"The exposure of women to physical and mental problems" is one of the important consequences of disturbing the tranquility in marital life, which has different forms. Depression has been one of these problems. In some cases, the severity of depression has led to a desire for death and thinking of suicide: Behaviors of my mother-in-law is so annoying that sometimes I say I wish I did not exist." Sometimes, I feel so bad which I am so eager to die. At a period that I so shattered I am just waiting for an opportunity to destroy myself " (29 years old, with 4 years of common life). Nervous weakness was another psychological problem: "My nerves has been very weak, I'm upset with the smallest words and behavior, now that I were not suchlike in the …show more content…
Women consider the satisfaction in other dimensions of life based on tranquility in marital life, and they have expressed disruptions in their growth and successes in other areas of life are from the effects of disturbances of tranquility in marital life, which has had many instances. Disruption of the progress of personal programs, including studying, has been one of these examples. The lack of concentration of attention in the performance of their duties and daily routines has been among other instances of disruptions to the growth and success of women: "When one has not tranquility and his spirits are ruined, his/her works will be also ruined, my own when I'm nervous from my life, I'm confused and mistake at work. " Some women have also postponed important life plans such as childbearing and continuing education and the waste of opportunity, and know these from the effects of disturbance of tranquility in marital life. They also spoke of not growing spiritually: "Now, after eight years, I totally feel that I am spiritually lower than the single period and this is due to the kind of life and the tensions and problems that I had after …show more content…
I gave my mariage-portion to give me a divorce, before birth of my daughter I applied to divorce, I'm still asking for it, now my daughter is seventeen years old".
Seeking of alternative for missed tranquility
The issue of "Seeking of alternative for missed tranquility" illustrates one of the effects and consequences of disturbing women's tranquility in marital life, which suggests that women are turned into alternative relationships with the aim of filling the gap caused by disturbances in marital life.
"Spiritual calmatives" is one of the alternatives chosen by women. In the face of impairment of tranquility in marital life, women have benefited from communicating with God and resorting to the household of Allah (PBUH), according to their conditions, in various ways to achieve tranquility: tranquility from God's remembrance of women has also helped to withstand the problems. "When I am nervous I pray two postures and I will feel comfortable. I need to get rid of myself by any way. I'll go to the meeting of recital of the tragedies of Karbala for Imam Hussein (AS), or I will read Lahof for myself and I will cry I will become light; the memory of God will be relaxed. And it helps me to
Marriage was once for the sole purpose of procreation and financially intensives. Living up to the roles that society had placed on married couples, more so women, is no longer the goal in marriage. Being emotional satisfied, having a fulfilled sex life and earning money is more important in marriage (Cherlin, 2013). Couples no longer feel the obligation to put the needs of their partner in front of their own needs. In the 1960’s and later it was the woman’s job to ensure that the house was clean, the children were bathed and dinner was prepared before the husband came home work. However, once more and more women began to enter the workplace and gain more independence, a desire for self-development and shared roles in the household lead way the individualistic marriage that is present in today’s society (Cherlin,
In conclusion, that marital traditions have changed greatly over the centuries and due to this, the opinion of what an ‘ideal marriage” consists of has changes as well. When reviewing the document “On Love and Marriage” the author (a Merchant of Paris) believes that marriage should not be an equal partnership, but one that pleases the husband to avoid conflict. Most women today can be very thankful that these ideas were drastically altered from previous centuries, and that tradition was not carried out onto present day society.
Are you looking for a book that will just straight out tell you some of the most common mistakes women do to mess up their lives? Well, if you are this is the book for you. It's written by Dr. Laura Schlessinger an admired psychotherapist and the hosts of a top rated midday talk show. Dr. Schlessinger has strong beliefs and opinions about the things women often do to mess up their lives, and in this book she comes right out and lets you know what they are. She writes about the ten most common things she hears from her actual patients and callers and helps us women to understand that we make our own choices in life, if we are not happy than it's no-ones fault but our own. You can choose to live a life of grief and misery or take her advice and rise above it.
In class there have been many discussions over the relationships and marriages among the books we have read. When someone thinks of marriage, a fairy tale with a happy ending might come to mind, or possibly a safe haven for those looking for something stable. In The Awakening by Kate Chopin, and “The Yellow Wallpaper” by Charlotte Perkins Gilman, marriage takes a turn for the worse. Marriage is no longer the happy memories in a lifetime. It can be the thing that hinders the women in these stories from developing their full potential or experiencing the world and other lifestyles. Through these texts and this time frame, we will analyze the meaning of their marriages, how they function, and the end result of both.
"Restlessness was in my nature; it agitated me to pain sometimes ... Women are supposed to be very calm generally: but women feel just as men feel; they need exercise for their faculties, and a field for their efforts as much as their brothers do; they suffer from too rigid a constraint, too absolute a stagnation, precisely as men would suffer."
It is a very difficult task for women to live a content life while in a despondent marriage. Though it has been done, it is simply no easy task. In the short stories "Story of an hour", and "Astronomers Wife" Kate Chopin and Kay Boyle both suggests to their readers that a woman needs a man to connect with her physically to be happy. The two stories both share the thesis that women are being held back by their husbands and there is plenty of evidence to prove this. With Chopin's story taking place in the 50's, and Boyle's story taking place at the turn of the century, they encounter parallel situations with a time difference of almost 50 years.
Clinton and Sibcy (2006) point to a recurring pattern within a marriage suffering from disconnect, and that is the pattern of pursuing and withdrawing. When a couple is in a cycle of hurt, one spouse will react to the disconnect or drift by pursuing the other partner. The pursued partner reacts by withdrawing. This pattern continues the hurt, causes the cyclical pattern of one partner pursuing and the other partner withdrawing. Neither spouse can connect with the other and each struggle with understanding where the other is coming from. As the drift progresses in the marriage, Balswick and Balswick (2014) note that “over a period of time, the wife’s verbal expression of love will diminish. Many a wife begins marriage with expansive declarations of love for her husband, but without reciprocal expression, she will express her feelings less frequently.” (p.
First of all, in the essay, “I Want a Wife”, Judy Syfers exposes the meaning of “wife” presently in our society. Her argument is based on the premise that all wives are completely devoted to their husbands and are willing to tend to all their needs and satisfy them completely while working, being a good mother, and remaining gorgeous. Syfers reveals her definition of a wife in a very sarcastic and frustrated manner. Also, the style of the whole paper is very ironic. Almost as if she is screaming, she concludes her essay with, “My God, who wouldn’t want a wife?”(pg.648, 11). The cultural values portrayed in this essay are the value of control and the value of wanting to be loved. The value of control is portrayed in our society by the husband having the control and power over his wife. Because of that control, t...
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Marriage and family life has been changing over the past few decades. Not only has the idea of family and marriage changed, but the way marriage and family are perceived has changed. With the transition from modern times to postmodern times, the typical life has developed in to more of an isolated society, than ever before. The concept of unity and close ties has become almost nonexistent, with the development and progression of technology. Communication has become less personal and less intimate, eliminating the idea of creativity. With the elimination of creativity, because of the development of less personal communication, the chances of meeting someone has become less personal and mo...
In our complex society there are marriages and relationships that succeed and comparably many that do not. Unfortunately, many small conflicts within people do not resolve easily and lead up to divorces and/or break ups. It is unfair to say that particular sex is responsible for all the causes the difficulties in relationships. Therefore, both sides should be analyzed closely to find the flaws within the relationships. Most men think that their girlfriends or wives are the main problem makers, and strongly oppose the fact that they are the problem too. Similarly, women find their own reasons to blame their men for the failures of their relationships. However, everything comes to a point where each person should take a look at their own flaws and also consider the problems in their own sex, that unfortunately cause their marriage to dissolve in the big pot of misunderstanding and confusion. From women's point of view we can see that men are not the perfect human beings, which they think they are. Women come up with countless causes that build up tension between couples. Important of all, men are blamed for every single thing. Major causes that raise difficulties and rifts within relationships are men's irresponsible spending, their habit for gawking at other girls, and that they usually forget special occasions. First of all, a main cause that is commonly identified by many females is that men go for other girls and gawk at them even in their presence. Many conflicts in rela...
The modern career woman's high degree of commitment to her career in the 1990s may be one of the most problematic factors concerning marital satisfaction of both husbands and wives. While the workforce has finally accepted the position of women as interchangeable with that of a man, the same transition still has yet to occur completely and successfully in the household. The dissatisfaction of working wives tends to be a consequence of their expanding, instead of redefined, responsibilities and role as a result of their demanding career. In contrast, husbands' marital dissatisfaction often results from the fact that she is less available for him, to accommodate him, because she does not have the time. Nonetheless, some career women are readily admitting to their husbands that their work comes first.
Every young person aspires to marry or be married. It is a dream that people have throughout childhood and can also be carried into adulthood about the person they will marry, the house they will live in, the number of children they will have and how they will eventually live a happy and satisfying life. Thanks to literature, marriage has always been portrayed as a union of two lovers usually a man and a woman who are legally bound to love each other till death. In the course of the marriage contract, a man and a woman are expected to be happy, love each other, bear many and beautiful children so that they are complete and live together in harmony for the rest of their days. That is what most people have been brought up to believe, that marriage is the source of happiness. The reality is that the institution of marriage brings more sadness than happiness to a person’s life. This paper will explore the difficulties of marriage using the two extracts as evidence in ascertaining that indeed marriage brings more sadness than happiness.
What is a family? A family is two or more people consider themselves to be blood related, or related by marriage, or adoption. Our families are who we love. We as families look different in so many ways. A family’s caregiving unit might have a couple, a mother, a father, and children. A family could also be a single parent and child, a group of siblings, a small or large group of friends. A family defines itself in many different ways. Families are the foundation of how our society and how it works. It is how we come into the world and nurtured and given the tools that we need to go out into our world. We are both capable and healthy or not our families influence our lives either in a good way or a bad way. While families
As humans, we are constantly building relationships with others and meeting new people, but sometimes it 's hard to maintain a relationship with another person, when only one person is engaged in it. All healthy relationships or friendships should be based upon the concepts of caring, supporting, and spending time with each other, and if one person is not able to provide these concepts towards the other person, then the relationship quickly becomes one-sided.