Unspoken Rules Case Study

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Introduction Unspoken rules are the natural phenomenon when people are having stress in modern. Due to increasing stress we need to solve from the society, causing a rise in the unspoken rules happened. We have much pressure you need to face such as high expectation of academic or policy. We need to find the factors of affecting the emotion and behaviour. Therefore, we can be easily to avoid the negative emotion and behaviour happened by unspoken rules. The aims of this project are mostly to examine the ABC model and the effect of thinking distortions. Another aim is to apply these concepts with my personal experience how the unspoken rules affect my emotion and behaviour. Literature Review Accorcing to Ellis (1962), “we are always introduced…show more content…
It is the distortions in our thinking. Psychologist Dr. Ellis said that thinking distortions are the automatic thinking, distorted thoughts which cause individuals to perceive reality inaccurately and usually are negative thoughts which cause negative emotions and depressive or anxious mental state. There are some thinking distortions so I mentioned some common distortion. A distortion called jumping to conclusions. For instance, you believe you will fail an examination so you do not study and fail the examination. Another distortion called should statement. We have a list of ironclad rules about how others and we should behave. People who break the rules make us angry, and we feel guilty when we violate these rules. A person may often believe they are trying to motivate themselves with “should” and “shouldn’t”, as if they have to be punished before they can do anything. The emotional consequence is guilt. For example, “I should be the best. I must never be failing the test.”. The third one is labelling. We identify with the shortcomings and assign labels to ourselves or other people. For instance, sometimes we said or thought “I am a loser.”. There are a lot of thinking distortions in our life. I think we should know the happened of the unspoken rules affect our negative emotion and behaviour so we can easy control. The last one is all-or-none thinking. That means things are seen as black and white. There is no gray or middle ground. Things are wonderful or awful, good or bad, perfect or a failure. For example, if I am not perfect then I am a
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