He overlooks Cory?s efforts to please him and make a career for his son, learned from his past with his own father, is responsible for the tension that builds between him and Cory. This tension will eventually be the cause of the lost relationship that is identical to the lost relationship that is identical to the lost relationship between Troy and his father. Troy?s damaging relationship with his father had a dual effect in his life. It created a conscious awareness of how not to conduct his life and built fences, which inevitably recreated his father in his personality. These fences shaped and formed his relationships with his son.
It’s foreshadowing but his “inwardly” attitude and using fists instead of words “ his wives …lived in perpetual fear of his fiery temper, and so did his little children” (13). However some of his actions allow us to glance at the tender and worried individual beneath the despotic and neutral exterior layer tha... ... middle of paper ... ...ple, resists the new political and religious orders because he feels that they are not manly and he himself will not be manly if he converts to join or even stand with them. During his seven-year exile form his village he tried to prove to everyone about him theory of what a man should be like. When Okonkwo hears that his son Nwoye is among the Christians “ where have you been?”…“Answer me”…. “Before I kill you.” (151).
Okonkwo treated everything his father was, kindness and idleness as a weakness that lead to failure. “ Okonkwo was ruled by one passion-to hate everything that his father Unkoa had loved.One of those things was gentleness and another was idleness.”(Achebe,13) since he refused to grow up to be a failure. Okonkwo was a fierce warrior that ruled himself over his masculinity and anger unlike his father. He wanted to be as manly as possible but that lead him to have problems with his eldest son , Nwoye. Nwoye and Okonkwo relation is complex having many different stages but just like Okonkwo and his father it become pieces.
They created an internal fear of losing his worth and becoming like his father- weak and effeminate. Therefore, Okonkwo morphed into a man with a masculine personality and uncontrollable anger. Okonkwo’s flaws enveloped him and controlled his actions- he becomes resistant and unable to bend with the changes taking place in his village. In Achebe’s, Things Fall Apart, the main character Okonkwo self-destructs due to his internal flaws of fear, masculinity, anger and inability to adapt with change. Okonkwo strived to be unlike his effeminate and apathetic father who was referred to as “agbala” or "a man who had taken no title."
Fear takes over Okonkwo’s’ ability to process reason and responsibility, and loses sight of why his village makes certain decisions when changing events make things go astray. Okonkwo feels as though he must maintain a high and respected title in his community, and he does all he can to protect his ego. In addition, his fear of failure causes Okonkwo to impulsively react to events that pose a threat to his chance at high titles and success. Due to Okonkwo’s fear of failure, he dangerously strives for personal achievement and success, which causes him to irrationally react to drastic changes in his Ibo culture and ultimately leads to his downfall. Throughout the novel, Okonkwo’s fear of failure pushes him to have a high and well respected ego in his clan.
The root cause of his fear grow from within him as a child from this insignificant person of his father, Unoka. The want of wanting more and to be this leader for Umuofia, but also to his family. The choice of man to the society or man for himself was what kept the drive of fear in Okonkwo. Within this battle of whom Okonkwo was, he himself presented a ruthless, vigorous, and vicious of “Okonkwo”. This great warrior to the people was the fear side, the insecurities of not wanting to be his father’s image, “his whole life was dominated by fear, the fear of failure and of weakness.
Chinua Achebe’s novel, Things Fall Apart, follows the tragic life of Okonkwo, a man who suffers a miserable fate due to the fear of failure that controls every action he makes. Though the fear of failure acts as motivation to become a successful and respected man at first, it later cripples Okonkwo in such a way that failure ultimately defines his life. Okonkwo is constantly afraid of being a victim of weakness and desperately tries to remain a strong and unyielding man. It is his overwhelming fear of weakness that causes things to fall apart in his life, as his attempts to avoid failure and weakness eventually lead to the ultimate defeat: his shameful suicide. Fear of failure and weakness dominates Okonkwo throughout his life.
In the case of Okonkwo, it was the latter. Because Okonkwo did not want to follow in his father’s footsteps as a lazy, gentle, and poor man, he decided to create his own legacy. Some may consider this honorable; but as Okonkwo’s character evolves, it is clear that he is crippled by his own desire to escape his father’s shadow. He envisioned his father as weak but his own mindset in turn has weakened him in many areas. This is the narrative in Chinua Achebe’s Things Fall Apart.
It was slow and painful. But he threw himself into it like one possessed. And indeed he was possessed by the fear of his father's contemptible life and shameful death" (Achebe, 18). Okonkwo is consciously opposed to anything perceived as feminine or soft. He struggles to be as different from his deceased father as possible.
Due to Okonkwo’s fear of becoming his father, he found himself struggling with his identity as both a father and leader in Umofia. As a father, he noticed that none of his sons met his expectations because they failed to take responsibility for their actions, fulfill their duties in the field, and acted more like their mothers. Therefore, Okonkwo often wondered whether he was “cashing in my (his) bad luck” (line 1). In other words, he was questioning whether he was a suitable father or if he was worse than his own father. Meanwhile, in his village, he was seen as a great leader.