of parenting style would be most harmful for teenagers, and young adults who are testing waters and trying new things along with pushing limits. A fourth parenting style was later identified called Neglectful Parenting known for being one of the most damaging of the parenting styles. Parents don’t interact with the child, and are uninvolved with the child’s emotional or even physical needs.
Children also lack sharing skills and social skills. 4) NEGLECTFUL/ UNINVOLVED PARENTING: Such parenting styles involve few demands, less responsiveness and little communication skills. Parents are totally detached from their child’s basic needs. But often reject or neglect their children’s need. They are also sometimes called neglectful parents.
Instead of utilizing consequences as punishment for their adolescent, these parents will use bribery to get their child to behave properly. Generally, permissive parents will act more as a friend to their adolescent child than an assertive parent. Although most adolescents dream of having such a parent, most do not realize nor understand the detrimental impacts this style of parenting can have on them. Due to the lack of consequences and discipline utilized by the parents, “Children raised by permissive parents tend to lack self-discipline, possess poor social skills, may be self-involved and demanding, and may feel insecure…”(“What Is Permissive Parenting”). Typically, adolescents who grow up in these environments never have the opportunity to learn how to be independent and self-reliant since their guardians do everything for them.
And those are caused some negative attitudes of many parents of teenage children imposition and authoritarianism, misunderstanding, disrespect, intolerance, impatience, distrust, fear to be "out of hand" are parents instead of helping the children; exercise new skills like; reflection, critical thinking, reasoning, moral autonomy, privacy, openness to friendship, etc. the parents are engaged with the best intentions to stop them. This not only delay the maturation of their children but also provoke situations of isolation and
The results, as Amy Morin who is a psychotherapist says, “Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much of the time. But, they may develop self-esteem problems” (Morin). In other words, the results of this parenting style cause children to lack in confidence as well as not being sure of their own decision-making skills. Neglectful parenting on the other hand is when the parents are not involved in the child's life. The parents take care of the child's basic needs of survive like food and shelter, but they don't comfort the child or try being in their lives.
The children may not obtain any encouragement or direction because of the lack of parental attention. These children tend to be the most unfortunate in life, having no rules to follow and no motivation since they lack in self-esteem and are almost always sad causing several behavioral problems. To sum up, discipline is a central topic for dealing with your child, from babies to becoming adults. Therefore the parents should know and understand the four types of parenting styles because it highly contributes to the child’s development to adulthood. It is significant to know in which they belong and what would be the outcome for the child and how they can change and balance things for the better of the child.
A neglectful parent can be defined as someone who doesn’t give proper care or attention to their children. There are two types of parents that fall under this category: a parent who doesn’t care and a parent who isn’t around. The first type of neglectful parent allows their children to do whatever they want, whenever they want, with no consequences or repercussions. They give their children too much freedom and space, which makes the child reliant on themselves. This could lead to them making very poor choices because of their lack of guidance.