Three Day Challenge Why is it that we don’t see ourselves like others do? I’ve always seen the positive aspects of myself without noticing the negative ones. After spending a few days observing how I was perceived, I realized that I never saw myself the way my friends described me. The impression I leave behind is from the way people view me and how I present myself. I’ve always been a really shy person when it comes to communicating with people I’ve never met in. Ever since middle school I’ve always been the quietest person ever. I was too afraid to talk to a large amount of people. I felt like I would be judged by the way I would talk, therefore, I’d limit my talking in class. The only people I ever felt comfortable talking to was classmates that I already knew from elementary or outside of school. I always felt that I would never make friends for being the way I was, but somehow I made friends along the way. Other than being soft-spoken, I’ve also been a very distant and independent person. I never liked depending on people when it comes to work. Every time teachers would assi...
I have been to so many different schools that I cannot even count them all using all 10 fingers. You would think that by now I would be used to being the new kid, but with every move it just gets harder and harder. I have learned that it is harder to be the new kid when you are older versus when you are younger. As a kid it is cool to be the new kid and everyone wants to be your friend. In high school it is the complete opposite. Unless you approach them, most high school students won’t even bother talking to you. Every time that I think I have finally made a friend, I am almost immediately shot down. I am beginning to feel like I don’t belong
To begin, one of the major reasons that make people who they are is self-image.
I can be kind of closed off and separated from people at first, but once I start to know people and approach them more then I become very open and outgoing. I feel this is a very important aspect of my life, it could be a good thing or a bad thing. One problem that comes from this aspect of me is that it makes it hard for me to meet new people because I always come off as closed off. I see Chuck Nolan as being a very outgoing person and he is not afraid to express himself, that is one difference between me and Chuck, but I feel that in time I could be more open and more approachable as a person like
We often believe that others are more like ourselves than they really are. Thus, our
You are as others see you, yet others do not always see you as you are. With the importance others play on the sense of identity, it's no wonder that peers influence the minds of individuals early on in life. As young toddlers, children do not recognize biological
From society to family to media, external influences never seem to disappear from everyday life. These outward forces tend to leave a lasting impression on us for as long as we live. Because they are so prevalent in our daily lives, exterior factors will have a significant influence on us, specifically our sense of self and happiness. When defining our sense of self, it eventually comes down to how we interpret our individual self-image. In most cases, we do not truly know who we are from our own mindset. Therefore, we take into account the reactions that those around us have an influence on our actions and decisions. From these external effects, we create the persona of who we are. In his article, Immune to Reality, Daniel Gilbert explains
I do not think or see myself as better as others I see us all of equal. I do however see us all on different levels, but not that I need to be in competition with someone. I would often see people’s positive side more and focus on what they can do instead of what they feel could be a negative thing. I will focus on positive qualities of a person and see the bigger picture instead of focusing on the cons.
Ever since I was in middle school, people always told me that I’m quiet and shy. Having said that, I never felt comfortable communicating with people I didn't know that well. That also includes speaking or presenting in front of a class. According to my family and friends, I’m the complete opposite, because they claim that I’m talkative. Being shy and nervous did affect my schoolwork. I wouldn’t raise my hand in class that often, because I didn’t feel comfortable enough. When I was in 6th grade, my teacher would always call up students to share something they liked about a story they read. When the teacher called out my name, my heart started pounding, my hands were shaking and my mind went completely blank. I was so nervous to the point where I felt like I was going to pass out any moment. That’s when I asked the teacher if I could excuse myself to go to the bathroom. She didn’t mind that request so I tried to calm myself down by washing my face and breathing. After class, my teacher and I discussed my inability to present in front of a class. She was obliging, because she agreed to help me overcome being shy and to help boost my self-confidence. Shyness and nervousness also stopped me from participating in activities and obtaining opportunities. In 10th grade, my Chemistry teacher suggested a film festival, because she was aware that I loved filmmaking. At first, I considered the idea, because I’ve never done anything like it before. Having thought about it, I then realized that I was going to have my movie up on a full screen where
I know what it’s like to feel rejected by peers. When I was a child I was very shy and not much of a sociable person. Many people would bully me and too this day I’m still a little terrified by people. I have a hard time trusting others and coming out of my shell. However, when I do I make some amazing friends. What helped me get over some of the torment I faced from elementary through high school were my parents and my religion. My mom always reminded me that I had individual worth and that anyone who didn’t see that was missing out. Constant years of this reminder allowed me to accept my past and move on. By moving on I was able to start making friends this year.
The start of a new school year as a freshmen in high school away from my hometown. Everyone is anxious for this new and fresh start meeting new people and friends. I’m on my way to school very nervous and worried that they might laugh at me. As soon as I enter the class late, everyone stops and stares at me; I walk down the aisle to the nearest empty seat. I sat down quietly throughout my classes in fear that they might notice I’m a, “funny talker,” or that they laugh at me. Everyone avoided talking to me, seat next to me, or even do projects with me. I don’t have a contagious disease; I’m like every other ordinary girl in school. I work hard for my grades, I join organizations, I have no disability, I have control of my body, but I can’t control my stuttering. I’ve had this speech disorder since I was younger. I always had trouble making friends because I stress out and get anxiety trying
I used to be very shy, and not talk to a lot of people. It was a big part of my personality, and I would only talk to someone when spoken to. Wong explains how I acted very well, “My friends and family probably wouldn 't describe me as shy. But for me, being shy has always been about struggling to connect with people I don 't know. I fear the unfamiliarity of a stranger—how they might judge or reject me. Maybe there 's nothing inherently wrong with being timid, but when I started noticing how it affected my everyday life, I wanted to get it under control.” (para. 3). I started getting more and more talkative as I grew older, but one day I decided to change. I began to come out of my comfort zone. For example, I made myself talk more to people even though I was afraid of what I would say, but I made myself do it anyways. This helped me communicate a lot with people, because they began to respect me more, because I would also watch what I would say to them. I still watch what I say most of the time to people because one of my biggest fears is to offend someone on accident because of something that I said. Making myself talk to people more made me a much more outgoing person, which is a big part of who I
I believe that my behavior varies based upon the situation I am placed into. If I am without familiar people in an unfamiliar location or situation where I am forced to speak to others, I will become increasingly nervous or anxious. Therefore, before properly becoming friends with me others may view me as simply quiet or rude because of my lack of words in certain situations. However, when people are genuinely kind and make me feel comfortable around them I tend to somewhat open up. Excluding my introversion in instances where I do not know anyone, I can surprisingly be relaxed and outgoing. When I’m participating in group activates with my friends we all instantly forget I’m even referred to as “the shy one” of the
Are you shy? 1 out of 3 people will answer 'yes' to this question (Carducci, Zimbardo). According to the magazine Psychology Today, shyness is "awkwardness or apprehension some people feel when approaching or being approached by other people". Over the past 40 years, the percentage of people who consider themselves shy has risen to nearly 50% (Henderson). The significant number of shy people has sparked many researchers to find out what causes this so-called symptom. After numerous experiments and researches, it is accepted that there are several factors that can lead to shyness. Moreover, there are many ways to deal with this symptom. Shyness is caused by both social and innate factors; however, there are several ways to overcome it.
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The first step is to develop a healthy mental image of meeting new people. Some of us see meeting new people as a scary event. We are concerned about making a good impression, whether the other person will like us, how to keep the conversation going, and so on. The more we think about it, the scarier it seems. This initial apprehension develops into a mental fear, which takes a life of its own and unknowingly blocks us from making new friends. Shyness toward others is actually a result of fear.